In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_opinionsirritationswhatever?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:7b4a862e-fce0-4430-9ac2-ce04e1b41a3fPost:22cce61a-9b8a-4d99-a435-c013eed340e3">Re: Opinions/Irritations/whatever</a>: [QUOTE] <strong>Engaged is not married.</strong> Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]
This is why parents (more than you think) feel the way they do about their engaged children sharing a room.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_opinionsirritationswhatever?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7b4a862e-fce0-4430-9ac2-ce04e1b41a3fPost:eb071709-21bd-4f70-86e8-ccfef0121400">Re: Opinions/Irritations/whatever</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions/Irritations/whatever : Not 'blows my mind' in a bad way, I just don't personally know many people whose parents are like that (or more acurately, I just haven't heard about it). So it's surprising to find so many people on here who grew up like that. Posted by jemmini6[/QUOTE]
When we visit my parents, it's a full house, including two younger sisters (college age and high school age) who spend a lot of time at home. At my in-laws, there are lots of grandkids running around the house when we stay there. If parents in our families tell their kids about activities between or expectations of non-married or married couples, it would kind of be hypocritical to tell them one thing while seemingly allowing the opposite to happen in their own house.
And ftr, just because this is the way I grew up, it's not really all that "surprising" to me that this scenario is not the exact same case in every household across the country.
cfas -- my sister seemed so put together when I saw her last (the day after they broke up). She had a plan. Now she's in limbo again because the loser likes keeping her down in the muck.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_opinionsirritationswhatever?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7b4a862e-fce0-4430-9ac2-ce04e1b41a3fPost:fd35f7c0-a5c1-479c-be07-723a48fa47b2">Re: Opinions/Irritations/whatever</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions/Irritations/whatever : When we visit my parents, it's a full house, including two younger sisters (college age and high school age) who spend a lot of time at home. At my in-laws, there are lots of grandkids running around the house when we stay there. If parents in our families tell their kids about activities between or expectations of non-married or married couples, it would kind of be hypocritical to tell them one thing while seemingly allowing the opposite to happen in their own house. And ftr, just because this is the way I grew up, it's not really all the "surprising" to me that this scenario is not the exact same case in every household across the country. Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]
I understand that, and it makes sense. I wasn't saying I was surprised that it happens at all, just that I was surprised so many people on here grew up that way, when so many people I know IRL didn't. It was just a statement of 'astonishment' at the differences in the way we were all raised, not a judgement of it.
Jem, you've made it known that you are intentionally harsh with posters on the WP board. Granted, they're usually pretty stupid, but not all of them are, and you've bragged that you intentionally try to rip them a new one. IIRC, you even said it was to shame them, not necessarily to even let them know that their behavior is out of line.
Your post here had me imagining you chuckling to yourself while saying, "How quaint! These unenlightened folks are trying to teach their families about morals. That's so cute. I'm so glad my friends and family have never been exposed to this way of thinking."
It seems whenever you are presented with an experience that doesn't totally jive with your own, you immmediately assume it's less valid than yours, or that someone should be pitied. It drives me up the fucking wall.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_opinionsirritationswhatever?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7b4a862e-fce0-4430-9ac2-ce04e1b41a3fPost:de802b74-458b-476f-af1d-45b252c5c971">Re: Opinions/Irritations/whatever</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions/Irritations/whatever : I understand that, and it makes sense. I wasn't saying I was surprised that it happens at all, just that I was surprised so many people on here grew up that way, when so many people I know IRL didn't. It was just a statement of 'astonishment' at the differences in the way we were all raised, not a judgement of it. Posted by jemmini6[/QUOTE]
See, that's funny, because I can think of a host of things that are far more 'astonishing' than whether or not couples share a room at their parents' places before they get married.
The first few times we visited home, my mom had us sleeping in seperate rooms even though we lived together in NC. It didn't bother us though. We were thinking the same thing as most everyone else. Her house, her rules. However it fell to the wayside after she found H (then bf of course) sleeping on the floor of my room instead of the couch so he could be in the same room. She thought it sweet. The funny thing is, 5 years later, he would never do that now!
My irritation for the day: H and I have been staying with family in IN since the wedding. We moved from NC on our honeymoon week. We are moving to Chicago in the next month or so, but the apartment we got approved for won't be available until May. I know there's a million apts in Chicago, but its REALLY hard to find one in a safe neighborhood, that isn't a dump, for the right price. We need to leave my sisters very soon because for a lot of reasons so now we have to half-way move into my mom's for possible two months instead of two or 3 weeks. It's just getting so frustrating half-way living places and not being able to just move on. I'm grateful for the chance to catch up on finances, but this is not ideal. I just need to be patient, but I thought this place would be available mid-March to early April, so we were quite dissapointed when he told us this. The landlord feels really bad that he couldn't accomodate us, but the tenants changed their minds about leaving early
And Jem, if that's not how you mean to come across, maybe you should work on that. I'm not the only one who has noticed or is bothered by it. I recall your name coming up in the occasional FFF or AYG for the same reasons.
Burnt, msybe HE should be the one to sleep in the guest bedroom. If I was keeping H up because I didn't want to try to lose weight, I'd move to the guest room and let him enjoy that nice new bed.
