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Blueyed228
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DX: PCOS/Recurrent losses/MTHFR mutation (compound hetero)
5 hysteroscopies/2 surgical
3 Inject IUIs = 2 m/c's and 1 BFN
IVF #1= BFP. m/c at 7w6d. Needed 2 D&C's and scar tissue removal. Mild OHSS
IVF #2 = BFP. Severe OHSS. 4 Drainings. TWINS!
Is it ever ok to break the rule??
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DX: PCOS/Recurrent losses/MTHFR mutation (compound hetero)
5 hysteroscopies/2 surgical
3 Inject IUIs = 2 m/c's and 1 BFN
IVF #1= BFP. m/c at 7w6d. Needed 2 D&C's and scar tissue removal. Mild OHSS
IVF #2 = BFP. Severe OHSS. 4 Drainings. TWINS!
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Re: Is it ever ok to break the rule??
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[QUOTE]If you don't invite her, you're probably going to damage your relationship with your fiance's best friend. But that whole situation just sucks.
Posted by khornack[/QUOTE]
This. I think you need to talk to your FI about it and get his opinion. Maybe he can talk to his friend. If it were me I wouldn't invite someone so disrespectful to my wedding but most people on here will probably tell you that you have to invite her.
Just pray she pops the kid out right before your wedding so she won't show up!!!
talk to your FI and the two of you figure out a solution. I know there are 'rules' to wedding ettiquet but come on this is you and your FI's wedding day and you can do whatever you want because ::those you mind dont matter, and those who dont matter mind:: good luck
It sounds like she is a pill, but try to give her a little leeway....preggo hormones make you crazy! If she was terrible before than fine, but if not consider that she may be showing signs of a hormonal or chemical imbalance. The flip out when you asked her to change the shower date sounds like a classic case.
I think you might find that once you decide to invite her you feel good about it...like you have done something very mature and risen above the drama.
Bigeye: This broad get no leeway from me. She was like this way before she was pregnant, lol. And if I know her, she will pop the kid out a few days before and bring the baby to the wedding just to somehow make the day about her, lol. That is how insane she is. Remember, this is the girl that decided it was a good idea to show up at our friends christening late, in jeans, yelling "WE ARE PREGNANT" as she came down the stairs (at 7 weeks preggo).
FI is at his wits end with his friend. He is really pissed that her H has not stepped in and told her to cut the crap. Plus, if she doesnt go, then there is no way she is going to let him come. Whether I invite her or not. Its such a shame. They used to be such good friends.
But so help me god if she continues with this garbage she is going to get an earful from me. I dont care if she is pregnant or not.
DX: PCOS/Recurrent losses/MTHFR mutation (compound hetero)
5 hysteroscopies/2 surgical
3 Inject IUIs = 2 m/c's and 1 BFN
IVF #1= BFP. m/c at 7w6d. Needed 2 D&C's and scar tissue removal. Mild OHSS
IVF #2 = BFP. Severe OHSS. 4 Drainings. TWINS!
Everything the light touches is my kingdom.
[QUOTE]Geez. Do you guys have someone who can step in as a GM in case she prevents her husband from attending?
Posted by bigeyedm[/QUOTE]
Yeah...don't do this.
Everything the light touches is my kingdom.
[QUOTE]Geez. Do you guys have someone who can step in as a GM in case she prevents her husband from attending?
Posted by bigeyedm[/QUOTE]
If he cant come becuase of her, then thats fine. We have other GM's. I would not replace him.
I just hate when guys dont have any guts when they get married. If I ever pulled this crap, FI would have stepped in a long time ago and told me to knock it off. He is actually suprised that I have kept my composure, lol. I am known for popping off at the mouth.
DX: PCOS/Recurrent losses/MTHFR mutation (compound hetero)
5 hysteroscopies/2 surgical
3 Inject IUIs = 2 m/c's and 1 BFN
IVF #1= BFP. m/c at 7w6d. Needed 2 D&C's and scar tissue removal. Mild OHSS
IVF #2 = BFP. Severe OHSS. 4 Drainings. TWINS!
I'm open about my feelings and she's always known that I don't agree with her relationship with him. He also has never gotten along with my FI, and they can't stand each other.
My sister is a BM and she and I had a very open conversation about whether it was a good idea for her husband to attend my wedding. We both agreed that it's not. So he's not going to be invited.
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[QUOTE]Rule or not, I think the best reason NOT to un-invite her is that she would just love it if you did that. The mileage she would get out of how terrible you were being to her would be just ridiculous.
Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]
She is one to thrive on this. "OMG did you hear what Melissa did?!? She is so jealous of me that she un-invited me to her wedding. Can you believe that??? What a rude person"
I know a lot of people like her and she will exploit whatever you decide to do. I know it really sucks but you do have to be the bigger person (even when you really don't want to be.) But chances are you won't even notice her on the wedding day - and hopefully she won't even be able to come.
But I definitely sympathize with you on this one. FI and I have someone we really don't want there but we have to invite her anyway.
Has your FI talked to the GM about his wife? If one of my DH's friend's wives were treating me like that, he'd for sure ask his friend what his wife's problem was. There's no excuse for that kind of treatment, pregnant or not.
I would probably mess with her, but that's just me. When she posts something on FB about being jealous, I'd be right there telling her she's soooo right, that I looove her hair and her body and her clothes and I wish I could be JUST LIKE YOU, that would make my life complete. Start asking for pointers on how to be classy so I'll know when to start calling people out on FB too. but then, I typically cause more problems than solve them, so I don't suggest that route.
[QUOTE]I would probably mess with her, but that's just me. When she posts something on FB about being jealous, I'd be right there telling her she's soooo right, that I looove her hair and her body and her clothes and I wish I could be JUST LIKE YOU, that would make my life complete. Start asking for pointers on how to be classy so I'll know when to start calling people out on FB too. but then, I typically cause more problems than solve them, so I don't suggest that route.
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]
Yeah, don't go this route, either. It will just make you look incredibly immature to all your mutual friends. Take the high road here. Invite her to the wedding, and all other events GM is invited to. Just don't pay attention to her at them. Don't let her get a rise out of you and you will come out looking like the classy one. If she makes an ass of herself, she's going to look like an idiot.
Just call me "Brothel"
And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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She's probably trying to get you NOT to invite her so she can talk badly about you even more. Don't give in to her...just be cordial to her at the events.
[QUOTE]She's probably trying to get you NOT to invite her so she can talk badly about you even more. Don't give in to her...just be cordial to her at the events.
Posted by sophistryliz[/QUOTE]
Even when what you say actually makes sense, I still only see "blah blah blah crazy talk blah blah blah."
Everything the light touches is my kingdom.
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Posted by lharri12[/QUOTE]
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Just call me "Brothel"
And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]
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Everything the light touches is my kingdom.
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Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]
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Just call me "Brothel"
And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]
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Everything the light touches is my kingdom.