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Plea for Wedding Ceremony Venue

My letter will speak for itself, but the reason I'm posting this is:

I'm asking for help on grammar, if it should be shorter, if I can word something better and any general help on the letter.


They have daily public tours, and 2-4 times a month they have public period themed Balls in the Ballroom. It's not a fragile building- it a re-creation. The only time I asked was on the 8th grade Field Trip in a group of kids, I'm not sure how serious they were when they told me no, let alone, if they know how serious I was when I asked. I have plans/ideas for a local location if they officially say no, but I want to formally ask before I give up on my ultimate wedding dream.


Also, I never once asked anyones opinion on this forum whether or not they will let me do it there. No one on here can tell me they won't let me. The whole reason I'm writing this letter is to officially find out for good, I have to ask before giving up.


Please don't post any more comments on why they won't allow it.

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Letter/Email to: Colonial Williamsburg, Virginia

I have many great memories of my first trip to Williamsburg, but the one that stands out the most and has haunted me ever since, is my first step into the Governor’s Palace Ballroom. Before any of the beautiful decor and history flooded my mind, my first thought was, “I’m getting married right here.” As a 12 year old, I had never given one thought to marriage or weddings as of yet, so this was absolutely out of character for me. Years have gone by and many things have changed,  but one thing has always remained and that being my ultimate dream of having my wedding in the Governor’s Palace Ballroom.

We realize that it is not your policy to open the Governor's Palace to private weddings, but my Fiance and I have a great love and appreciation for the history of the building and are willing to compromise as much as needed in order to use the Ballroom. If you would allow this, we have a few ideas that might work in your favor as well as ours. We would like to use the Palace after tour hours and would only need it for one hour, hour-and-a-half tops for the Ceremony only; I will be looking into a reception at the Williamsburg Inn. The ceremony will only be the size you are willing to allow with the only decor as chairs for guests. We’re planning on renting our own chairs and considering buying large carpets to put on both sides of the aisle under the guest seats to keep from imprints or foot marks on the historically accurate reproduced rug. We only need access to the Lobby and Ballroom and will pay for reenactors/attendees to chaperon as well as time spent in the Palace. Both mine and the grooms clothing will be period correct and you are welcome to use any of the pictures for your website or brochure.

There is a lot more specifics that my fiance and myself have thought of to preserve the current state of the ballroom. We would rather discuss such things in person so we could prove that we have thruoughly thought of almost every precaution to keep the ballroom in it’s original state. I would also like to use the opportunity to allow any of your concerns that we have not addressed be voiced, so we can possibly come up with a perfect solution.

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Thanks for your time!

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  • Personally, I don't like this at all. it comes across very princess-ey, whiney and entitled. If you love this place so much, you should understand its rules and respect them. It probably wouldn't still be such a beautiful place if they allowed things like weddings there. Weddings can be messy and there's a lot of people milling around. I wouldn't do this at all and book the courtyard. 

    But if you absolutely insist on writing this, I wouldn't use the word "obsessed" so much. It makes you sound more like a 14-year-old NSYNC fan than a grown woman planning a wedding. Try to write it from an adult perspective, not a little girl throwing a tantrum. Give the reasons why it is important to you, not examples of other handouts you've been given. 

    Does this place have any importance to your future husband? You never once mentioned him..

    And, again, if you REALLY must write this to someone, you should offer a donation to the historical society or something in exchange. Assure them that you'll get insurance and a professional cleaning company of their choosing to ensure that nothing is ruined. 

