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Cousin groomsman

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Is it appropriate to ask my fiance to include my male cousin as one of his groomsmen? His sister and both my cousins are going to be my bridesmaids. I have no siblings so this cousin in particular was like a sibling to me growing up.

My fiance at first wasn't happy with the idea; he says my cousin won't fit in with the rest of his groomsmen friends. Is he justified here, or should he be more flexible for my sake?
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  • gottahavashortigottahavashorti member
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    It would be  more appropriate to have him as a bridal attendant.
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  • aecappelliaecappelli
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    If you want him in your wedding, ask him to stand up for you on your side.
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  • aerinpegadrakaerinpegadrak member
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    My brother stood up on my side because he and DH don't get along, and DH wasn't really comfortable with him as a groomsman.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
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    If he were to stand on my side, should he still wear the same suit as the other groomsmen, or something else, maybe matching the color of the bridesmaid dresses?
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  • gottahavashortigottahavashorti member
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    Either one is fine, his attire would really be a matter of personal preference.  He could wear his own suit with a pocket square and tie in the color of the BM dresses.
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  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    You choose your side, he chooses his.

    WPs are not about symmetry or gender, so you can have your cousin on your side.  Think of your WP as "attendants" rather than bridesmaids, and then the clothing issue is taken care of.  I personally would have your cousin in the same tux/suit as the GM, with perhaps a different colored bout or pocket square.
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
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    Thanks everyone for the input!
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