What rule did you break?

crash2729 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What rule did you break? : This annoys me.
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]
I second this.

Also? I wish I would have had known so many people were printing their envelopes. I would have much rather done that than hand write 70 sets of invites.

Girlie1030 · July 2012

My H tiered the reception, via FB no less.

I printed the invitation envelopes.

We did not do assigned seating.

pokepoke27 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What rule did you break? : I'm a heathen I guess. I don't see the problem with that at all, at that's PRECISELY what my FI and I plan on doing too! Buwahahahaha!!! *breakin' the law! breakin' the law!*
Posted by icefog34[/QUOTE]

<div>Huh. Okay. </div>

dumdumfroggie · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What rule did you break? : I'm a heathen I guess. I don't see the problem with that at all, at that's PRECISELY what my FI and I plan on doing too! Buwahahahaha!!! *breakin' the law! breakin' the law!*
Posted by icefog34[/QUOTE]

<div>That's a lot of enthusiasm.</div>

pokepoke27 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What rule did you break? : I second this. Also? I wish I would have had known so many people were printing their envelopes. I would have much rather done that than hand write 70 sets of invites.
Posted by crash2729[/QUOTE]

<div>My mommy offered to write mine because she's got super pretty handwriting. Otherwise I would have just done it because I fail at trying to get things like lables and envelopes to print right. If it's not normal paper size I can't freaking do it. And I only had like 36 invitations to go out, most of my guests were parties of 3 or more so that was pretty good. </div>

J&K10910 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What rule did you break? : I'm a heathen I guess. I don't see the problem with that at all, at that's PRECISELY what my FI and I plan on doing too! Buwahahahaha!!! *breakin' the law! breakin' the law!*
Posted by icefog34[/QUOTE]

Are you this socially awkward IRL too?

rsaleh84 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What rule did you break? : I second this. Also? I wish I would have had known so many people were printing their envelopes. I would have much rather done that than hand write 70 sets of invites.
Posted by crash2729[/QUOTE]

I have pretty handwriting for about 4.3 minutes, and then it starts to slant and get all sleepy, so I will be printing the names and addresses...for sure!

icefog34 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What rule did you break? : This annoys me.
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]
sweeeet. I don't know, I believe ettiquete ABSOLUTELY has it's place. I joke about being a heathen, but I'm not. Times have changed so tremendously though that I doubt anybody could be offended by skipping a freaking piece of paper seperate from the wedding invite, that specifies reception location. Seriously? People get butthurt over this?? I'm not going to sit there and put information about gifts or no gifts, cash bar only, that sort of stuff but I seriously doubt the world is going to end because I don't feel like spending money on extra paper that I think is superfluous. Saving trees here! You're welcome.

KellyBrian2013 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What rule did you break? : My mommy offered to write mine because she's got super pretty handwriting. Otherwise I would have just done it <strong>because I fail at trying to get things like lables and envelopes to print right.</strong> If it's not normal paper size I can't freaking do it. And I only had like 36 invitations to go out, most of my guests were parties of 3 or more so that was pretty good.
Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]

TBH, we had planned to handwrite all of them but the store we ordered them from offered to print the addresses in ink color/font to match the invites at something like 45-cents per envelope so we jumped at that. If not for the store doing it, they would have all been hand written because I can't figure out that stuff for the life of me either.

pokepoke27 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What rule did you break? : sweeeet. I don't know, I believe ettiquete ABSOLUTELY has it's place. I joke about being a heathen, but I'm not. Times have changed so tremendously though that I doubt anybody could be offended by skipping a freaking piece of paper seperate from the wedding invite, that specifies reception location. Seriously? People get butthurt over this?? I'm not going to sit there and put information about gifts or no gifts, cash bar only, that sort of stuff but I seriously doubt the world is going to end because I don't feel like spending money on extra paper that I think is superfluous. Saving trees here! You're welcome.
Posted by icefog34[/QUOTE]

<div>I think you missed the point. </div>

icefog34 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What rule did you break? : That's a lot of enthusiasm.
Posted by dumdumfroggie[/QUOTE]
It was a good day at the gym, what can I say....

