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princessecaroline
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Bridesmaid Issues- Sister required?
I have seven BMs, two of my cousins, two really close friends, two girls I dance with and a girl who really needs an older sister. I am very happy with all of them and they are all doing everything I can to help with things. I was talking to a co-worker about it and she was absolutely astounded that I didn't have my older sister as a BM, is it an unwritten rule to have sisters as BMs?
My sister and I haven't been close since I was about 6. She is currently in a relationship with a guy, who she has a 2-year-old with, who is a Satanist. He has convinced her that all churches are bad and she won't step foot in a church. Wouldn't that make the ceremony a little difficult?
My sister and I haven't been close since I was about 6. She is currently in a relationship with a guy, who she has a 2-year-old with, who is a Satanist. He has convinced her that all churches are bad and she won't step foot in a church. Wouldn't that make the ceremony a little difficult?
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Re: Bridesmaid Issues- Sister required?
[QUOTE]I have seven BMs, two of my cousins, two really close friends, two girls I dance with and a girl who really needs an older sister. I am very happy with all of them and they are all doing everything I can to help with things. I was talking to a co-worker about it and she was absolutely astounded that I didn't have my older sister as a BM, is it an unwritten rule to have sisters as BMs? My sister and I haven't been close since I was about 6. She is currently in a relationship with a guy, who she has a 2-year-old with, who is a Satanist. He has convinced her that all churches are bad and she won't step foot in a church. Wouldn't that make the ceremony a little difficult?
Posted by princessecaroline[/QUOTE]
To answer your first question, no you are not required to have your sister in your wedding. That being said, a lot of ladies simply do to save themselves family drama, etc. Only the nearest and dearest should stand up for you on your wedding day, so if you two aren't close, then it wouldn't make much sense for her to be in the wedding.
In regards to your sisters boyfriend, (should you decide to ask her to be a BM), I don't think I would worry about him. If he won't step foot in a church, then that means he wouldn't attend your ceremony assuming it is in a church irregardless of the fact he is dating your sister. I am not telling you what to do, but chances are even if you went ahead and asked her to be a BM, she might decline anyway not only b/c you two aren't close, but due to the boyfriend knowing he wouldn't be able to attend the wedding with her.
[QUOTE]I have seven BMs, two of my cousins, two really close friends, two girls I dance with and a girl who really needs an older sister. I am very happy with all of them and they are all doing everything I can to help with things. I was talking to a co-worker about it and she was absolutely astounded that I didn't have my older sister as a BM, is it an unwritten rule to have sisters as BMs? My sister and I haven't been close since I was about 6. She is currently in a relationship with a guy, who she has a 2-year-old with, who is a Satanist. He has convinced her that all churches are bad and she won't step foot in a church. Wouldn't that make the ceremony a little difficult?
Posted by princessecaroline[/QUOTE]
You are not required to have anyone in your WP that you don't feel close to.
But, really? A Satanist? Tell me more, please.
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Our wedding date is November 12, 2011
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oot- I have never known one before either. I mean, H has a few friends/accquaintances that are atheists, but other than that, I have never met one.
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[QUOTE]I wonder if they think they will burst into flames or something if they go only holy ground? Not trying to be snarky, I am genuinely curious. I too have never met a Satanist. I mean, I don't for example believe in the Buddhist faith, but I would not hae a problem attending a ceremony at a temple.
Posted by FutureJilliannD[/QUOTE]
Most mature people WOULD attend a ceremony at a religious site, even if they don't believe in the faith, out of respect for the bride and groom and THEIR faith. It's not about being a satanist, it's about being an immature asshole.
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[QUOTE]The church of Satan was founded in San Francisco. I unfortunately stumbled upon one of their big international celebrations on 6-6-06. I will refrain from saying more about them at this time.
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]
That is what I just read, mica. Weird.
As for your sister's satanist boyfriend, wow. You'd think he'd be a little bit more mature/respectful and just deal with it for the short amount of time that the ceremony would take. No one is going to force him to say the prayers/go through any other rites. Regardless, you still have to invite him knowing he may not come/may not attend the ceremony.
Our wedding date is November 12, 2011
RSVP Date October 12th, 2011