So my FI and I have asked our friends and family to be in our wedding. Now, back when my mother got married in the 80s, you asked people who you grew up with to be in your wedding regardless if they know your FI. I have a male cousin who, yeah, I grew up with but once he hit about 16 or so (he is younger than me by almost 3 years) I was about 19, we really weren't close or anything. Like now when we see each other on family holidays or gatherings its fine. It's not that we don't get along, we just aren't close or anything, He also barely knows my FI other than a few times they have met and gone to the gym together (Twice to be exact). It's not like we talk daily or text often. I barely hear from him. Now for the stressful part. I am getting heat from my mother about making him a groomsman. I don't really agree because he has not been apart of our relationship outside of holiday's or important family gatherings. This has caused a huge fight because my parents think that regardless of whether or not they played an important role in our relationship, if they are family, they need to be up there. I feel differently. I feel that those that are up there with us are the ones that have all played a role in our relationship. I don't feel like I am wrong but now my mother and I are fighting over this.
