help!!

luvthebride11 · June 2010

Problem number 1: Picking our date(again). We had to postpone and now we can't find a date that works for us and our families and also the rest of the freaking town. It seems like everyone is getting married and the months of may and june are completely booked for everything in our town! It's driving me insane...

Problem number 2: I wanted to have the reception at our farm, in and outside of the barn. But that means I have to rent tables, chairs, linens, silverware, etc, which will most likely cost me an arm and a leg. So now we are looking for reception sites that have all that but allow for us to bring in our own caterer, because we already have one of those and for a steal too!!

Do anyone know of any "down home country type" reception places, because we will be roasting a pig and having BBQ and stuff like that!

Thanks for the help!

pirategal03 · June 2010

What area of NC?

luvthebride11 · June 2010

Greensboro/High Point area

Beth0882 · June 2010

Off the top of my head I know there is the Hayloft in McLeansville and Bryan Park has a building they rent out for receptions. I think Leigh Anne (GirlieGirl) is getting married there....if not her, someone is!

caseyeverhart · June 2010

My little brother got married last year at Bur-Mil Park in the country club thing. They got married outside at like a terrace and then right behind us was the country club. Not country club golfish, more like just a place to have a reception (hard to explain!)

FutureMrsFraser · June 2010

Problem number 1: Did you read our responses on this question the last time you posted it? I really don't think anyone here can give you any more advice than what has already been given.

Problem number 2: The only advice I can offer is to shop around. If you want to have it at the barn, have it there. You can buy linens from efavormart.com for cheaper than renting. And I don't think you'd need to rent silverwear or china for a BBQ "down home country type" reception, I would think that would be too formal for the cusine. So without those things you would be renting tables and chairs, which wouldn't cost too much.

By the way, alot of venues don't include linens, silverwear or china, so you might be renting those things anyway unless you find some place that's all inclusive with catering in house, and usually those places are expensive.

I think overall, renting the chairs and tables, and buying the linens, plastic wear and plates would be much cheaper than getting another venue. Think about how much you'll be saving beacuse you aren't having to pay to rent the barn.

*By the way, I'm having a crappy day, so I apologize if I seem snarky, it's not intentional.

manda4paws · June 2010

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[QUOTE]Problem number 1: Picking our date(again). We had to postpone and now we can't find a date that works for us and our families and also the rest of the freaking town. It seems like everyone is getting married and the months of may and june are completely booked for everything in our town! It's driving me insane... Problem number 2: I wanted to have the reception at our farm, in and outside of the barn. But that means I have to rent tables, chairs, linens, silverware, etc, which will most likely cost me an arm and a leg. <strong>So now we are looking for reception sites that have all that but allow for us to bring in our own caterer, because we already have one of those and for a steal too!!</strong>Do anyone know of any "down home country type" reception places, because we will be roasting a pig and having BBQ and stuff like that! Thanks for the help!
Posted by luvthebride11[/QUOTE]

1. agree with pp, we already addressed this in your post yesterday. unless you are wanting us to pick the date for you, advice has already been given and you just are going to have to pick a date and stick with it. the longer you put it off the more circles you are going to spin in.

2. how do you already have a caterer but haven't picked a date yet?

FutureMrsFraser · June 2010

haha... Amanda. I didn't even notice that before in the OP. Yeah, I don't get that either...

manda4paws · June 2010

well i wasn't trying to be sarcastic at all, i was just wondering....i really think its worth looking into on the rentals b/c sometimes caterers have contacts and work together with rental companies.

how many guests are you looking at? usually chairs run about 2.50 a chair (that is what i paid) and with under 100 guests i would think the rentals would be mroe affordable than renting a place out...either way its going to be factored in your price someway. you can buy linens cheap online and sell them afterwards. also you don't need to "rent" silverware, plates, etc...my catering company provided "fancy" plastic ware for us. you can even buy your own at sams.

i think first and foremost you and FI need to set a date and stick to it. the people who want to be a part of your day and support you will be there for you. look at it this way.....if you were having a baby, would you plan your delivery around everyone else???? if you have to pee do you make sure its okay with everyone else before you go to the bathroom?? you are engaged so marriage is a "fact of life" it is going to happen and NEEDS to happen if you ever want to get on with your life. you can't plan your life around everyone else, i can almost bet most of them aren't planning their lives around yours!! hence, the fact they are all giving you dates for your wedding that are convenient for them....i am pretty sure that they didn't check with you before they set a date for their wedding!

