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+1's for singles in the wedding party?

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FI and I are giving anyone over 18 a +1 invite, regardless of relationship status.  However, we are wondering what to do about single members of our WP.  Do we give them a +1 as well?  We are not trying to exclude single members of the WP, but are thinking more in terms of how the +1 would feel spending chunks of time alone because the BM or GM is either taking pictures during cocktail hour, going around with the B&G to tables to socialize and thank guests for coming, etc.  It may also be uncomfortable for the +1 if they don't know anyone at the wedding and have no one to hang with while their date is off with the rest of the wedding party.  Thoughts?
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  • Starfish0116Starfish0116 member
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    edited February 2012
    Only the bride and groom are responsible for table-to-table socializing (or any form of thanking) during the wedding. After the ceremony and formal pictures, the bridal party should be free the rest of the evening. I would definitely want a +1. How much would is suck to spend all that money to be in someone's wedding and then not get a date to enjoy yourself with? 

    Give them the +1 and let them decide if they want to bring someone.
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  • MyUserName1MyUserName1 member
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    It seems like a weird expectation that the bridal party will be doing table visits.  I think once the reception starts, their "job" is pretty much over, excepting toasts.

    It seems super rude to give +1 to all single guests EXCEPT for the WP
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  • MrsSmith2Be02MrsSmith2Be02 member
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    If anybody is getting +1s then it should definately be your WP. Depending on the social circles, their +1 just might know some other people there. In my case, Atlanta is big as a city, but small when you get into circles, so everybody knows somebody - that 6 degrees of separation thing. So eventually, it won't even matter. People are grown adults, they will adjust and accomodate themselves.
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  • SB1512SB1512 member
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    Ok.  I was just wondering.  I've been in 2 weddings and both times the WP did table visits during dinner.  Not to tables we didn't know, but we did go around and socialize with guests we did know during dinnertime.  Maybe that's just the custom in my geographical area?
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  • mbodymbody
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    Yes, extend a +1 to your WP. It seems weird to exclude them a guest when you are giving everyone over the age 18 a plus one. I've also never heard of the WP going around to table during dinner. I've always seen just the B and G do that.
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  • dori851dori851 member
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    I would definitely give singles in your WP a +1.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_1s-for-singles-in-the-wedding-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:e7bcc20e-74d2-4bd9-91fa-6cfdd75e00acPost:64ca03c4-9d93-483a-ab95-8c9b4ced4103">Re: +1's for singles in the wedding party?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ok.  I was just wondering.  I've been in 2 weddings and both times the WP did table visits during dinner. <strong> Not to tables we didn't know, but we did go around and socialize with guests we did know during dinnertime.</strong>  Maybe that's just the custom in my geographical area?
    Posted by SB1512[/QUOTE]

    Couldn't a +1 or SO easily do that with them then?
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_1s-for-singles-in-the-wedding-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:e7bcc20e-74d2-4bd9-91fa-6cfdd75e00acPost:64ca03c4-9d93-483a-ab95-8c9b4ced4103">Re: +1's for singles in the wedding party?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ok.  I was just wondering.  I've been in 2 weddings and both times the WP did table visits during dinner. <strong> Not to tables we didn't know, but we did go around and socialize with guests we did know during dinnertime. </strong> Maybe that's just the custom in my geographical area?
    Posted by SB1512[/QUOTE]
    Everyone, whether they're in the WP or not, goes around & socializes with people they know. That's part of the fun of weddings. If your WP members want to go around & say hi, they can just bring their SO with them. That's what I usually do.

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  • SB1512SB1512 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_1s-for-singles-in-the-wedding-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:e7bcc20e-74d2-4bd9-91fa-6cfdd75e00acPost:7eac4b92-a675-4ec7-a925-d67f33bf4dfa">Re: +1's for singles in the wedding party?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: +1's for singles in the wedding party? : See it isn't a required thing to do (like the B and G doing table visits/receiving line to thank everyone).  They are basically socializing with their friends, which is what happens at a wedding anyway. Please allow them +1s.  <strong>And remember if they are in a relationship it isn't a +1.  They are a social unit and must be invited together by name.</strong>
    Posted by crfb87[/QUOTE]

    I'm aware.  I wasn't asking about WP guests in a relationship.  I was asking about singles only.  Thanks for the input everyone we'll be giving single WB members a +1.
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  • beth34608beth34608
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    I think everyone over 18 including the WP should have a +1.
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  • mhogbergmhogberg member
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    In the weddings I have been in, yes at dinner we wondered from table to table but that is because during the ceremony you see all these people that you may not have seen in a while and want to catch up with.  Bride and Groom are on their own for saying thank you, the wp shouldn't have to go with you to all but hold your hand.
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