brandichamberlain · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What rule did you break? : sweeeet. I don't know, I believe ettiquete ABSOLUTELY has it's place. I joke about being a heathen, but I'm not. Times have changed so tremendously though that I doubt anybody could be offended by skipping a freaking piece of paper seperate from the wedding invite, that specifies reception location. Seriously? People get butthurt over this?? I'm not going to sit there and put information about gifts or no gifts, cash bar only, that sort of stuff but I seriously doubt the world is going to end because I don't feel like spending money on extra paper that I think is superfluous. Saving trees here! You're welcome.
Posted by icefog34[/QUOTE]

I'm fairly sure she wasn't annoyed by you breaking etiquette as much as the actual post.

dumdumfroggie · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What rule did you break? : sweeeet. I don't know, I believe ettiquete ABSOLUTELY has it's place. I joke about being a heathen, but I'm not. Times have changed so tremendously though that I doubt anybody could be offended by skipping a freaking piece of paper seperate from the wedding invite, that specifies reception location. Seriously? People get butthurt over this?? I'm not going to sit there and put information about gifts or no gifts, cash bar only, that sort of stuff but I seriously doubt the world is going to end because I don't feel like spending money on extra paper that I think is superfluous. Saving trees here! You're welcome.
Posted by icefog34[/QUOTE]<div>
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</div><div>The point..................................................................................................You

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specialk84 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What rule did you break? : sweeeet. I don't know, I believe ettiquete ABSOLUTELY has it's place. I joke about being a heathen, but I'm not. Times have changed so tremendously though that I doubt anybody could be offended by skipping a freaking piece of paper seperate from the wedding invite, that specifies reception location. Seriously? People get butthurt over this?? I'm not going to sit there and put information about gifts or no gifts, cash bar only, that sort of stuff but I seriously doubt the world is going to end because I don't feel like spending money on extra paper that I think is superfluous. Saving trees here! You're welcome.
Posted by icefog34[/QUOTE]

<div>I think you completely missed my point.</div><div>
</div><div>1. Extra punctuation is annoying.</div><div>2. Having your reception in the same place does not require a separate card.</div><div>3. The rest of the inserts (accommodations, maps, etc.) are not required. </div><div>4. Registry information NEVER goes on a wedding invitation.</div><div>5. Cash bars are rude.</div>

HandBanana · July 2012

We had a shower thrown for us after we had been living together for over a year, head table, the GM wore tuxes before 6, or is it 5?, didn't have a seperate reception card, we had a significant break between ceremony and reception, MIL hosted food and beverages but it is still an etiquette no no, and my thank yous for the wedding were late. I will say I am proud that my shower thank yous were done and mailed in under 5 days.

icefog34 · July 2012

I'm not socially awkward, I just voice my opinion like you ladies are free to do as well. Everyone is entitled to see things how they see them. I'm certainly not criticizing anyone on here for feeling the way that they do am I? I appreciate your opinions and often times lurk on the ettiquet board for guidance and take some of it to heart. Just don't agree with everything. If that makes me socially awkward or a jerk or a whatever, then so be it.

tpender13 · July 2012

We had beer and wine hosted, liquor available for purchase. Like Mpls/StPaul PPs, it's pretty common here. I know many people who don't drink beer or wine, and would rather be able to buy a cocktail than go sober. Whatevs.

I invited a couple coworkers last-minute. Well, about a week or so before the wedding. We had a couple unexpected declines. When they asked where I was registered so they could get me something, I told them that we weren't registered anywhere, and to not bother with a gift since it was so last-minute. *meh*

hoffse · July 2012

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[QUOTE]I'm not socially awkward, I just voice my opinion like you ladies are free to do as well. Everyone is entitled to see things how they see them. I'm certainly not criticizing anyone on here for feeling the way that they do am I? I appreciate your opinions and often times lurk on the ettiquet board for guidance and take some of it to heart. Just don't agree with everything. If that makes me socially awkward or a jerk or a whatever, then so be it.
Posted by icefog34[/QUOTE]

<div>Etiquette rarely involves opinions - it's far more objective than that.</div>

J&K10910 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]We had a shower thrown for us after we had been living together for over a year, head table, the GM wore tuxes before 6, or is it 5?, didn't have a seperate reception card, we had a significant break between ceremony and reception, MIL hosted food and beverages but it is still an etiquette no no, and my thank yous for the wedding were late. I will say I am proud that my shower thank yous were done and mailed in under 5 days.
Posted by HandBanana[/QUOTE]

Uh, having a shower when you're living together is not a faux pas, and neither is a gap if there is something hosted. If there is something hosted, there is not a gap.

