I know Im not supposed to but...
My SO and I have been together nearly 4 years and we are now openly talking about marriage. Although we are not OFFICIALLY engaged he did give me a promise ring and we like to say we are engaged to be engaged 
. I do want to mention however we dont go around telling everyone we are engaged. I even have him watching My Fair Wedding and Say Yes to the Dress lol. Anywho... its no secret to him that I am researching venues and cost. I would never book anything or hold dates I just like researching pricing and puttng together my inspiration book. Now here's my question...Im noticing that alot of churches do not allow ANY photography or video taping during the ceremony. This seems a bit strange to me. The main purpose of hiring these vendors is to capture the moment of this special day. Have any of you heard of this?
Re: I know Im not supposed to but...
[QUOTE]My SO and I have been together nearly 4 years and we are now openly talking about marriage. Although we are not OFFICIALLY engaged he did give me a promise ring and<strong> we like to say we are engaged to be engaged</strong> . I do want to mention however we dont go around telling everyone we are engaged. I even have him watching My Fair Wedding and Say Yes to the Dress lol. Anywho... its no secret to him that I am researching venues and cost. I would never book anything or hold dates I just like researching pricing and puttng together my inspiration book. Now here's my question...Im noticing that alot of churches do not allow ANY photography or video taping during the ceremony. This seems a bit strange to me. The main purpose of hiring these vendors is to capture the moment of this special day. Have any of you heard of this?
Posted by Tootie512[/QUOTE]
You just killed a kitten.
I personally have never heard of no-photography churches, but since I'm not engaged yet I really would have no idea. I've never been to a wedding where there weren't pics taken during the ceremony though...
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I think it would be best to ask this question on another board. Perhaps Photos and Videos? That seems like a much more appropriate place.
You may get an answer to your question here by the engaged or married ladies, but the most likely response you will receive is do not plan until you are engaged.
[QUOTE]In Response to I know Im not supposed to but... : You just killed a kitten.
Posted by SKP82[/QUOTE]
It's such a pity.
Life is good today.
But it doesn't matter anyway, because you're not engaged, so stop planning!
Life is good today.
[QUOTE] I could flame you for saying you're engaged to be engaged, but I'm so sick of saying it and reading it. <strong>You have shown by your behavior that you know it isn't normal (ie: not telling your friends/family)</strong>, so just knock it off. Wait until you're engaged. Posted by cschiano[/QUOTE]
THIS. And by the title of the post. "I know I'm not supposed to but..."
If you know you're not supposed to, just DON'T. Or at least don't post about it expecting for us to validate you.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I know Im not supposed to but... : It's such a pity.
Posted by Beads921[/QUOTE]
Yes, yes it is.
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Yes my boyfriend is looking at stuff with me and he gives his input. We say we're engaged to be engaged privately to each other so to me its cute. I didnt realized its being used all over the boards. As i mentioned we dont say it to family and friends so I see nothing wrong with it. As far as my pre-planning that's just my personality nothing more I can really say about that.
Getting married in a church is not vital however it would be nice. Again i just find it strange they wouldnt allow photography or video. Maybe it does all come down to their rules.
Make it a great day!
[QUOTE]<strong>Yes my boyfriend is looking at stuff with me and he gives his input. We say we're engaged to be engaged privately to each other so to me its cute. I didnt realized its being used all over the boards. As i mentioned we dont say it to family and friends so I see nothing wrong with it. As far as my pre-planning that's just my personality nothing more I can really say about that.</strong> Getting married in a church is not vital however it would be nice. Again i just find it strange they wouldnt allow photography or video. Maybe it does all come down to their rules.
Posted by Tootie512[/QUOTE]
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The idea is that some officiants find the photography distracting to them and the guests. So WHEN you get engaged, you can start looking into if the venues and the officiants have an issue with this. (Because my minister won't allow photography during the cermony even when he married a couple outside the church because again he found it distracting.) The reason you should wait is because policies can change between now and when you actually get engaged/married.
SKP82 you are right...I should not have posted my question on this board. But as I have been lurking for a few weeks now I have seen a few engaged ladies on here as well so I just thought I would through it out there.
[QUOTE]I am going to answer your question becuase I figure it is a curiosity thing. That is something to worry abotu when you get engaged. I have done some wedding photography over the years and some churchs would not let me take any pictures during the ceremony, some were cool with whatever the bride wanted and some allowed me to set up in the back of the church use my telephoto lens and no flash. The idea is that some officiants find the photography distracting to them and the guests. So WHEN you get engaged, you can start looking into if the venues and the officiants have an issue with this. (Because my minister won't allow photography during the cermony even when he married a couple outside the church because again he found it distracting.) The reason you should wait is because policies can change between now and when you actually get engaged/married.
Posted by jdrose5[/QUOTE]
Thank you for your polite response. You answered my question. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />
[QUOTE]Yes my boyfriend is looking at stuff with me and he gives his input. We say we're engaged to be engaged privately to each other so to me its cute. I didnt realized its being used all over the boards. As i mentioned we dont say it to family and friends so I see nothing wrong with it.<strong> As far as my pre-planning that's just my personality nothing more I can really say about that</strong>. Getting married in a church is not vital however it would be nice. Again i just find it strange they wouldnt allow photography or video. Maybe it does all come down to their rules.
