I know it's not ideal to boot someone from the wedding party once they have been asked but certain events have caused me to think about replacing one of my groomsmen.
First of all he is my former brother in law. My sister and him have been divorced almost over a year now. When they first divorced it was very amicable and there was no fighting. However since then he has become very distant, doesn't see their children, has said some very horrible things about my sister to people we are all friends with, plays messages she leaves for him to friends to make fun of her, and the last straw was the last 2 incidents. My father had to be taken to the hospital a few weeks ago and my sister needed to get ahold of him to watch their kids. when she called him he said he was working and couldn't. Come to find out he was with his new girlfriend and not working at all. Then this last weekend he was supposed to watch the kids so my fiance and sister could go try on dresses and get fitted. He never showed up to get the kids, so they had to cancel. Everyone in the family is upset, and doesn't want him to be there. My sister said she wishes I would kindly ask him to step down because this is a family event and he obviously doesn't care about our family or lately his own kids. As much as I hate to say it I agree. I think his lack of concern for me, my sister, my family, and his own kids is enough! Should I boot him, talk to him, or leave this between my sister and him to work out??? I am so lost on this one.....