    I'm really not trying to be rude here, but I think you need to grow up and move on. One of the venues my FI and I are looking at to get married is a beautiful hotel on a lake. Ideally we'd have the ceremony on the deck overlooking the lake and mountains and the reception just inside where the restaurant is. The venue doesn't allow this so I am looking into other things, not how to get someone to give me what I want. Lots of girls want to get married in Cinderella's castle, but they grow up and have lovely weddings anyway. 
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    [QUOTE]Personally, I don't like this at all. it comes across very princess-ey, whiney and entitled. If you love this place so much, you should understand its rules and respect them. It probably wouldn't still be such a beautiful place if they allowed things like weddings there. Weddings can be messy and there's a lot of people milling around. I wouldn't do this at all and book the courtyard.  But if you absolutely insist on writing this, I wouldn't use the word "obsessed" so much. It makes you sound more like a 14-year-old NSYNC fan than a grown woman planning a wedding. Try to write it from an adult perspective, not a little girl throwing a tantrum. Give the reasons why it is important to you, not examples of other handouts you've been given.  Does this place have any importance to your future husband? You never once mentioned him.. And, again, if you REALLY must write this to someone, you should offer a donation to the historical society or something in exchange. Assure them that you'll get insurance and a professional cleaning company of their choosing to ensure that nothing is ruined.  I'm really not trying to be rude here, but I think you need to grow up and move on. One of the venues my FI and I are looking at to get married is a beautiful hotel on a lake. Ideally we'd have the ceremony on the deck overlooking the lake and mountains and the reception just inside where the restaurant is. The venue doesn't allow this so I am looking into other things, not how to get someone to give me what I want. Lots of girls want to get married in Cinderella's castle, but they grow up and have lovely weddings anyway. 
    Posted by beardownbchs[/QUOTE]
    I understand what you are saying and I appreciate your response, but I'm not sure you understood my reasoning for posting this for the public.

    I stated:
    1: Mostly, Now what should I say? I want to add more basically asking to use this venue now that I gave my sob story, but I don't know how to put it.

    2: To ask if my letter needs any adjustments. i.e: Spelling/Grammar errors, Too Long, Too Short (lol) too whiney, etc...

    3: General Opinions

    I haven't mentioned my fiance yet because that's the next part I want to get to (Question 1)

    I don't appreciate being told I should "Grow up", dreams don't come true if you don't at least try. I haven't once formally asked them to use the venue and of course I'm not going to "throw a tantrum" if they officially tell me no.

    Again, I appreciate a response, but I feel as if everything you said was very backhanded.
  • You need to not capitalize random words for no apparent reason.  Why don't you just have your wedding in the gardens like they allow?  Your "plea" isn't going to help.  A policy is a policy and a historical place like this isn't going to bend the policy over someone who isn't a big deal (no offense -- but it's true).

    ...but to answer your other question.  It's way too long.  Most people would start reading and then toss it to the side.

