Inviting Children?

SandDD · March 2010

So my parents are hosting a small, informal engagement brunch for us with close family and friends in April. I’m not sure the proper way to handle the children situation. I was under the assumption that whoever is invited to the engagement party (and any other pre-wedding party, if I have them) are to be invited to the wedding. Does this also apply to children?

I have two younger first cousins (elementary school age) and FI has 3 or 4 (from 2 year old to a teenager). I still have over a year to decide the guest list for our actual wedding, but I don’t think we’ll be having any children at the wedding other than FI’s son (our ring bearer). Would it be in bad taste to invite children to the e-party and not the wedding? Or would it be worse to have our family look for babysitters for a Sunday brunch?

aMrsin09 · March 2010

I'm going to say the invite rule only applies to the adults.

ac_in_dc · March 2010

I don't know the hard and fast etiquette rule on this, but my gut instinct is that it's OK to invite the kids to the party and not the wedding.

AlexiaANDRobert · March 2010

I agree with PP's.

I don't know the etiquette "rule", but don't think it's a big deal.

FutureMrsTR · March 2010

I think the "bad etiquette" comes from the idea of people bringing gifts to pre-wedding events and then not being invited to the wedding. But the kids aren't going to bring gifts anyway so I don't think it matters if you include them in the brunch, but not the wedding.

SandDD · March 2010

Thanks ladies! I appreciate the feedback and think it's a great idea to set expectations that children may not be at the big day. We will be having a traditional evening reception.

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