Our wedding is in less than 45 days at a very posh hotel in downtown Seattle, WA. We have established with most guests that we are requesting that no kids attend or event. We know that it is a little hipacritical because we have a 2 yr old daughter that is the flower girl" and I wanted my nephew, who is supposed to be the ringbearer and I practically raised, to come. The issue is that my very uninvolved sister wants her "current" boyfriends (of less than a year) son to come and because I said no, she has declined her invite because she needs to "protect her family and doesn't want to make a seperation between my nephew and her son". Let me add that I have only seen this child maybe 3 times. Our younger brother was murdered a year and a half ago and I think this is absolutley obsurd that she would not want to be there for me on this very important day. I would expect her to come, at the least. It's fine if she leaves all others at home, But I am afirm believer in treating others the way you want to be treated! Many of my friends with children have RSVPd with their kids included and I had to let them know that it was an ADULTs ONLY event, to which they graciously understood. I am trying to stick to my word because if the guest count gets out of hand with the children, then our budget will get out of hand.....even more (more than 50 dollars for a plate of chicken fingers for kids!). Am I being too harsh?