    And calling it a "sob story" is a joke, really.  Where's the sob?
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    [QUOTE]You need to not capitalize random words for no apparent reason.  Why don't you just have your wedding in the gardens like they allow?  Your "plea" isn't going to help.  A policy is a policy and a historical place like this isn't going to bend the policy over someone who isn't a big deal (no offense -- but it's true). ...but to answer your other question.  It's way too long.  Most people would start reading and then toss it to the side. And calling it a "sob story" is a joke, really.  Where's the sob?
    <p>Posted by mlg78[/QUOTE] "You need to not capitalize random words for no apparent reason.", "And calling it a 'sob story' is a joke, really. Where's the sob?" Why do you have to put it so rudely? Would you really say it like that in real life? I asked for grammar/spelling mistakes because I'm human.  I haven't formally asked them to use the venue and of course I will move on if they say no. The building is a re-creation of the original and they allow daily tours, and 2-4 times a month they have public period themed Balls in the ballroom. It's not a fragile building- so I'm not sure how serious they are when they told me no.</p><p>I'm at least trying to reach my dreams... I feel sorry that you believe in giving up so easily.</p>
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_plea-for-wedding-ceremony-venue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:238179d0-1802-432e-b4bf-148d4a15f3f2Post:6fdd7240-80e9-490f-9397-135ce9d87bc3">Plea for Wedding Ceremony Venue</a>:
    [QUOTE]My letter will speak for itself, but the reason I'm posting this is: 1: Mostly, Now what should I say? I want to add more basically asking to use this venue now that I gave my sob story, but I don't know how to put it. 2: To ask if my letter needs any adjustments. i.e:  Spelling/Grammer errors, Too Long, Too Short (lol) too whiney, etc... 3: General Opinions --------------------------------------------------------- Letter/Email to: Colonial Williamsburg, Virginia Let me start off by saying how much I love Colonial Williamsburg. I’ve always been obsessed with the Colonial period mostly due to my Father; He’s always been a big history buff. Ever since I was little, our family vacations were never to Disney or Beaches, instead he would introduce us to Plymouth, Sturbridge and places of that kind and I’m very thankful for his decision, I believe it made us more grounded and more appreciative of our Country and Land. When my 8 th Grade History class planned a School Field Trip To Colonial Williamsburg in late Fall 2000, I excitedly jumped on the chance to go. Unfortunately, my family did not have the funds to send me. My history teacher, Ned Beck (Pequea Valley School District) noticed my sincere grief and offered a deal: I would come to his Homeroom during every study period for a few months and organize and staple papers for him. He asked me to work for it if I really want it, and if so, he would pay my way. I obviously agreed, and so, off I went for my first trip to Williamsburg, VA. Not only did this Field trip turn my love of this period into an obsession, but it also became the home of my heart and my main destination for any vacations or special events. I have many great memories of my first trip to Williamsburg, but the one that stands out the most and has haunted me ever since, is my first step into the Governor’s Palace Ballroom. Before any of the beautiful decor and history flooded my mind, my first thought was, “I’m getting married right here.” Mind you, I had never gave one thought to marriage or weddings as of yet, so this was absolutely out of character for me, but at that moment, little 8 th grader me turned to the Tour Guide and asked if they allow weddings in here. She replied, “No, but they do allow them in the Gardens in the Courtyard.” Saddened, I never gave up hope. Years later, I returned to Williamsburg with my family for a Vacation. I believe this is when I told my parents about my idea I have concocted ever since my first time there: Colonial period themed wedding ceremony in the Ballroom of the Governor’s Palace. Of course my parents were thrilled and also asked the tour guide when we finally entered the Ballroom, but she also replied with the same answer. Ironically, there was a wedding ceremony taking place in the Courtyard at that time. Years have gone by, I’ve grown out of things and changed a lot, I’ve gone many places and seen many things, but one thing has always remained, and that being my sincere dream of having my wedding in the Governor’s Palace Ballroom. ------------------------------------------------------------------ Thanks for your time!    
    Posted by NatalieMeola[/QUOTE]

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    </div><div>JIC. And we both gave you suggestions on how to make this better. You <em>do </em>have random words capitalized and it <em>does </em>come across whiney and childish. Never once do you say why you enjoy this place, just that you "must" have your wedding there. </div><div>
    </div><div>It's not about giving up on things as much as it is understanding what's attainable and what isn't. Part of being an adult is understanding what you can and cannot do/have and living with it. </div>
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    [QUOTE]Why do you have to put it so rudely? Would you really say it like that in real life? I asked for grammar/spelling mistakes because I'm human.  I haven't formally asked them to use the venue and of course I will move on if they say no. The building is a re-creation of the original and they allow daily tours, and 2-4 times a month they have public period themed Balls in the ballroom. It's not a fragile building- so I'm not sure how serious they are when they told me no. I'm at least trying to reach my dreams... I feel sorry that you believe in giving up so easily.
    Posted by NatalieMeola[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>Oh, trust me...I don't give up on things easily.  I just don't believe in wasting my time when I have better things to do.  You *HAVE* been told no.  TWICE!  They don't allow weddings to be done there.  Accept the "no" and move on towards finding a venue you can fall in love with.</div><div>
    </div><div>I told you there are errors as you seem to capitalize random words which do not need to be capitalized.  You were the one who used the term "sob story", not me.

