Registry Items Question

mangobadango · October 2010

DF and I have been creating our registry at Target and I'm having a hard time with his view on the way to register. I'm thinking it is going to come off as greedy.

When we were registering for certain items he would register for two or three different kinds of said item (i.e. three different spice racks). Personally I don't want three different spice racks and while I know we are going to have to return some items I don't want people buying something thinking we need it when in reality we really don't. His reasoning for registering for multiple types is to give people options.

He also registered for a new tv. I really don't think that anyone will buy us one, and if they do great, but he didn't just register for one, he registered for three different tvs, and three different PS3s. I feel like this is pushing it and if I looked at a registry with all of this I might find the couple a little greedy in their registry.

But, I want to get other opinions. I'm pretty sure at this point I will be going through and deleting a lot of items from the registry.

Thanks for the opinions/advice.

[Deleted User] · October 2010

This is something you will definitely get mixed opinions on. I am in the camp where I believe registering for things other than household items is just being gift grabby and greedy. To me, it comes across that you are throwing the wedding, but now need someone to furnish your house and supply your entertainment needs.

And registering for a multiples of things is just dumb IMO. You are just asking for a whole lot of errands to return things and you will likely get store credit. Store credit isn't bad, but it isn't likely you will be getting cash or anything.

You are starting your life together, so the items you register for should be household and cooking things. While it is ok to put a vaccum or other expensive items on the registry, I definitely would not buy a tv as a wedding gift for anyone. It is also wise to have a nice price range of items on your registry.

katiewhompus · October 2010

H put a Wii on ours (which we got for Christmas) but other than that it was all house stuff.

I don't think it's greedy to put 3 of each thing, but it might result in more gift cards. I recently went to a wedding where she had scanned 1 of each brand of a thing (serving spoon, silverwear, etc) so I wasn't sure what she actually wanted. I ended up getting her 1 spoon and a gift card.

Moneypenny424 · October 2010

I think it is silly to put 3 of the same type of item on the registry. Like PP said, the point of the registry is to let me know what YOU want. If not, I would just buy you something I think you'll like and not consult the registry.

In terms of people having "choice," you need to give people a range of prices to choose from. Only registering for expensive things isn't cool, but as along as you have some variety, I think that is enough choice for your guests.

Simply Fated · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_registry-items-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:01e5b715-e736-477a-88ee-fa1aa6e25f7cPost:4e7202d0-662c-47df-a93a-8a4f1997e7ad">Re: Registry Items Question</a>:
[QUOTE]I've heard Target is a really hard store to return gifts to... Just another thing to think about.
Posted by MsLaura31[/QUOTE]
Yeah, don't they have a mandatory receipt policy?

What are you going to do with three spice racks? Pick one and go with it.
To me, gift registries are something to help guests use as a guide when trying to decide what to buy you. Wedding gifts, in my opinion, should be things to help the couple start their life out together... things people use to help keep house. TV's and video are for recreational purposes and make great for birthday and Christmas presents, but not wedding presents. Same with excercise equiptment and dvd's.
Just my opinion, though. :)

smsimpson · October 2010

I dont' have a problem with a TV or even a PS3, but three of each seems weird.

I have only registered for the things I would like in my house. I don't really plan on returning anything I get since I only registered for one brand of each item. Actually the only thing I had mutiple brands of were towels because they are all pretty much the same and there were a couple different price ranges. But even if we got every towel I registered for I wouldn't return any since I didn't register for any more than we could use. If you don't need 3 different spice racks then I would remove a couple. (I just realized that I have been saying "I" registered etc, and although it may sound like its all about me and what I want, my FI hates to shop and refused to be a part of the registry process which was actually kind of difficult to be honest. I like that your FI has been a part of deciding)

I think your FI is confused about the idea of variety and choise. The variety and choice is more so about price range and different items to choose from as opposed to chosing one of three spice racks or TVs or whatever. I thought the whole point of having a registry is to make gift shopping easy. Like PP said, having to decide which one we think you would like better seems difficult and I wouldn't want to choose for you.

sister2groom · October 2010

People don't care enough about the finish on your spice rack. And if two people buy spice racks, which do you return?

NIKIKRUISE · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_registry-items-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:01e5b715-e736-477a-88ee-fa1aa6e25f7cPost:4e7202d0-662c-47df-a93a-8a4f1997e7ad">Re: Registry Items Question</a>:
[QUOTE]I've heard Target is a really hard store to return gifts to... Just another thing to think about.
Posted by MsLaura31[/QUOTE]

I was going to say the exact same thing.

mysticl · October 2010

The TV and PS3 wouldn't bother me but 3 of them would, just seems a little greedy or like you are planning to hit ebay with them afterwards. Also, when you put 3 of an item on a registry I'm going to assume that you want all 3 of those items. So if I'm shopping and see that one spice rack has been purchased and the other 2 haven't been I may get you one of the two remaining ones because you said you want it. And then I'm going to wonder why you would want 3 different ones. Oh, and this would be one of the registries I show to all my friends for a WTF moment.

mangobadango · October 2010

I'm thinking of showing it to people before I make changes to it for the WTF factor, I won't do it but definitely tempted to and had a laugh about it with my girlfriends tonight.

mangobadango · October 2010

Thank you everyone for confirming what my exact thoughts were and for the additional info about Target registries, like the 10% coupon and the difficulty in returning. I am going to go through and delete a bunch of the items tonight, especially the tvs. I will be leaving one of the TVs on there only because of the 10% off coupon. That takes away the sales tax if we decide to buy it after the wedding.

FI understands why items are being deleted. I figured I would let him have his fun scanning the items that he wanted and knew I would be going through and deleting items. But I do think the registering for the three spice racks will be a running joke for awhile.

smore154 · October 2010

My FI does something similar- but I won't allow multiple things on there. He actually likes to register for the most expensive ________. Whatever it is, sheets, towels, kitchen gadgets etc in hopes that people won't want to spend that kind of money, and just give us money instead. I go back through and actually register for things we need, and then just remove what he put on the registry when we get home LOL.

mkrupar · October 2010

I don't have anything to add on the registry issue, but mangobadango your screen name makes me laugh and it's fun to say in my head.

mangobadango · October 2010

mkrupar~ Thats why I chose it, it makes me laugh. And is exremely fun to say.

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