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Has This Happened to Anyone Else?
A client came in today while I was working to pick up her dog . She asked me when my wedding is, & I told her, & mentioned how excited I am.
She then went off on a mini-tangent about how she has never seen the point of marriage, & thinks that it is a stupid, outdated institution. And this isn't the first time; this otherwise very nice woman does this EVERY TIME she picks up her dog & I'm there. Add to all this that she cannot remember my name to save her life, but remembers that I'm getting married, & it actually becomes kind of funny.
Several other people have made similar comments to me, some of them suggesting that I'm foolish for even wanting to get married. My view is, if you feel that way it's fine, but don't rub it in my face when you know I'm getting married! It's frustrating. Has anyone else run into this?? Just curious!
She then went off on a mini-tangent about how she has never seen the point of marriage, & thinks that it is a stupid, outdated institution. And this isn't the first time; this otherwise very nice woman does this EVERY TIME she picks up her dog & I'm there. Add to all this that she cannot remember my name to save her life, but remembers that I'm getting married, & it actually becomes kind of funny.
Several other people have made similar comments to me, some of them suggesting that I'm foolish for even wanting to get married. My view is, if you feel that way it's fine, but don't rub it in my face when you know I'm getting married! It's frustrating. Has anyone else run into this?? Just curious!
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Re: Has This Happened to Anyone Else?
People have their own comments and ideas, its human nature. All you can do is smile and nod. Only you and your FI know the reasons of why you two are getting married and thats what counts.
Also remember that some like to bring others down when they themselves are down, but a positive comment can turn them around!
That is however, very obnoxious. . Good luck!
I think the funniest thing I've heard so far is that I shouldn't marry FI because he doesn't make much money and I won't get anything in the divorce.
Just tell them that's nice and then say you've found someone you want to spend the rest of your life with and leave it at that.
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[QUOTE]I think the funniest thing I've heard so far is that I shouldn't marry FI because he doesn't make much money and I won't get anything in the divorce.
Posted by lisarose7[/QUOTE]
WOW. That's awful, and yet bizzarly hilarious.
I have also been told to "run while I can" especially since FI is a cop and everyone thinks he's either going to get hurt, cheat on me, or neglect me because he works so much. Sadly, I have been told this by my own family. I kindly have to explain that I know what I'm getting myself into but thanks for the concern.
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I mean, there are plenty of things I don't agree with or think is stupid and I'm not going to make it a point to ask someone about something and then go off on an unnecessary tirade. Haha, what a piece of work!
As annoying as it was, I tried to remember to take it with a grain of salt. This same woman had 2 failed marriages under her belt. She pretty much thinks any age is a "prime" age for getting divorced, lol.
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One of my mom's friends said "Go to the JOP! The divorce is going to cost you more than the wedding anyway!" As I was introducing her to FI. One of the few times in my life I have ever wanted to just open-hand slap somebody.
I haven't met a single person, not ONE, that works with me, who has only been married once. And I work for a huge corporation with 70+ people in my group alone.
They always say, "oh, I remember on my first honeymoon with my ex..." or "well, mine didn't work out, but i'm sure yours will be great!...." followed by an uncomfortable silence. Yes, yes it will be great, thankyouverymuch.
A coworker who doesn't talk to me often stopped by last week to tell me he was splitting up with his wife. I said, "that's interesting news to give me three weeks before my wedding." I couldn't help myself. Why would you even do that?
Also have to love the disingenuous and uncertain-sounding "oh, well, good luck with that."
I'm just glad I'm not the only one getting this!
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My FI has also gotten it from almost all of his guy friends, which bothers me since they are my friends, too, and they're telling him that marriage ruins relationships. Thanks guys, love you too. Ugh.
[QUOTE]Yeah, I've had this happen to me quite a few times. This from jaded people, married people, single people, the whole lot. The most common one isn't that marriage is silly, but that weddings are silly and a huge waste of money. My response? Thanks for sharing your opinions with me! So glad we don't share them otherwise I'd feel pretty silly about wasting all my money on something so ridiculous."!
Posted by leoraanna[/QUOTE]
That's awesome. I may borrow that comeback from you!