We got an RSVP card back today from my mom's second cousin once removed, saying that she and her husband would attend the wedding, but she will be bringing her 3 children to the day before BBQ and day after brunch. She enclosed a note that she understood her "young adults" (they are ages 15-20) were not invited to the wedding, but she would like to bring them to the other events because they'll be coming up from NYC.
My mom already told her that her kids are not invited to the wedding. Now my mom is saying that if they are going to come up anyway, she will feel really bad if they are all alone during the time of the wedding. This is really frustrating because our guest list is really tight, and we have 3 friends who are in new relationships, so we're going to fill any "no" spots with their sig others (and I would feel bad if we couldn't do so). We also wanted a smaller wedding (well, I wanted to go to a judge and just get done with it from the beginning, FI wants a party and the family wants something big--which they're paying for), so I don't necessarily want to fill all the no spots with random distant cousins just because we have room.
Anyway, thanks for the vent. I generally do ok going through the motions of the big wedding thing, because I know it will make many people I love very happy, but I just can't handle stuff like this sometimes.