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Plea for Wedding Ceremony Venue : Oh, trust me...I don't give up on things easily.  I just don't believe in wasting my time when I have better things to do.  You *HAVE* been told no.  TWICE!  They don't allow weddings to be done there.  Accept the "no" and move on towards finding a venue you can fall in love with. I told you there are errors as you seem to capitalize random words which do not need to be capitalized.  You were the one who used the term "sob story", not me.
    Posted by mlg78[/QUOTE] You are ignoring my replies by reading what you want to read. It seems as if you didn't notice I said I never formally asked as an adult or them knowing how serious I am.  You are being very rude for no reason, and I am not here for debates or arguments. Please leave my post if you cannot be polite.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Plea for Wedding Ceremony Venue : JIC. And we both gave you suggestions on how to make this better. You do have random words capitalized and it does come across whiney and childish. Never once do you say why you enjoy this place, just that you "must" have your wedding there.  It's not about giving up on things as much as it is understanding what's attainable and what isn't. Part of being an adult is understanding what you can and cannot do/have and living with it. 
    Posted by beardownbchs[/QUOTE]   You are ignoring my replies by reading what you want to read. It seems as if you didn't notice I said I never formally asked as an adult or them knowing how serious I am.  You are being very rude for no reason, and I am not here for debates or arguments. Please leave my post if you cannot be polite. 
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Plea for Wedding Ceremony Venue :    You are ignoring my replies by reading what you want to read. It seems as if you didn't notice I said I never formally asked as an adult or them knowing how serious I am.  You are being very rude for no reason, and I am not here for debates or arguments. Please leave my post if you cannot be polite. 
    Posted by NatalieMeola[/QUOTE]