On the other hand, if he was snoring and was doing everything he could to try to stop it, including losing weight if need be, I'd have no problem moving to the guest room as necessary.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_opinionsirritationswhatever?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7b4a862e-fce0-4430-9ac2-ce04e1b41a3fPost:ee3066e3-517f-467e-ad2a-e155ff4541c3">Re: Opinions/Irritations/whatever</a>: [QUOTE]Here is something Blue said, on the last page about the difference in the u/s's Also, and im not 100% on this,<strong> but if you are earlier than 6 weeks or so, its really hard to see on a regular ultrasound.</strong> Transvaginal is much more accurate in locating the pregnancy and determining the age. Posted by crfb87[/QUOTE]
<div>I'm assuming that the reason they are giving for needing to determine the age of the pregnancy is to make sure the abortion isn't taking place after viability (aka is legal). If you are so "newly-pregnant" that you need the invasive US rather than the external version, then you're clearly not in your 3d tri and the abortion would be legal, so why exactly would they have to perfonal the invasive version?</div><div> </div><div>Sorry if something like this has been said, I'm catching up now.</div><div>ETA: I see it has. Whoops!</div>
Special - I can understand that. I have been working on my harshness in the WP threads, but I do admit that's one of the things that really pisses me off when people are assholes to their BP (from personal experience), so I have to remind myself to reign it in sometimes. It's a work in progress. Also, I don't read the FFF threads, so I appreciate it being brought up in here so I'm made aware of it, I'll work on it.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_opinionsirritationswhatever?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7b4a862e-fce0-4430-9ac2-ce04e1b41a3fPost:4d9cabfe-b46a-4d76-904a-78e35ceab724">Re: Opinions/Irritations/whatever</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions/Irritations/whatever : I like the bed in the guest room better, to be honest. ;) Otherwise, he'd move. Posted by burntofferings[/QUOTE]
My mom did this, only it was because my dad likes the room really hot. She started moving to the guest bedroom, but then decided she liked that mattress better anyways, and now she doesn't even bother trying to sleep in the same room anymore.
It still sucks about his snoring though, hopefully they can find a solution that works for him soon.
Re: Opinions/Irritations/whatever
[QUOTE] <strong>Engaged is not married.</strong>
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]
This is why parents (more than you think) feel the way they do about their engaged children sharing a room.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions/Irritations/whatever : Not 'blows my mind' in a bad way, I just don't personally know many people whose parents are like that (or more acurately, I just haven't heard about it). So it's surprising to find so many people on here who grew up like that.
Posted by jemmini6[/QUOTE]
When we visit my parents, it's a full house, including two younger sisters (college age and high school age) who spend a lot of time at home. At my in-laws, there are lots of grandkids running around the house when we stay there. If parents in our families tell their kids about activities between or expectations of non-married or married couples, it would kind of be hypocritical to tell them one thing while seemingly allowing the opposite to happen in their own house.
And ftr, just because this is the way I grew up, it's not really all that "surprising" to me that this scenario is not the exact same case in every household across the country.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions/Irritations/whatever : When we visit my parents, it's a full house, including two younger sisters (college age and high school age) who spend a lot of time at home. At my in-laws, there are lots of grandkids running around the house when we stay there. If parents in our families tell their kids about activities between or expectations of non-married or married couples, it would kind of be hypocritical to tell them one thing while seemingly allowing the opposite to happen in their own house. And ftr, just because this is the way I grew up, it's not really all the "surprising" to me that this scenario is not the exact same case in every household across the country.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]
I understand that, and it makes sense. I wasn't saying I was surprised that it happens at all, just that I was surprised so many people on here grew up that way, when so many people I know IRL didn't. It was just a statement of 'astonishment' at the differences in the way we were all raised, not a judgement of it.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions/Irritations/whatever : I understand that, and it makes sense. I wasn't saying I was surprised that it happens at all, just that I was surprised so many people on here grew up that way, when so many people I know IRL didn't. It was just a statement of 'astonishment' at the differences in the way we were all raised, not a judgement of it.
Posted by jemmini6[/QUOTE]
See, that's funny, because I can think of a host of things that are far more 'astonishing' than whether or not couples share a room at their parents' places before they get married.
My irritation for the day:
H and I have been staying with family in IN since the wedding. We moved from NC on our honeymoon week. We are moving to Chicago in the next month or so, but the apartment we got approved for won't be available until May. I know there's a million apts in Chicago, but its REALLY hard to find one in a safe neighborhood, that isn't a dump, for the right price. We need to leave my sisters very soon because for a lot of reasons so now we have to half-way move into my mom's for possible two months instead of two or 3 weeks. It's just getting so frustrating half-way living places and not being able to just move on. I'm grateful for the chance to catch up on finances, but this is not ideal. I just need to be patient, but I thought this place would be available mid-March to early April, so we were quite dissapointed when he told us this. The landlord feels really bad that he couldn't accomodate us, but the tenants changed their minds about leaving early
Edited: typos, wrong month
[QUOTE]Here is something Blue said, on the last page about the difference in the u/s's Also, and im not 100% on this,<strong> but if you are earlier than 6 weeks or so, its really hard to see on a regular ultrasound.</strong> Transvaginal is much more accurate in locating the pregnancy and determining the age.
Posted by crfb87[/QUOTE]
<div>I'm assuming that the reason they are giving for needing to determine the age of the pregnancy is to make sure the abortion isn't taking place after viability (aka is legal). If you are so "newly-pregnant" that you need the invasive US rather than the external version, then you're clearly not in your 3d tri and the abortion would be legal, so why exactly would they have to perfonal the invasive version?</div><div>
</div><div>Sorry if something like this has been said, I'm catching up now.</div><div>ETA: I see it has. Whoops!</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions/Irritations/whatever : I like the bed in the guest room better, to be honest. ;) Otherwise, he'd move.
Posted by burntofferings[/QUOTE]
My mom did this, only it was because my dad likes the room really hot. She started moving to the guest bedroom, but then decided she liked that mattress better anyways, and now she doesn't even bother trying to sleep in the same room anymore.
It still sucks about his snoring though, hopefully they can find a solution that works for him soon.