I have a good friend that is married and has 4 children. When she heard we were doing a destination wedding, she told me not to bother sending an invite because she'd never be able to afford the trip for 6 people. She's happy for us, she just can't afford to go. She has been very helpful though - listening to me, offering advice, helping me with my DIY stuff. She says she is sad that she can't be there for the wedding, so she wants to help in other ways. She has been WAY more supportive than my MoH and probably would have been my MoH if we had gotten married at home and she were able to attend.
Anyway, we're just under 6 weeks from the wedding and she asked about my shower. I told her I wasn't having one and she decided to throw me one. That's very nice of her, but sort of awkward since she's not even invited to the wedding. I kept telling her no, since I know her financial situation isn't the greatest with 4 children and them being a 1 income family. I didn't want that add financial burden on her. She swears she's fine money-wise. I tried many times in many ways to tell her no, but she insists I deserve a shower. I thought I had held her off but today she called and was adamant, saying she already started shopping for my shower and to give her a guest list. I told her there wasn't enough time to get invites out, so she posted on my facebook wall that she's throwing a shower for me and if anyone wants to come, they should message her.
Yeah. Insert jaw drop here.
I feel bad because this is SO wrong, especially since my family was adamant that I not have a shower since we've lived together for so long, etc. Now my friend is inviting everyone on my facebook page. She already bought supplies and some of the food - so what do I do?
58 invited
| 17 love destination weddings
20 can't make it
| 21 don't know what to do with a RSVP card
RSVP Deadline: March 8th