engagment parties, showers and the bachelorette party

Re: engagment parties, showers and the bachelorette party

• mag2311 member

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  We just had our engagement party this past weekend - future father-in-law hosted it for us. You should has your mother-in-law, there is no harm in asking and considering she wants it.. For us, we both come from divorce families so it was good to get everyone in one place prior to the big day. Not to mention we had a freaking blast.

  
  

  I wouldn't over do it with the shower, they should work together on it.

  
  

  I think you can plan your own bachelorette, there is nothing wrong with that in my book. 

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• CassieeK

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  You shouldn't host your own engagement party.  If your MIL offers to throw one, great, but don't ask her to do it.  You said she wants one, so it sounds like she will offer.

  
  

  You can have more than one shower; the MOH is not obligated to throw any parties for you.  In some circles, it is considered inappropriate for the MOB to throw a shower, but I think it is becoming more common for them to do do.

  
  

  You should not plan your own bachelorette party, and no one is "supposed" to plan one for you.  Parties are gifts....nice if they are offered, but not required. 

  

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• catwine member

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  If i did plan my own bachelorette party it wouldn't be to celebrate my "last days of freedom", it would be one last hurrah with my best friends before we all move forward with our lives.

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• Bthor

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_engagment-parties-showers-bachelorette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:32Discussion:77ab0af8-da93-426e-a4c6-37eb01963783Post:6111a8cf-ff81-4dba-a970-80c85fe08771">Re: engagment parties, showers and the bachelorette party</a>:
  [QUOTE]We just had our engagement party this past weekend - future father-in-law hosted it for us. You should has your mother-in-law, there is no harm in asking and considering she wants it.. For us, we both come from divorce families so it was good to get everyone in one place prior to the big day. Not to mention we had a freaking blast. I wouldn't over do it with the shower, they should work together on it. I think you can plan your own bachelorette, there is nothing wrong with that in my book. 
  Posted by mag2311[/QUOTE]
  
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  </div><div>This is bad advice.</div><div>
  </div><div>If someone throws a party for you accept it or decline it. You do not ask anyone to throw any parties for you, nor do you throw your own pre wedding parties. </div>

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• ahampton27 member

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  Do not ask your MIL to throw you an engagment party. If she brings it up again, just let her know that you don't know if anyone is going to throw one for you. If she really thinks and wants you to have an engagement party, she will take it upon herself to throw you one. There is not rule where you have to have an engagment party.
  
  If your mom and her friend want to throw you a shower, GREAT! You have the choice to accept it or decline it. Like PP's have said, the MOH does not have to throw you any parties. It isn't uncommon for the MOH and bp to throw you a shower, but it is certainly not required. And it is acceptable to have more than one shower. Just be sure you are not inviting the same people to every shower.
  
  DO NOT, I repeat, do not throw your own bachelorette party. Again, if someone offers to throw it for you, great, otherwise you don't get one. It comes off as rude to throw a party (and ask for gifts) for yourself.  You have a year before the wedding, so it's probably a little early for the plans to start for any showers and the bachelorette.
  
  Enjoy your planning!

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