MGC1213 · June 2010

You should use your barn and rent the stuff it will all come out to be the same price if you went to a venue, they include all of that in there price this would just make a little more work for you if you can handle it. It's what I'm doing just because I love the venue so much!

ecuchika · June 2010

Ok I'm just making sure that I wasn't reading the same post I read the other day. I knew this sounded very very familiar. And how can your cater commit when you don't have a date set?

To me it sounds like you could really save money by having the venue at your barn. Most caters provide the option to rent linens/china/flatware/glasses I know mine does. Then you have chairs and tables left to rent and depending on how nice of chairs you want and how many you need its not going to cost more than a few hundred (2.50X100=$250) thats a heck of a lot cheaper than renting a venue. How about borrowing tables from your church? They will be covered by table clothes. Also, you could have assigned ppl move the chairs from the cermony site to the recpetion site. You also said you wanted a BBQ so that will be cheaper than most meals.

Personally barn wedding are beautiful and if its your barn (not rented) you have more freedom and you can take your time. There are so many neat cheap(budget frinendly) DIY ideas you can get from TK.

Maybe its just me but I really don't get it on why its so hard for you to pick your date. You are lucky enough to have a venue owned personally by family so you really aren't having to compete with other brides; have contracts with venues and deal with their rules. Again best of luck.

GirlieGirl27320 · June 2010

I would stick with your barn because it will more than likely be more suited to what you are looking for especially if you plan to bring in your own food. We are getting married at Bryan Park and really thought we could use our own food, but we found out differently. They have their own in-house caterer and a small list of others that they allow in, but no other outside food can be brought in (except the cake). The food price is what is killing me with our budget. I really think we could have gotten a better deal elsewhere, and now, I am really wishing that we had looked a little harder to find a venue that we loved, but where we could take in our own food. Our food bill is separate from the venue itself...which is not cheap either, so if you have a free venue (minus the chairs, tables, etc.) I would stick with that and just pay to rent the accessories you need.

CLTKate · June 2010

The easiest solution to the date issue is to choose a non-Saturday date. If you choose a Sunday date, you would have more options for venues and vendors. Our date is on a Wednesday

I can run your birth charts and 2011 transits during the months of May/June to see which week would be the best for your wedding date. Message me if interested. We gave up our first choice of wedding dates because there were too many bad omens for us on that date.

manda4paws · June 2010

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[QUOTE]The easiest solution to the date issue is to choose a non-Saturday date. If you choose a Sunday date, you would have more options for venues and vendors. Our date is on a Wednesday :) <strong>I can run your birth charts and 2011 transits during the months of May/June to see which week would be the best for your wedding date. Message me if interested. We gave up our first choice of wedding dates because there were too many bad omens for us on that date.
</strong>Posted by CLTKate[/QUOTE]

WHAT!?!?! (confused) what does running a birth chart mean and bad omens??? and what does that have to do with her picking a wedding date????
{{totally scratching nad shaking my head right now}}

CLTKate · June 2010

Amanda- it would take me forever to explain it here. If you're curious, try googling planetary transit predictions. You can find accurate transits on the NASA site.

manda4paws · June 2010

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[QUOTE]Amanda- it would take me forever to explain it here. If you're curious, try googling planetary transit predictions. You can find accurate transits on the NASA site.
Posted by CLTKate[/QUOTE]

ok, gotcha....googled....it's astrology {done scratching head}...makes sense now

i saw something about birth chart and that made me think of some kind of medical chart and then read bad omen and went HUH??? lol

CLTKate · June 2010

a hobby of mine since I was a teenager. Dont really have time for it now though

manda4paws · June 2010

i TOTALLY understand!!! i thought after the wedding things would slow down so DH and I could actually sit back and enjoy some of the smaller things in life....we have started to get back into animal rescue but trust me time has not slowed down for us at all! i feel like i just got married this weekend and it has almost been a month!

CLTKate · June 2010

everything changes when u grow up

have to make time for hobbies around work and family, it isnt easy... animal rescue must be a lot of work, but also so rewarding!

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