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TKzilla
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Bad Advice
My junior bridesmaid's mom called me tonight with LOTS of questions, comments and concerns. I did my best to answer them but I really just wanted to be like "Hey, it hasn't even been a week, can we cool it on the wedding stuff for a minute?" But I talked to her for twenty minutes. She wanted to know what shoes I preferred ("whatever Louie is comfortable wearing. Please don't let her wear heels, she's 9.") and what I thought they should do with her hair ("whatever you guys want. Just bring a picture for the stylist and I'll pay for it") and so on and so on and so on.
Then she says "We got your invitation and will send the RSVP back to your mom". Cool. Then she told me she had THE BEST WEDDING ADVICE EVER OMG I WILL SO THANK HER FOR THIS.
She said "For every RSVP you receive with "regrets", send out another invitation to someone you wanted to invite but didn't have space for. That's what we did for my wedding!"
* pinches nose *
I said "Well, we actually invited everyone we wanted to attend so we don't really have a B-list, if that's what you mean. I made sure we invited the people we love and had room for at our venue in case we wind up with 100% attendance. Oh, dinner's ready, gotta go! TTYL!"
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[QUOTE]My junior bridesmaid's mom called me tonight with LOTS of questions, comments and concerns. I did my best to answer them but I really just wanted to be like "Hey, it hasn't even been a week, can we cool it on the wedding stuff for a minute?" But I talked to her for twenty minutes. She wanted to know what shoes I preferred ("whatever Louie is comfortable wearing. Please don't let her wear heels, she's 9.") and what I thought they should do with her hair ("whatever you guys want. Just bring a picture for the stylist and I'll pay for it") and so on and so on and so on. Then she says "We got your invitation and will send the RSVP back to your mom". Cool. Then she told me she had THE BEST WEDDING ADVICE EVER OMG I WILL SO THANK HER FOR THIS. She said "For every RSVP you receive with "regrets", send out another invitation to someone you wanted to invite but didn't have space for. That's what we did for my wedding!" * pinches nose * I said "Well, we actually invited everyone we wanted to attend so we don't really have a B-list, if that's what you mean. I made sure we invited the people we love and had room for at our venue in case we wind up with 100% attendance. Oh, dinner's ready, gotta go! TTYL!"
Posted by CourtaniaLynn[/QUOTE]
what is a junior bridesmaid?
[QUOTE]In Response to Bad Advice : what is a junior bridesmaid?
Posted by coolwhipz1[/QUOTE]
<div>It's pretty much a made-up term. She's like my kid sister (but not biologically), and she's nine years old. She told ME she was too old to be a flower girl but too little to be a bridesmaid. When I told her about the concept of "junior bridesmaid", she was like "YES THAT'S ME OMG CAN I?!" It's a real point of contention for some people (a bridesmaid is a bridesmaid is a bridesmaid) but she insisted on the "junior" part, so who am I to tell her otherwise? :) </div>
[QUOTE]Haha, that's classic. I think the "best" bad wedding advice I got was from H's brother. "oh, they just say no alcohol because they're worried about drunk people. They probably won't even know if you just bring it in anyway." "They" being H's childhood church where we still attend several times a year, who had already allowed us to bring in our own officiant, cut the price of the reception venue in half, AND given us a free extra day in it so we could prep the food. Yeah, I don't think I'm going to risk mortally offending them AND breaking our contract, but thanks bro!
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
<div>LMAO awww c'mon what's the worst that could happen? How could ANYONE notice suddenly drunk people?!</div>
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[QUOTE]My favorite gem: you should definitely be prepared to have anyone who is wearing white thrown out.
Posted by rachelm13[/QUOTE]
<div>No lie, my fMIL showed me a dress and said, "Look it has the same skirt as your wedding gown, but this one is BLACK!" I nearly choked before she told me she was kidding. Thank god. (The skirt on my dress is pretty distinctive...)</div>
[QUOTE]Not bad manners, but H and I briefly considered a destination wedding in the bahamas. H's aunt suggested he wear a full tux on top and tux pants hemmed into shorts. H is 33, by the way.
Posted by Harry87[/QUOTE]
Haha. I'm having a destination wedding. i may have to present this to my FI as an option. Apparently the only thing we don't totally agree on is what he will be wearing. But, in the end, he doesn't get to pick my dress, so I don't get to pick his tux.
[QUOTE]We got a lot of weird pieces of commentary about what we "needed" in order to have a wedding. My favorite is when my family tried like crazy to talk us out of providing seating for our small outdoor ceremony. We paid for it and they're the ones who benefitted from it. I still have no clue why they were so set against sitting down.
Posted by Schatzi13[/QUOTE]
<div>I'm having the same battle with my parents right now. They are convinced the entire ceremony is going to take 15 minutes. My mom even said "I appreciate that you're trying to do right by etiquette, but I'm pretty sure it isn't a big deal for everyone to stand for the ceremony."</div><div>
</div><div>On the beach. In the middle of May. We have four bridesmaids, four groomsmen, and four flower girls. Plus the parents and (maybe) grandparents. People need to sit!</div>
--He did suggesting B-listing (my stepmom shut that down real quick, thank goodness)
--He was flabbergasted that we weren't having a head table ("people need to be able to see you!") or a champagne toast (we're having an open bar, but I think giving every guest champagne is a waste of money, especially since FI and I don't like champagne)
--He wanted me to send out invitations like a month or so early. Maybe related to the B-listing.
--He wants to invite more than our capacity because he is sure people won't all come (don't worry, I won't do that)
I'm trying to get him to just chill and let me handle these issues... I know he's paying, but he seems more concerned over some of the things about this wedding than I am.
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[QUOTE]It's not all bad advice necessarily (well, some is), but my Dad (who is paying for most of the wedding) has been a little Father of the bridezilla about some things. --He did suggesting B-listing (my stepmom shut that down real quick, thank goodness) --He was flabbergasted that we weren't having a head table ("people need to be able to see you!") or a champagne toast (we're having an open bar, but I think giving every guest champagne is a waste of money, especially since FI and I don't like champagne) --He wanted me to send out invitations like a month or so early. Maybe related to the B-listing. --He wants to invite more than our capacity because he is sure people won't all come (don't worry, I won't do that) I'm trying to get him to just chill and let me handle these issues... I know he's paying, but <strong>he seems more concerned over some of the things about this wedding than I am.</strong>
Posted by monkeysip[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>My dad gets like that sometimes, too. But (bless his heart) he has no idea what goes into wedding planning and decorating. Most of them time he gives a suggestion and my mom and I are like "Yeah, great idea, we'll think on it" and then move on.
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