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calindi
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Major Vent
So.... I got fired today.
Because (and I quote... well, at least paraphrase), "You don't seem to have your main focus on work. I think since you're engaged, you're probably more focused on your wedding. And as a company, we need to think about these things. We can't have you treading water here for 15 months and then getting married and moving away to some army base."
Never mind I've been working there for over a year and my own supervisor doesn't know my FI is a Marine. Never mind that this is totally sexist because they wouldn't fire a man for getting engaged and discriminatory for being a military significant other who is bound to move eventually. Key word being eventually.
I'm pissed. Really, really pissed. Mostly hurt, but also pissed!
So, back job hunting again. Whoopy. That's always so much fun. Not.
Because (and I quote... well, at least paraphrase), "You don't seem to have your main focus on work. I think since you're engaged, you're probably more focused on your wedding. And as a company, we need to think about these things. We can't have you treading water here for 15 months and then getting married and moving away to some army base."
Never mind I've been working there for over a year and my own supervisor doesn't know my FI is a Marine. Never mind that this is totally sexist because they wouldn't fire a man for getting engaged and discriminatory for being a military significant other who is bound to move eventually. Key word being eventually.
I'm pissed. Really, really pissed. Mostly hurt, but also pissed!
So, back job hunting again. Whoopy. That's always so much fun. Not.
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Re: Major Vent
This really doesn't seem like an appropriate or valid reason to fire someone. Maybe that's why I'm not a business owner. IDK. I don't blame you for feeling the way you do, especially if you have been a reliable employee since you have been there.
That's really awful though
My (former) boss phrased that pretty attrociously, and the engaged part is carefully veiled sexism because I can't PROVE he wouldn't do that to a guy, and it's REASONABLE to assume someone who is engaged will have a wedding to plan. So it's a thin line. And it's not protected like pregnancy under labor laws.
And the military part is illegal if I were already a military spouse - as a fiancee, I have no rights under the discrimination against service members laws.
I do know when I interview at new places, I will NOT be wearing my engagement ring and I will NOT mention to anyone when I get hired that he's in the military (though I don't know how to keep that under wraps, since it's such a big part of our life and his identity.
ETA: Not a chain. I worked for a small magazine in the events department. What basically happened is we had an event tank (through no fault of anyone - just bad timing - but they should have cancelled it early). They lost a lot of money, so they needed someone to blame. Voila! My fault for getting engaged!
In some states, it's legal to fire someone for whatever reason you want. It really just depends on the laws in your state. Of course, what they did isn't ethical. But say, perhaps they lost so much money on the event that went badly that they had to do cutbacks....that would be a legitimate (and ethical) reason.
But yeah, if you don't want your boss to know, then just don't talk about your personal life at all. It sucks, but you can do it.
[QUOTE]In some states, it's legal to fire someone for whatever reason you want. It really just depends on the laws in your state. Of course, what they did isn't ethical. But say, perhaps they lost so much money on the event that went badly that they had to do cutbacks....that would be a legitimate (and ethical) reason. But yeah, if you don't want your boss to know, then just don't talk about your personal life at all. It sucks, but you can do it.
Posted by Avion22[/QUOTE]
This isn't entirely true. There are federal laws about employment (Title 7, ADA, and so on). They do only apply to companies of a certain size, but no state can allow a company of over 20 people to fire someone because or race, sex, religion or national origin. This is just an example, and of course you have to prove it.
In the end. It's better to work for those whose support yourself and your spouse. Calindi I wouldn't tell them about your engagement to a Marine unsolicated but I wouldn't hide it if they ask. Because when you put in your notice (when he gets his perm./semi perm base) then they will find out.
[QUOTE]I don't know a lot about business... but is that even legal?
Posted by melbelle24[/QUOTE]
I'd look into that. I'm sorry you got fired though