    <div>Seriously? You think they'd give you a different response just because you were a teenager asking?  That's highly doubtful.  I think you just need to call and get a final answer so you stop wasting time on this "plea".</div>
  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    I'm confused. If they DO NOT HOLD WEDDINGS IN THE BALLROOM, why are you planning to ask if you can have your wedding there? Venues have rules and policies, and you need to respect them. Nobody was rude; you just don't like the responses.
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • I wasn't ignoring anything. I gave you 1. suggestions of what else should be in it, 2. adjustments and 3. my opinion. I gave you exactly what you wanted. I wasn't being rude at all and you cannot dictate the way people will respond to you. Again, I will say, grow up and get over yourself. 
  • NatalieMeolaNatalieMeola member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_plea-for-wedding-ceremony-venue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:238179d0-1802-432e-b4bf-148d4a15f3f2Post:a72b4856-104a-4fa7-8a22-caa41f24878e">Re: Plea for Wedding Ceremony Venue</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm confused. If they DO NOT HOLD WEDDINGS IN THE BALLROOM, why are you planning to ask if you can have your wedding there? Venues have rules and policies, and you need to respect them. Nobody was rude; you just don't like the responses.
    Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]  They have daily public tours, and 2-4 times a month they have public period themed Balls in the ballroom. It's not a fragile building- it a re-creation. I'm not sure how serious they were when they told me no, let alone, if they know how serious I was when I asked. I have plans/ideas for a local location if they officially say no, but I want to formally ask before I give up on my ultimate wedding dream.
  • Then just make an appointment and speak to someone. I have never heard of writing a letter to inquire about a venue.
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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    [QUOTE]Then just make an appointment and speak to someone. I have never heard of writing a letter to inquire about a venue.
    Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE] I might just do that. Thank you.
  • I have to agree with PP, this letter sounds like a teenager. I'm sure people far more important than you have asked and haven't had the rules changed for them. If they were to bend the rules just for your PPD I'm guessing it would cost more than a pretty penny for this.
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    [QUOTE]If a venue tells you no, that is not an invitation for a re-negotiation. There is usually a good reason why they decline. But, if you want suggestions, here you go: 1.) Don't refer to your father as a history buff. Use the word scholar or enthusiast. 2.). You provided too many irrelevant details. Unless your history teacher is a major donor, they are not going to care if his name is John Smith or Ashton Kutcher. They also don't need to know what exactly you did for the school trip. 3.). You inserted random commas where they are not appropriate, 4.). A sentence starting with "Mind you," is not appropriate for a formal business letter. 5.). The sentence "years have gone by" is a run-on. This letter MAY be appropriate for a TLC fantasy wedding contest, but it is not appropriate for a business proposal. Yes, your wedding is important, and remember that you are doing business with your vendors. Most vendors are not going to use your childhood dream as a reason to break the rules for you.
    <p>Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE] Thank you for your response! The reason I am still seeking an answer is because the only time I asked was when I was younger. I'm willing to make many compromises and that's what I want to get to in the next part of the letter.</p><p>My 8th grade teacher is a major donor and recently was one of eight people in the nation to win a scholarship to an institute at Williamsburg.</p><p>All of your tips are very helpful, and I completely understand all of your points. I very much appreciate your time and help.</p>
  • It will take the office intern about 30 seconds to open your letter, read it, print out the form response letter, and mail it. It's a lot harder to say no to someone in person, so I would start with making an appointment. You can always try, but be prepared for a No. Unless you have a personal connection to a major donor, a high ranking employee, etc your chances are abysmal. And quite frankly ''I've always thought it would be the perfect place for a wedding' isn't much of a sob story.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Plea for Wedding Ceremony Venue : I don't know of anyone who isn't serious when they say no about having a wedding at their facilities.... What exactly does an "official" no sound like to you?
    Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE] I was in 8th grade and asked a tour guide. I'm prepared to hear no, but I feel like I can't just give up because someone said no to some kid in an untamed group of 8th graders on a field trip.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Plea for Wedding Ceremony Venue : In that case, ask your 8th grade teacher to call or write on your behalf.
    Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE] This is a great idea. I still run into him at the grocery store. HAHA. Thanks again.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_plea-for-wedding-ceremony-venue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:238179d0-1802-432e-b4bf-148d4a15f3f2Post:1e985d27-8f6d-4dae-9ccf-4bcaf3b1e8ba">Re: Plea for Wedding Ceremony Venue</a>:
    [QUOTE]It will take the office intern about 30 seconds to open your letter, read it, print out the form response letter, and mail it. It's a lot harder to say no to someone in person, so I would start with making an appointment. You can always try, but be prepared for a No. Unless you have a personal connection to a major donor, a high ranking employee, etc your chances are abysmal. And quite frankly ''I've always thought it would be the perfect place for a wedding' isn't much of a sob story.
    Posted by daria24[/QUOTE] Thanks for your reply! My fiance also said he would rather go in and talk to someone in person. I'm basically preparing a letter just in case we can't get an appointment and also to document and sort out our thoughts. My 8th grade teacher is a major donor and recently was one of eight people in the nation to win a scholarship to an institute at Williamsburg.
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    [QUOTE]I also suggest you start here - <a href="http://www.colonialwilliamsburg.com/plan/groups/weddings/" rel="nofollow">http://www.colonialwilliamsburg.com/plan/groups/weddings/</a>
    Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE] you're very sweet to use your time to help me. Thank you again.
  • If you do decide to still also send a letter, please use CMG's.  I'm not being rude here, but I agree that your letter sounds immature and geared more to a boy band fan club.  CMG's is concise, sincere, and, best of all, well-written in a mature voice.