Posted by Tootie512[/QUOTE]
I'm a hardcore planner too. Hard. Core. But, you won't find me even browsing the web for wedding stuff (if you're wondering how I ended up on TK, I had a case of wedding fever a while ago, and here I am...I'm fully recovered, BTW, I just like the boards).
Every girl who comes on here talking about pre-planning says, "Well, I'm a planner, I can't help it!" You CAN help it. It's no excuse, and we hear it AT LEAST once a week.
PS I have a promise ring too. I got it 2 years ago. Lordy, imagine if I'd started planning my wedding then...Promise ring =/= that phrase you keep using (which I will not repeat in the interest of saving the kittens).
Life is good today.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I know Im not supposed to but... : I'm a hardcore planner too. Hard. Core. But, you won't find me even browsing the web for wedding stuff (if you're wondering how I ended up on TK, I had a case of wedding fever a while ago, and here I am...I'm fully recovered, BTW, I just like the boards). Every girl who comes on here talking about pre-planning says, "Well, I'm a planner, I can't help it!" You CAN help it. It's no excuse, and we hear it AT LEAST once a week. PS I have a promise ring too. I got it 2 years ago. Lordy, imagine if I'd started planning my wedding then...<strong>Promise ring =/= that phrase you keep using (which I will not repeat in the interest of saving the kittens).
</strong>Posted by Beads921[/QUOTE]
<3
*That phrase* always makes me think of this line...
"They don't know that we know they know we know!" - props to whomever knows what that is from
[QUOTE]Seriously LOLing over the pictures here, thanks for this guys. *That phrase* always makes me think of this line... "They don't know that we know they know we know !" - props to whomever knows what that is from
Posted by csousa1[/QUOTE]
Its from Friends :)
[QUOTE] "They don't know that we know they know we know !"
Posted by csousa1[/QUOTE]
<div>Way to early on a Friday to try and figure that one out...</div>
[QUOTE]Seriously LOLing over the pictures here, thanks for this guys. *That phrase* always makes me think of this line... <strong>"They don't know that we know they know we know !" - props to whomever knows what that is from</strong>
Posted by csousa1[/QUOTE]
I know I know!!! <div>
</div><div>Friends! Specifically, the episode where Phoebe and Rachel figure out that Monica and Chandler are "doing it." </div><div>
</div><div>Give me my props!</div>
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I know Im not supposed to but... : I'm a hardcore planner too. Hard. Core. But, you won't find me even browsing the web for wedding stuff (if you're wondering how I ended up on TK, I had a case of wedding fever a while ago, and here I am...I'm fully recovered, BTW, I just like the boards<strong>). Every girl who comes on here talking about pre-planning says, "Well, I'm a planner, I can't help it!" You CAN help it. It's no excuse, and we hear it AT LEAST once a week.</strong>PS I have a promise ring too. I got it 2 years ago. Lordy, imagine if I'd started planning my wedding then...Promise ring =/= that phrase you keep using (which I will not repeat in the interest of saving the kittens).
Posted by Beads921[/QUOTE]
Hi, My name is lmwilber, and I was a pre planner. At first it started out small, it was all innocent fun I thought. I'm a planner, its just who I am. BF and I want a short engagement, so I'm just doing streamlining the process, Right?!?! I was just building an 'inspiration folder'. Soon that folder was full of names a venues I like, photographers web sites, cute center pieces, and the dresses, OMG the dresses. The more I preplanned, the more neurotic I got. Soon those 'cute' convos with BF about 'our wedding' were not longer cute. They were source of panic. "When? When is he going to propose?" Doesn't he know how quickly good dates fill up? Now we have no chance of booking X? Soon I was so upset I would pick fights with BF. I forgot why I loved him, and wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. All I could see was this guy who was dragging his feet. Turns out, all he could see was how wedding obsessed I had become. Wasn't attractive, kinda made him want to marry me less.
Then I found the ladies of NEY. Many of us have similar stories. We act as each other support group. Sure, your pre planning might turn out just fine, but I doubt it. Slow your self down. Enjoy being with BF AT THIS EXACT MOMENT IN TIME. It will not come around again.
Welcome, OP, Stick around awhile. These woman are wise, and funny, and NEY is just a cool place to hang out!
Extra to schiano for the exact episode
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I know Im not supposed to but... : I know I know!!! Friends! Specifically, the episode where Phoebe and Rachel figure out that Monica and Chandler are "doing it." Give me my props!
Posted by cschiano[/QUOTE]
It's called "The One Where Everybody Finds Out"
GET OFF MY SISTER!!!!
You're not engaged to be engaged. You are dating. And frankly, your refusal to call your relationship what it is just shows how insecure you are.
Stop planning and browsing for ideas for your wedding binder until you get engaged.
FFS, be grateful that you have so much free time on your hands. Here's a thought...use that time to OPEN A BOOK!