Out of town quest

shefiend · May 2010

We are having a wedding out of town (in my hometown) and will be renting a house/bed and breakfast for 3 nights 4 days. This house is where our reception will occur and will house our out of town guests. My understanding is that out of town quests pay for their own lodging, so would it be appropriate and how would the best way be to ask for compensation for the rooms that they will be staying in? For example we are renting the place for $2,500 ajd if the quests were to go to a hotel it would be at leat $200 for them to have a room...

Thanks SO much!

katieanne85 · May 2010

wait so its just a house? a bed and breakfast or any establishment would let you block rooms but your guests would make their own transactions. If you are just renting a house then it will come across as your trying to charge your guests to come to your wedding.
Unless it is a reputable establisment that for some reson does not rent out rooms separately? never heard of that, but yeah its really weird to have your guests pay you to stay with you. I would make other arraingements and talk to the manager or event planner at this "B&B"

apaadzzzz · May 2010

Absolutely do not charge your guests!!! It's one thing to have a room block and your guests opt to stay there and pay, it's another if they are staying with you! If you are renting a house you should treat your guests as if they were staying in your home. And I highly doubt you will be offering the amenities they would receice at a hotel anyway.... will you be cleaning their room? offering turn down service? or room service? They are your guests and should be treated as such, not asked to compensate you for the house you've decided to rent for your wedding. It's no different then asking guests to chip in for their dinner, the venue, or the bar costs.

katieanne85 · May 2010

yeah apadzzzzz I am really hoping that OP just didnt explain the situation properly, I wanted to give benefit of the doubt, Seen way too many rude ideas about weddings around here, this sure looks like one.

fairy_diva · May 2010

I answered you on the budget board...

aerinpegadrak · May 2010

Logistically, there's no way to do this without coming across as the greediest person to ever live. You'd be renting the entire house whether the guests stay there or not, right? Then they have no responsibility to pay you if they stay there.

If you're not renting the entire place and the B&B will be able to sell those rooms if your guests don't book, then you can block the rooms as you would at any other hotel and have them pay the establishment directly if they choose to stay there.

shefiend · May 2010

I wasnt trying to be rude that is why I was asking. We are very strapped for money (beacause my anti-rejection medications cost me 900 per month) and this place is actually one of the most economical ways to do this. I understand how it sounds...I guess it would take to long to explain our situation....sorry.

katieanne85 · May 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_out-of-town-quest?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:c6ba3a11-e997-4fa7-b59f-b15e8e36ad80Post:4c7d6cfe-caf8-41ff-a188-cc72164041c6">Re: Out of town quest</a>:
[QUOTE]I wasnt trying to be rude that is why I was asking. We are very strapped for money (beacause my anti-rejection medications cost me 900 per month) and this place is actually one of the most economical ways to do this. I understand how it sounds...I guess it would take to long to explain our situation....sorry.
Posted by shefiend[/QUOTE]

I'm sorry to hear your having a tough time, however it is rude to charge guests to stay with you, regardless of why you need the money. Im sure they will be just as happy to see you have a wedding you can actually afford without charging rent.

aerinpegadrak · May 2010

I understand that you're not trying to be rude, my point was that it's going to come across as rude whether or not that's your intention. I would talk to the proprieter and see if you can work it out that guests who want to stay there can pay them directly instead of you. There's nothing wrong with your guests paying for their own hotel, but when you get in the middle it gets tricky.

MyNameIsNot · May 2010

It doesn't matter what your financial situation is. It's going to look rude to charge your guests. Talk to the B&B and ask them to make arrangements for your guests to pay them directly for the rooms, and leave you out of it.

If you can't afford it, you need to look into more affordable options. A JOP costs about $50. Everything else is fluff. There are always cheaper options. If you can't afford the B&B, maybe you need to consider doing something simpler.

redheadfsu · May 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_out-of-town-quest?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:c6ba3a11-e997-4fa7-b59f-b15e8e36ad80Post:4c7d6cfe-caf8-41ff-a188-cc72164041c6">Re: Out of town quest</a>:
[QUOTE]I wasnt trying to be rude that is why I was asking. We are very strapped for money (beacause my anti-rejection medications cost me 900 per month) and this place is actually one of the most economical ways to do this. I understand how it sounds...I guess it would take to long to explain our situation....sorry.
Posted by shefiend[/QUOTE]

I understand what you are trying to do. Renting a house & dividing the cost. Like what you would do for springbreak.

The problem is that it can come off as rude for the wedding. You should be hosting your guests and a host doesn't ask for reimbursement. I wouldn't do this, but if you are hell bend then I would suggest the MOH lead this. So it is more of the WP & family idea than yours. But I want to caution that this can get messy, especially if people change their mind last minute.

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