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Significant others that weren't S/Os before...

auriannaaurianna member
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We have two friends we've invited to our wedding. Both were single back in October/early November when we asked them if they were seeing anyone. So when we sent the list to the printers the invites were sent just to them (we're tight on head count and they'd both know other people at the wedding. We're doing +1s to those with S/Os only)
Fast foward to present. One of them shot me an email and asked if it was too late to bring his girlfriend. Apparently they've recently become exclusive.
The other friend wrote in a girl on his response card. I checked on FB and it looks like they're at least facebook-official.

We are dancing right around the magical occupancy line that will shoot the room rental fee up another $500 if we cross.

I'm guessing I still have to let these two girls in now, even if they weren't in the picture when we wrote the original guestlist?
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  • marriedfilingjointlymarriedfilingjointly
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    Yeah, you really ought to let them bring the new S/Os. 
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  • redheadfsuredheadfsu member
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    I think you should add them. This is why you leave room in your list for add-ons.

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  • FutureMrsTRFutureMrsTR
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    You asked them about a month ago and they said they were single and all of a sudden now they're serious?  I'd come down more on the side of not letting them come if you're that close to your maximum.  If you have room, sure let them come, this isn't a situation of someone RSVPing for her DIL and 4 kids.
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  • auriannaaurianna member
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    edited December 2010
    Including the GF's we're 31 away from the price-hike line / floor plan re-design. We're still waiting on about 60 responses. 20 or so I expect to be yeses, 20 I except to be noes, and 20 maybes. So we might be hosed either way and I guess we knew it could happen. I'll just let them bring them and bite the bullet.

    Thanks for the input.
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  • Summer2011BrideSummer2011Bride member
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    I would invite them, esp. after you explained the situation more in your second post. As you said, you might be over anyways without inviting them. I really doubt if you DO go over, it will be by two only. Hope for the best and that you fall under the line but extend an invite to the two girls.


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  • SheenaNash1SheenaNash1
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    I say no, invite the people on your guest list and stick to it. People are always dating and breaking up, and I'm sure the new GF's could really give two hoots about going to a wedding of someone they don't know. You said these people know others at the wedding so its not like they will be sitting around all alone. Save yourself the money!
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  • sunnysarahinNCsunnysarahinNC
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    FI and I are grappling with this one too- ordering invites and finalizing counts- and a few guests have recently started dating new people, but have a history of not getting serious! in fact, FI doesn't WANT to invite some of the new gf/bf. anyways, we're going to decide when we do send out invites whether we'll invite or not (depending on how serious the gf/bf is).

    we are tight on space (and budget), but in the end, i think i'll be a push over and let them come :)
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