Groomsmen Tuxes?

Cookies Mom · April 2012

What do you guys think of brown tuxes, when my colors are orange and yellow?

pgcp · April 2012

Tuxes should be black. End of story. The men's accessories should be black, maybe dark grey or another very dark color. Let men look like men.

Athsea · April 2012

For Pete's sake, she's not wanting them in ruffly pink shirts with feathers in their hair. Men wear blue, silver, grey, and brown suits all of the time, and even white ones on some occasions. Black is not the only manly color out there. My FI is wearing a silver suit for our wedding, his decision, not mine. And he's the most guy-ish dresser I know. I will say, OP, that I'd make the suits a dark brown to keep the ensemble from looking 70's-ish. But I don't think they're going to look less manly for wearing a a dark suit with brighter shirts.

Athsea · April 2012

That's assuming they're wearing the shirts in those colors. If they're just doing ties or pocket squares in those colors, then yeah, whatever shade of brown you want should be fine.

pgcp · April 2012

Sweetie pie, please take a deep breath and calm down. You need to understand that there is a difference between a tux and a regular suit. Tuxes should be black, suits can be all sorts of colors.

http://www.blacktieguide.com/index.html

Athsea · April 2012

You are technically incorrect, since true tuxedos also come in white and ivory. I am very well aware of the fact that suits are a different item than tuxes. However, for the purposes of this post, I was assuming that by brown tux, she meant brown suit. These days it's very common for the terms to be interchangeable, correct or not. So my response was based off of that assumption- she was talking about suits, not tuxedos.

I took issue with your assertion that black and dark colors were the only manly things to wear. They're not. Otherwise men would never wear colors.

I don't believe the condescension of calling me sweetie pie or telling me to breathe were called for. I was hardly hysterical.

pgcp · April 2012

If you were to go into a tux shop you would see tuxes in all sorts of colors including white, ivory, and brown. All of these colors are contemporary versions of the terrible 70s pastel tuxes. They are just as unfortunate looking. The classic black tux is proper and timeless formal evening wear for a man. When well fitted and chosen in the right cut, it plays up the masculinity of a man like no other outfit can. The high contrast of the black pants, jacket, waistcoat and tie, with the white shirt, visually lengthens the leg line, broadens the shoulders, and tapers the waist. So let men look like men.

rsanna · April 2012

OP, I think brown will look just fine. Are you gonig for a fall themed wedding, by chance? Your color combination sounds great.

mbcdefg · April 2012

Since you asked ... no, I don't care for brown tuxes, no matter what your color scheme. I will always say that black tuxes are the way to go.

That being said, it's your wedding and your decision. Your fiance should be the one making the final call, not you and not us ... so if he wants brown tuxes, then brown it is.

graysquirrel · April 2012

Black is not the only acceptable color for a tux. Our tux colors were charcoal and looked wonderful and very formal. I would take great issue with someone telling me that a color other than black was automatically wrong.

That being said, I think that brown tuxes would probably look strange, but if you really like them and they fit what you want, then that is your decision to make.

pgcp · April 2012

graysquirrel, the men in your picture aren't wearing tuxes. They are wearing morning suits, which are traditionally gray.

misssunshine17 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_groomsmen-tuxes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:9a66ae7a-5f75-4f93-a534-10209e29158bPost:dff10a6e-c33e-4f46-bf28-da8ff296ffb0">Re: Groomsmen Tuxes?</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>Since you asked ... no, I don't care for brown tuxes, no matter what your color scheme. I will always say that black tuxes are the way to go. That being said, it's your wedding and your decision. Your fiance should be the one making the final call, not you and not us ... so if he wants brown tuxes, then brown it is.</strong>
Posted by mbcdefg[/QUOTE]<div>
Ditto!! Brown tuxes/suits are weird to me. </div>

marryingafootballcoach · April 2012

My fiance's sister got married this past October... her BMs wore cranberry & her GM wore brown suits. At first I thought it would look terrible, but I actually thought it fit into her fall scheme very nicely. Everything was beautifully! Personally, I am not a brown fan... If you are, it's your wedding, and I say go for it!!

By the way--- my GM are not wearing black... they're wearing khaki... so black is NOT the only color! In fact, I can't imagine my beach wedding with black tuxes!

Maggie0829 · April 2012

Here is my two cents...

Tuxedos should be black

Suits look great in a variet of colors (to include, black, brown, navy, tan, grey, etc)

If the OP is truly talking about brown tuxedos, then I would say, back away from the brown tux immediately. Whenever I think about brown tuxes all I can picture are my parents wedding pics with the tight bell bottom tux pants and the ugly cream ruffled shirt with velvet brown bow tie.