    I wish you the best of luck, but I really do think they will most likely stick to their policy.  Weddings cause massive wear and tear on a venue.  If they allow yours, they will have to allow others.  Nothing ventured, nothing gained - but be prepared to look for a different venue.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_plea-for-wedding-ceremony-venue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:238179d0-1802-432e-b4bf-148d4a15f3f2Post:8ec7e0ac-55ad-4f69-b1a4-aa5a9baac4ab">Re: Plea for Wedding Ceremony Venue</a>:
    [QUOTE]Sorry, I'm a bit confused. The "no" you got was from asking a tour guide in 8th grade, but you have never asked as an adult, correct? From the link Kristan posted, it does look like they don't typically rent any of the historical buildings for wedding, just gardens and hotels. This does not mean that they won't rent to you, but they need a reason to do it. As to the original question: be clear and concise. This is not the Make a Wish Foundation; this is a business. They are going to be interested in why they should do this and what they will get out of it. Give reasons, not just wishes, dreams, and a request for special treatment. Include your FI; being a united front will also make you look less like the stereotyped entitled princess bride. I also like the suggestion of calling or going in person instead of writing. There is a phone number on their wedding webpage. Maybe you can set up an appointment. The suggestion of securing your teacher's backing as someone known to them is also good. It will give you some leverage, and networking is a good thing. Making notes before you go is a good idea, though. Always be prepared for important meetings. GL!
    Posted by Schatzi13[/QUOTE] Thank you! This is the best response yet. I understand they will most likely say no, but I am willing to try. Thank you for your tips, I will definitely put them to use.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_plea-for-wedding-ceremony-venue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:238179d0-1802-432e-b4bf-148d4a15f3f2Post:1307fd8e-ee6d-4fc2-a4ed-fbd0a197a5b3">Re:Plea for Wedding Ceremony Venue</a>:
    [QUOTE]Natalie, I am not trying to crush your dreams, but add perspective. The ballroom is open for tours 7 days / week from 9:30 am4:30 pm. This is their moneymaker and I would not expect those times to be changeable. If they allow you to get married there, the earliest people could set up would be 5 pm. You'd need to hire quite a crew to set up for your wedding and reception. You'll need to have them working in accordance with the ballroom policies for historical preservation. You'll need to rent chairs , tables, linens, decor and probably hire a planner to oversee this the day of the wedding. You'll need to work with a caterer and bartender for the reception, as well as music and any other entertainment. The earliest your wedding could start would be 7;00 pm and ALL of it needs to be cleaned up for the tours to start at 9:30 the next morning. IF they let you do this, it will be insanely expensive. And it will require a LOT of work. Can you afford the and the energy to make this work? Do you really want to go through all this?? Just some food for thought....
    Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE]
    It is only the ceremony I want to use the ballroom for, and I think it will be only an hour/hour and a half tops. I just need to set up chairs and perhaps mats under the chairs on either side of the aisle to not leave impressions on their rug. The place is perfect how it is, so I wouldn't want to decorate it at all. I've planned to offer the time as 5:00 as I did take notice of their hours, but thanks for all your help again.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_plea-for-wedding-ceremony-venue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:238179d0-1802-432e-b4bf-148d4a15f3f2Post:671e1c61-3c25-48fb-8b77-3075938f8f62">Re:Plea for Wedding Ceremony Venue</a>:
    [QUOTE]I also agree that this letter sounds like boy band fan mail and not a serious business inquiry from a responsible adult. The first two pps gave you tips on how to change it to rectify that. It needs to be short, to the point, an about the venue not other things other people have done for you. It needs to acknowledge the reader and thank them for taking the time to read it. it needs to be absolutely no more than one page. If this letter came to my office, I'd read the first paragraph, then respond with a no, if I responded at all. I would not read all the way through that. You keep getting mad at people responding but when this many people say it sounds immature, there is a good bet that it does.
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
    <p>Ok, thank you. That's why I posted this: to find out the best route to take. Whether it be as detailed as I have it, or less. I can always take away.</p><p>The reason the other people upset me are not because they're going "against my vision" and "saying what I don't want to hear", it's because of the backhanded remarks that come after. I asked about the letter and what I should add, take away, change and thoughts on how it's written, which I have received very kindly from others. I'm not a spoiled brat bride, I understand there is a huge risk of them saying no, but I want to give it a try before I start planning any part of my wedding.</p><p>Thank you again for your reply and help.</p>
  • This is clearly either a "yes" or "no" situation.  Those facilities either do or don't rent them out for private events and no matter how long you have dreamed of being married there, if the answer is no, the answer is "no."  In Colonial Williamsburg there is a beautiful chapel, but I think I heard when I was there, it is only available to regular communicants of the church.  Also, as several have already said, I would be willing to bet, if they were willing to make an exception and rent to you, the rental fee would probably about equal what Kate and William spent on their entire wedding and that's just the rental fee.  That doesn't include caterer, which would be of their selection, tables,chairs, linens, china, flowers, etc. etc. etc. 

