How Should I Ask My MOH to be my MOH?

disturbedkitty · April 2010

I know this is kind of silly...but I am a little nervous about asking my friend to be my MOH! There was some drama having to do with another friend I thought would be my MOH before I got engaged (she was very upset when I finally did get engaged and she said some mean things). Fortunately, I never asked her. However, I already asked my hopefully-soon-to-be-MOH to be a bridesmaid (like me, she assumed my other friend would be my MOH). How should I ask her? Besides the fact that she is one of my dearest friends, she has also been so supportive in this entire process and she has really seemed to enjoy helping me plan the wedding. I have no doubts-I want her to be my MOH. The problem is, we are both so busy and only get to see each other once every couple months! I should ask her in person, right? Is there any way I should word it? Thank you all so much for your help!

irisleaf · April 2010

I had some friend drama myself, and ended up not having either of those people in my wedding party, but what I did was I asked my fiance's sister to be my MOH. She is so thrilled. She and I have been getting closer and closer as friends and I couldn't be happier to have her as my MOH.

Your wedding is supposed to be stress free, well relatively, and it should be about joining two families together. Picking my fiance's sister was just another way to show that I am all about intergrating our families and having her be my new sister.

I am sure your friend will be more then happy to be your MOH. But make sure you ASK her, do tell her she is going to be the MOH. Let her say yes or no. It is more polite to ask them to tell the person what they will be in the wedding.

disturbedkitty · April 2010

My FIs sister is out. She is a bridesmaid, but she can be really jealous (and a bit of a brat, sometimes). When we went to visit a venue, she sat in the corner by herself, texting and rolling her eyes, while my FI, mother, FMIL, and I took turns trying to wrangle in the flower girl (my little sister)! She is 18 and she acts like a bratty 15-year-old. Sorry for ranting...In other words, we are not close friends, so I don't want her to be my MOH.

However, my hopefully-soon-to-be MOH is one of my dearest friends. I want her to be my MOH because I love her, not because she is even-tempered (unlike my FSIL). I will give her the opportunity to say no, of course.

shoegal715 · April 2010

I asked my sister over the phone, about 5 minutes after I got engaged.

Me: you're going to be my maid of honour, right?

Her: hell ya

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