How can I include my 4 month old baby in our wedding?

Niks A one day · June 2010

My fiance and I have a 7 week old son who will be 4 months old at the time of the wedding. We are wanting to find some way to include him in the ceremony since my 2 children from a previous marriage will be in the wedding. My 5 year old daughter will be flower girl, and my 10 year old son would be a ring bearer. (He's a little old, I know--but he really wanted the "job" lol)
The only idea I could come up with was to get him a tuxedo onesie, lay him in a litte red wagon (padded comfortably with some plush black fabric--our wedding colors are white black and red) and have my son pull it along with him as he walks down the aisle.
Any other suggestions?

weddingsareagirlsbestfriend · June 2010

see this blog for great tips!

http://weddingsareagirlsbestfriend.tumblr.com/post/698246970/married-with-children

bbyckes · June 2010

You don't. Make sure you take lots of pics of him in his cute tux. He's already included, he your son.

steffydolly · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_can-include-4-month-old-baby-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:b7514aeb-a8cb-455c-92c1-54f13e022a29Post:629701f9-2f40-43f2-8551-b0ff7c9bfc21">Re: How can I include my 4 month old baby in our wedding?</a>:
[QUOTE]see this blog for great tips! <a href="http://weddingsareagirlsbestfriend.tumblr.com/post/698246970/married-with-children" rel="nofollow">http://weddingsareagirlsbestfriend.tumblr.com/post/698246970/married-with-children</a>
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That is terrible advice and a terrible blog. I like your idea of the wagon, but, like PP said, he's already a part of your wedding because he's your son.</font>
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abbiewebster · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_can-include-4-month-old-baby-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:b7514aeb-a8cb-455c-92c1-54f13e022a29Post:629701f9-2f40-43f2-8551-b0ff7c9bfc21">Re: How can I include my 4 month old baby in our wedding?</a>:
[QUOTE]see this blog for great tips! <a href="http://weddingsareagirlsbestfriend.tumblr.com/post/698246970/married-with-children" rel="nofollow">http://weddingsareagirlsbestfriend.tumblr.com/post/698246970/married-with-children</a>
Posted by weddingsareagirlsbestfriend[/QUOTE]

what an idiot!!!!

i love the idea of the wagon, either way u should put hm in a tux onesie the pictures will be adorable :)

Niks A one day · June 2010

I apparently missed the original comment from whoever posted it with the blog... but after reading it, all I could do was laugh. No great aunt of mine is going to be screaming, and I am wearing white. I know no one will mistake me for a virgin, considering my 2 older kids. lol. Furthermore, I'd like to add this: if you are big enough to post a comment criticizing me or anyone else, don't be a chicken sh!t and delete it before I can see it.

Anyway, thanks for the answers. I guess you're right. I think I just look too much at the long term things, because I was just worried about the "If I was already born, then where was I?" questions from him when he's old enough to realize it. We'll just be sure to take lots of pics with him in them.

aerinpegadrak · June 2010

I'm actually guessing that the blogger may have been banned for spam; all posts by a banned poster are automatically deleted.

Definitely take lots of pictures, and make sure you have someone (preferably not immediate family) who can take him away if he starts fussing. My five-month-old niece started shrieking her head off during the ceremony, and my stepdad had to take her out of the room and missed about half of it, I felt really bad afterward when I found out.

Niks A one day · June 2010

Oh thanks for that... that's something I didn't take into consideration!

cmkuno · June 2010

I agree, he doesn't need any special role. I'd be concerned about having your baby pulled in a wagon down the aisle. What if he doesn't like it and starts crying? It could end up just making a scene.

aerinpegadrak · June 2010

It might be best to hire a sitter for the wedding day, honestly. They can take care of him while you're getting ready and keep an eye on him at the ceremony and reception. That way you can still spend some time with him, but if he gets fussy or needs his diaper changed or something, there's someone designated to handle that and you and your family can still enjoy the party.

prettyplease09 · June 2010

you could have your mother or someone in the very front hold him during the service and afterward have the relative hands ur husband the baby then you, your husband and children are presented as a family and you lead the wedding party out.

TNMurray · June 2010

I personally would want my child in my wedding. Especcialy because he is the only child of you and your husband. I thnk that decorating a stoller maybe safer than a wagon or sinply having your older son carry him. I have seen plenty of babies carried down the aisle. .Thats just my opinion.

JeFlanigan · June 2010

I'm with TNMurry on this... 4 months old is before you start doing solids, and I'm remembering my own two kids having very little mid body strength when we started feeding them. I'm seeing the wagon as a really dangerous idea. (well, relatively dangerous)
And about the weddingsareagirlsbestfriend post... If I wasn't so disgusted I'd be offended. (spam or not) Best be quiet and be thought stupid, than open your mouth and remove all doubt.

RevSherry 2009 · June 2010

I would still create the ceremony to focus on you, your fiance, and the love and commitments you are making. But I would also recommend including an element in the wedding ceremony itself to honor the creation of the family as well. If you have a wedding minister who is customizing your ceremony, he or she should be able to guide you in this, depending on the ages of all the kids. This way, the kids don't have "roles" in the wedding, but their "roles" in your lives are also honored.

You can do this passively by including yours that your minister incorporate into the script, or actively through a ritual or family vows.

Rev. Sherry Mullins

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