If the OP is talking about brown suits, then I would say, go for it.

chirpchirp · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_groomsmen-tuxes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:9a66ae7a-5f75-4f93-a534-10209e29158bPost:ca209530-66bb-4db6-ac69-def201aed298">Re: Groomsmen Tuxes?</a>:
[QUOTE]If you were to go into a tux shop you would see tuxes in all sorts of colors including white, ivory, and brown. All of these colors are contemporary versions of the terrible 70s pastel tuxes. They are just as unfortunate looking. The classic black tux is proper and timeless formal evening wear for a man. When well fitted and chosen in the right cut, it plays up the masculinity of a man like no other outfit can. The high contrast of the black pants, jacket, waistcoat and tie, with the white shirt, visually lengthens the leg line, broadens the shoulders, and tapers the waist. So let men look like men.
Posted by pgcp[/QUOTE]

Christ on sale, you sound ridiculous.

mbcdefg · April 2012

What does your fiance think?

marryingafootballcoach · April 2012

I started thinking about this & I googled it... Again, I'd never use brown... then I saw this picture--

http://www.weddingandpartynetwork.com/gallery/photos/3136

They actually look really nice. I don't know... I'm with the PPs... go with what your fiance wants!

TiffannieF · April 2012

We did black tuxes with brown vests/ties. I personally think it looks good but I know some other's do not agree.

Here's a couple pics.

ETA: Definitely talk to your FI and his fellas. I did talk to his BM about it but didn't really talk to DH because he was wearing ivory vest/tie.

graysquirrel · April 2012

Good grief. Here is the definition of tuxedo straight from the dictionary:

Also called dinner jacket. a man's jacket for semiformal evening dress, traditionally of black or dark-blue color and characteristically having satin or grosgrain facing on the lapels.

2.

the complete semiformal outfit, including this jacket, dark trousers, often with silk stripes down the sides, a bow tie, and usually a cummerbund.

Notice how it says "traditionally" and "characteristically". That doesn't mean that they can't be slightly different.

OP, if you want brown tuxes, go for it. Your colors should be what you want them to be, not what a bunch of internet strangers want. I have seen pictures of brown tuxes that were very nice.

princessbride1981 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_groomsmen-tuxes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:9a66ae7a-5f75-4f93-a534-10209e29158bPost:9eff46c9-175e-4d91-92da-dba26d86f5cb">Re: Groomsmen Tuxes?</a>:
[QUOTE]Sweetie pie, please take a deep breath and calm down. You need to understand that there is a difference between a tux and a regular suit. Tuxes should be black, suits can be all sorts of colors. <a href="http://www.blacktieguide.com/index.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.blacktieguide.com/index.html</a>
Posted by pgcp[/QUOTE]
Huh. Considering I went to a wedding last fall that the guys wore brown tuxedos, not suits, and my guys wore charcoal gray tuxedos, once again-not suits, for our wedding, seems like tuxedos do come in other colors!<div>
</div><div>Who cares??? It's a wedding not an etiquette fashion show. It's a time for people to dress however they want it and share a special day with people they love.</div>

Girlie1030 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_groomsmen-tuxes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:9a66ae7a-5f75-4f93-a534-10209e29158bPost:ca209530-66bb-4db6-ac69-def201aed298">Re: Groomsmen Tuxes?</a>:
[QUOTE]If you were to go into a tux shop you would see tuxes in all sorts of colors including white, ivory, and brown. All of these colors are contemporary versions of the terrible 70s pastel tuxes. They are just as unfortunate looking. The classic black tux is proper and timeless formal evening wear for a man. When well fitted and chosen in the right cut, it plays up the masculinity of a man like no other outfit can. The high contrast of the black pants, jacket, waistcoat and tie, with the white shirt, visually lengthens the leg line, broadens the shoulders, and tapers the waist. So let men look like men.
Posted by pgcp[/QUOTE]

So are tuxedo catalogues your porn or something? You seem unhealthily worked up over this.

irishangieb · April 2012

[QUOTE] So are tuxedo catalogues your porn or something? You seem unhealthily worked up over this.
Posted by Girlie1030[/QUOTE]

I'm dyin over here, almost to the point of crying...I thought the same thing!

And wow, I just have to put my two cents in...I agree with SOME PP when I say, I think with your colors, it would look nice.

PERSONALLY, I dont like brown tuxes, but thats just me.

Tuxes don't have to be black, the guys in my wedding are wearing GREY tuxes..not suits.

Geeeeeez louise here! Who knew people could get so huffy over some dang tuxes.

andrea2473 · April 2012

This thread is awesome. What a weird thing to turn into a controversial topic.

I have nothing to add.

