We want to have an adults only reception for multiple reasons, but what is the age cut-off for a "child"? I have a fifteen and a seventeen year old cousin that are very close to my family and I wouldn't think of excluding, but does that mean that I have to include everyone's kids? Including the other cousins that aren't as close? (I have 16 first cousins and most have kids themselves) If everyone brings their kids, there'll be at least 20 of them! Also, most of our guests will be coming from out of town, so what will they do with their kids? Should I try to coordinate babysitting in the hotel?
Re: How does an "adults only" reception work?
I didn't invite my first cousin's young kids because I didn't want kids beyond the FG/RB and their siblings (who also happened to be my niece, nephew and 2 first cousins which was another easy cut-off). I don't think anyone cared.
You could verbally ask a few cousins if they'd be interested in babysitting and see what they say about it. Some might not be comfortable and will choose to either leave kids at home with babysitters or relatives for the weekend or may also choose not to come.
Also FI has just one cousin with a child (also a teenager). Which would make her a second cousin! But since FI's family is so small (only 10 of them total!), she would be missed.
You don't flat-out tell the cousins that their kids aren't invited (unless they ask), but you only write the parents' names on the invites. If they add in their kids when they send in the RSVP, you'll have to call and politely tell them that the invitation is for the parents only and that you hope they can still make it.
[QUOTE]You're in a great situation then! Cut off for your family is first cousins. Cut off for FI's family can be different and no one will be the wiser. You don't flat-out tell the cousins that their kids aren't invited (unless they ask), but you only write the parents' names on the invites. If they add in their kids when they send in the RSVP, you'll have to call and politely tell them that the invitation is for the parents only and that you hope they can still make it.
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I did something similar to this. My cut off line was also at first cousins...for both his family and mine. We only put those invited on the invite and tried to pass to information around through word of mouth (mostly through our parents). We did have a few that added a couple on the RSVP and my parents ended up contacting these people to explain the situation. Noone seemed to mind and understood that we had to cut off somewhere. We also used the excuse that the venue would feel more comfortable with everyone being over 21 because of open bar.
Does anyone think it's acceptable to write that it is an adult only reception on our wedding website??
If you decide to include any information on your website, just be very careful/creative how you word it (ex... "No rugrats allowed" is probably not a good idea. Not going to lie... I've actually seen it. lol).
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