AND Icefog? THE WORD IS ETIQUETTE. It's all over the damn page.

pokepoke27 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]I'm not socially awkward, I just voice my opinion like you ladies are free to do as well. Everyone is entitled to see things how they see them. I'm certainly not criticizing anyone on here for feeling the way that they do am I? I appreciate your opinions and often times lurk on the ettiquet board for guidance and take some of it to heart. Just don't agree with everything. If that makes me socially awkward or a jerk or a whatever, then so be it.
Posted by icefog34[/QUOTE]

<div>Again, I think you missed the point. </div>

specialk84 · July 2012

Do people not actually know what's rude, or are they just grasping at straws?

WTF is wrong with having a shower if you've been living together?

Maggie0829 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]If your reception is held at the same location, you don't need another card. Maggie, you're fine. Also, I like your sig. You, your dress, and your flowers are pretty.
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

Well that is good to know for future reference, just in case any my friends are wondering. But even if it was in a different location I probably would just put the info at the bottom of the invite...saving the trees and all that jazz, plus knowing my guests that were invited the only person who would have had a comment about it would have been my Mom :)

And thanks for the nice comment about my sig! I would love to comment on many people's sigs but for some reason my work tends to block a lot (almost all) of them out.

icefog34 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What rule did you break? : I'm fairly sure she wasn't annoyed by you breaking etiquette as much as the actual post.
Posted by brandichamberlain[/QUOTE]
That could very well be. Not everyone shares my "sense of humor", nor do they recognize lines from old t.v. shows, lol

J&K10910 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Do people not actually know what's rude, or are they just grasping at straws? WTF is wrong with having a shower if you've been living together?
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

There are a ton of things in this thread where I'm going "Huh? That's an etiquette rule? Who knew?"

aragx6 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Do people not actually know what's rude, or are they just grasping at straws? WTF is wrong with having a shower if you've been living together?
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

Not sure, but we've been living together for seven years and I'm sure as shiitt having a shower (I mean, since someone offered to throw me one that is)

J&K10910 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What rule did you break? : That could very well be. Not everyone shares my "sense of humor", nor do they recognize lines from old t.v. shows, lol
Posted by icefog34[/QUOTE]

Yes, that must be it, lol

pokepoke27 · July 2012

I didn't think that wearing a tux before 5 was an etiquette rule. I thought it was more of a fashion thing. Maybe?

HandBanana · July 2012

In Response to Re:What rule did you break?:[QUOTE]In Response to Re:What rule did you break?:We had a shower thrown for us after we had been living together for over a year...
Posted by HandBanana
This is an etiquette breach? Never heard that before. Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

It is and it isn't. My mom didn't want me to have one but my MIL talked to her about how it would be really helpful for us and pretty much everyone else still has showers for people that live together. Another etiquette brrach I forgot! My MIL and mom paid for and planned my shower. They listed the BMs as hosting on the invites. My MIL and mom knew my BM didn't have money to throw me a shower so they paid.

aragx6 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What rule did you break? : Well that is good to know for future reference, just in case any my friends are wondering. But even if it was in a different location I probably would just put the info at the bottom of the invite...saving the trees and all that jazz, plus knowing my guests that were invited the only person who would have had a comment about it would have been my Mom :) And thanks for the nice comment about my sig! <strong>I would love to comment on many people's sigs but for some reason my work tends to block a lot (almost all) of them out.
</strong>Posted by Maggie0829[/QUOTE]

Mine does that too! I think it's everything from Photobucket -- I can't even see my own (but I know my pup is there nonetheless!)

icefog34 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_what-rule-did-you-break?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:33a70e7f-174a-4925-88b9-8bf3965121bePost:ae6c40af-40d6-4fe4-b263-48337cce04dc">Re: What rule did you break?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What rule did you break? : I think you completely missed my point. 1. Extra punctuation is annoying. 2. Having your reception in the same place does not require a separate card. 3. The rest of the inserts (accommodations, maps, etc.) are not required. 4. Registry information NEVER goes on a wedding invitation. 5. Cash bars are rude.
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]
I concur with your points........

What rule did you break?

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