Shower Etiquette Question

Raches003 · June 2012

A few important people in my life offered to host a bridal shower in my honor. One of them is my great aunt. My MOH was in charge of invites and named the hosts in alphabetical order on the invite. It happens to be that my great aunt's name is "last" on the list. She is now fuming mad and is telling me that she feels disrespected and is backing out on doing the shower.

When she first started this fiasco my feelings were really hurt and I tried to justify the name order. Keep in mind, I didn't make the invites! She OFFERED to host a shower. She also agreed that it made more sense to have one shower where everybody would team up and do one shower, rather than inviting some of the same people to multiple showers.

Am I missing something? Isn't it perfectly ok to list names in ABC order?

aragx6 · June 2012

You shouldn't be involved in this at all. She sounds like she's being a pain in the ass, but refuse to be involved in the drama and hopefully it will calm down.

wrigleyville · June 2012

Your great aunt is overreacting and forgetting to look at the big picture. She was honored and mentioned. That should be enough for her.

Summer2011Bride · June 2012

I don't think it was a big deal at all and your Aunt is overreacting. However, I'd stay out of it, since you are not involved with hosting the shower. Maybe she takes some time to calm down and gets over herself, maybe she continues to fume and backs out of helping host the shower. Either way, that's on her and that's her choice. As long as the other hostesses still are going through with the shower, just let them plan it, show up and thank them for hosting. If your Aunt ends up hosting as well, same advice.

Raches003 · June 2012

She is FUMING mad, saying all sorts of things just to be mean. Saying that she isn't coming to the wedding, that she feels slapped in the face, and carrying on about the whole thing. I feel bad that other people are having to put up with her and this outburst. My MOH and other people involved did NOT sign up for this kind of drama!

aragx6 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_shower-etiquette-question-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:ef065c63-9bcc-4dcc-a9f0-1b794ad77968Post:77ad64e2-1559-41ad-aaac-1df2021d7c80">Re: Shower Etiquette Question</a>:
[QUOTE]She is FUMING mad, saying all sorts of things just to be mean. Saying that she isn't coming to the wedding, that she feels slapped in the face, and carrying on about the whole thing. I feel bad that other people are having to put up with her and this outburst. My MOH and other people involved did NOT sign up for this kind of drama!
Posted by Raches003[/QUOTE]

She doesn't sound like someone I'd want involved in anything anyway. She's beyond self righteous. If she cared so much about the fuucking invitations why didn't she do them herself? And why in the hell would she not come to the wedding because of it. I still don't understand why she's involving you at all.

lily_721 · June 2012

Someone had to be listed last -- alphabetically seems logical. She should have planned better when she married and picked an "Abbott"

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