    One quick call will solve your problem.  "Do you rent the Governor's Ballroom" for weddings?"  No letter is required and no matter how well written won't change their policy. 
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_plea-for-wedding-ceremony-venue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:238179d0-1802-432e-b4bf-148d4a15f3f2Post:cfb8fe40-38cb-4f64-922f-0b7ab5979f19">Re:Plea for Wedding Ceremony Venue</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:Plea for Wedding Ceremony Venue : I think you misunderstood. The earliest you could set up is 5 (assuming they let you). I would not expect to be able to have your wedding until 6:30 or 7. And you'll still need to hire people to leave the venue just as you found it. Again, this is all assuming they let you.
    Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE] Ok, well, I won't worry about this until I hear from them and their event coordinator. It's a headache that might not have to even be necessary if they say no, so this will all come in time. Thanks! =)
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_plea-for-wedding-ceremony-venue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:238179d0-1802-432e-b4bf-148d4a15f3f2Post:84d78ee7-37f5-4507-ac4d-46124677b110">Re: Plea for Wedding Ceremony Venue</a>:
    [QUOTE]This is clearly either a "yes" or "no" situation.  Those facilities either do or don't rent them out for private events and no matter how long you have dreamed of being married there, if the answer is no, the answer is "no."  In Colonial Williamsburg there is a beautiful chapel, but I think I heard when I was there, it is only available to regular communicants of the church.  Also, as several have already said, I would be willing to bet, if they were willing to make an exception and rent to you, the rental fee would probably about equal what Kate and William spent on their entire wedding and that's just the rental fee.  That doesn't include caterer, which would be of their selection, tables,chairs, linens, china, flowers, etc. etc. etc.  One quick call will solve your problem.  "Do you rent the Governor's Ballroom" for weddings?"  No letter is required and no matter how well written won't change their policy. 
    <p>Posted by Alex3Mom[/QUOTE] Thank you for your reply!</p><p>It would only be the ceremony, not the entire wedding. I will shorten my letter and give it a try. I have other plans if the answer is a final and formal "No". Thanks for your time! =)</p>
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_plea-for-wedding-ceremony-venue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:238179d0-1802-432e-b4bf-148d4a15f3f2Post:f1c08a60-42aa-4883-87b1-b742eba9693e">Re: Plea for Wedding Ceremony Venue</a>:
    [QUOTE]If you do decide to still also send a letter, please use CMG's.  I'm not being rude here, but I agree that your letter sounds immature and geared more to a boy band fan club.  CMG's is concise, sincere, and, best of all, well-written in a mature voice. I wish you the best of luck, but I really do think they will most likely stick to their policy.  Weddings cause massive wear and tear on a venue.  If they allow yours, they will have to allow others.  Nothing ventured, nothing gained - but be prepared to look for a different venue.
    Posted by kmmssg[/QUOTE]
    Thank you for your reply!


    I will shorten my letter and give it a try. I have other plans if the answer is a final and formal "No". Thanks for your time! =)
  • I'm still baffled as to why this post has gone on and on when you could have called first thing this morning and gotten your answer?
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