Eliz77 · April 2012

My guys will be wearing gray tuxedos. I LOVE the classy look of black tuxedos, but because we are having a summer afternoon wedding, I felt the gray tuxedos went better. I have learned from this site that only black is considered tuxedo-worthy and they should ONLY be worn at night. But guess what? I do not care. I cannot imagine any of my guests judging us for our choices and I know we love our choices, so that is good enough for me!

If you like the brown tuxedos and feel it goes well with your theme, go for it! I really wanted a fall wedding and would have gone with a brown/orange/champagne theme myself.

GroomNeedsAdvice · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_groomsmen-tuxes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:9a66ae7a-5f75-4f93-a534-10209e29158bPost:3778d2c4-2289-41ae-92cc-67b157832508">Re: Groomsmen Tuxes?</a>:
[QUOTE]Tuxes should be black. End of story. The men's accessories should be black, maybe dark grey or another very dark color. <strong>Let men look like men.
</strong>Posted by pgcp[/QUOTE]

I wore a brown suit in my oldest brothers wedding. I was never once mistaken for a woman.

twotimemob · April 2012

The MEN in my daughter's wedding are wearing brown tuxedos. Gasp! And they are real men, last I knew. The tuxes are definitely not the ugly brown ones from the 70s (like my horrid then-boyfriend wore to prom, I was there, I know!).

If my daughter had chosen cool colors then they would have gone with black, but her colors are warm, fall colors, and brown fits in perfectly. So OP, I say GO FOR IT!!

ootmother2 · April 2012

This isn't your decision to make. Ask your FI what he wants

Cookies Mom · April 2012

Holy Cow! (Brown cow of course!) I saw the first response as I was signing out and thought Wow - why don't you tell me how you really fele LOL This is the first opportunity I have had to check responses since then and I am laughing so hard my face hurts! The wedding is my DD& her FI's - they want brown tuxes (yes they are TUXEDOS).

Many of the responses had me cracking up (tuxedo porn? Hilarious!) I had to check out the link that pgcp provided and I learned a lot about the site's take on tuxedos (not sure who made them the authority, but whatever) and just for further laughs I have to share the section that let me know (along with all the PP's advice) that I will be advising my happy couple to do whatever they want and especially to avoid the advice of any one who thinks:

"Your bride is obviously an absolutely wonderful woman or you would not be committing to her for the rest of your natural life. And your wedding day is likely something that she has dreamed of for a long time so it is both gracious and mature of you to defer to her preferences for everything from invitation wording to cake flavor. However, your formal attire is the exception to the rule. No matter how little interest you have in clothing in general, remember that your clothing reflects who you are as a man and carefully consider the implications of allowing your fiancée to base your outfit on the color of the bridesmaids' dresses. At best you will be on par with a little girl's dressed-up puppy and at worst you will be reduced to the status of a matching handbag. She may resent your independence in the short term but in the long run your marriage will benefit from your refusal to begin it as a sartorial eunuch."

OMG! Shades of "Get those silly thoughts out of your head and get thee behind me woman!!!!" LMAO

ootmother2 · April 2012

This has to be one of the most ludicrous posts I've ever seen on these boards.

ootmother2 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_groomsmen-tuxes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:9a66ae7a-5f75-4f93-a534-10209e29158bPost:9eff46c9-175e-4d91-92da-dba26d86f5cb">Re: Groomsmen Tuxes?</a>:
[QUOTE]Sweetie pie, please take a deep breath and calm down. You need to understand that there is a difference between a tux and a regular suit. Tuxes should be black, suits can be all sorts of colors. <a href="http://www.blacktieguide.com/index.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.blacktieguide.com/index.html</a>
Posted by pgcp[/QUOTE]

Please don't be disrespectful of other posters here. Calling another poster "Sweetie pie" is talking down to her and it won't win you any points on the boards, trust me.

andrea2473 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_groomsmen-tuxes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:9a66ae7a-5f75-4f93-a534-10209e29158bPost:9ae0b519-b1cf-4884-86f4-d9ba4c00844b">Re: Groomsmen Tuxes?</a>:
[QUOTE]Greysquirrel, pgpc is correct. Your guys are not wearing tuxedos. Those are daytime formalwear cutaway coats - not tuxedos. <a href="http://blacktiephilly.com/greycutaway.shtml" rel="nofollow">http://blacktiephilly.com/greycutaway.shtml</a> OP, I was the MOB, too<strong>, but I never asked a question on the Knot pretending to be my daughter. Who's wedding is this, anyway? Ootmother is correct. This definitely isn't your decision to make!
</strong>Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

Dude. I think she's just trying to get opinions for her daughter. I ran a lot of stuff by my mom when it came to decor and I really wouldn't have cared if she used a forum to ask opinions.

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