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Feel out of place here,.

monkeeluvr414monkeeluvr414
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Hi.

I kind of feel out of place becuse it seems like everyone knows everyone already and has so much experience with weddings and stuff and I feel like such a newbie. haha.

I'm Mandi, 23.  I live in middlesex county, just got married and got a brand new apartment. i have a crappy job, 2 cats, and 2 dogs. I'd like to go to vet school. Already have an associates in liberal arts from Brookdale.

Anyone like to share? :)
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  • cherylanddan0706cherylanddan0706
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    edited December 2011
    Being a newbie is okay, we were all one at one time.  Don't yell at the married girls though :-P

    Welcome to the board, you just got married or engaged?
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  • smw42smw42 member
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    edited December 2011
    Welcome :) All of us were newbies at one point- so don't worry!
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  • monkeeluvr414monkeeluvr414
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    edited December 2011
    Just got married in April. Reception in August.

    I feel out of place also because everyone seemed to have nice, real weddings with dresses and bridesmaids and venues. I went to a judge with my parents, his parents, and  a friend with a completely uncontrollable kid. lol.
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  • monkeeluvr414monkeeluvr414
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    edited December 2011
    btw cheryl, Is that your real rings in the picture? yours looks like mine! although i'm sure you're was like 3x as expensive. lol. Mine came from Swarovski for 75 bux. lol
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  • cherylanddan0706cherylanddan0706
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    edited December 2011
    Your wedding is what you want/have it to be, all your choice you can have a "not so traditional" wedding and still have great ideas/opinions for others.
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  • cherylanddan0706cherylanddan0706
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_feel-out-of-place-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:1921b321-f7b8-4113-bbe0-02743974ade8Post:9b608ef9-7f47-45d3-9ec1-a5dab309d003">Re: Feel out of place here,.</a>:
    [QUOTE]btw cheryl, Is that your real rings in the picture? yours looks like mine! although i'm sure you're was like 3x as expensive. lol. Mine came from Swarovski for 75 bux. lol
    Posted by monkeeluvr414[/QUOTE]

    In my ticker? (with the months ive been married?) no, those are just a image :)
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  • monkeeluvr414monkeeluvr414
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    edited December 2011
    All along i said i didn't want a big white dress or a real ceremony. Now i'm kind of kicking myself. lol. It was rushed, there was an unruly child, the judge was like an hour late, we forgot our paperwork, i hit my husband with a hammer by accident, his sister didn't want to be there. I'd love to do it all over again. LOL

    Don't get me wrong, I totally don't regret getting married, just the day itself i'd do over. lol.
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  • monkeeluvr414monkeeluvr414
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    edited December 2011
    Didn't have a honeymoon either. Probably wont. Job won't let me take any time off. Small company, nobody to do my work. Looking for a new job anyway. lol.

    everyone elses pictures look so pretty and they look like they had so much fun
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  • nessi979nessi979
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    edited December 2011
    im new, i dont know anyone here, ive been engaged for almost 4 months and have gotten as far as buying a dress.   i hired a wedding planner, not cause I could afford it, but because I have no interest in planning a wedding.   I just wanna show up, marry my best friend, have a vodka tonic, and shake my bootay a bit.  i live in somerset county, i have the coolest cat on earth, and my FI and I are both paramedics who work 3 jobs each.   Welcome!
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  • reese511reese511
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    edited December 2011
    why dont you just do like a re-commitment ceremony right before your party?  you can have a friend do it and everything.  you can wear a pretty dress and say your vows in front of your friends & family.  its never too late, girl.
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  • monkeeluvr414monkeeluvr414
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    edited December 2011
    Nessi: Wow you have alot going on! Nice to meet you. That sounds pretty close to what my husband and I did. lol. I bought a nice summer dress from JC Penny for 30 bux. lol.
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  • HobokensFuryHobokensFury member
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    edited December 2011

    Don't feel outta place. I'm still kinda new too.  Welcome to the board.

     
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  • Danes983Danes983 member
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    edited December 2011
    Welcome to the board. Dont feel out of place.  If I have learned one thing its that you can have a nice wedding on every budget.  Go to DB when they are having a sale and I guarntee you can get a dress for like $100. I would do what was suggested above. Get a friend to perform a new ceremony and leave the crying kid at home. LOL
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  • monkeeluvr414monkeeluvr414
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    edited December 2011
    I would like to do another ceremony in front of everyone. I'm just not sure if my parents would be on board with that. They pretty much mapped out the whole reception for me. They are paying for it after all. lol.
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  • jrgoogrljrgoogrl
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    edited December 2011
    Hi! Congrats and welcome!

    Don't feel out of place. All of us we're newbies at one point. 
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  • hcer0708hcer0708 member
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    edited December 2011
    Hi and Welcome!
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  • kristen8040kristen8040 member
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    edited December 2011
    Welcome! Don't feel left out, everyone is pretty friendly around here.  Do you mind if I ask how come you got married before the reception?
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  • lynzandgreglynzandgreg
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    edited December 2011
    Hey I'm new too! I've been around this board for a while... engaged for two months and still nothing checked off my list! But I have some time. Don't feel out of place, I think we all feel that way at some point. I think that if you are happy with your husband that is all that matters. You don't need a big, expensive wedding to be happy! :)
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  • monkeeluvr414monkeeluvr414
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    edited December 2011
    Kristen: Time and money.  we didn't have the money for a real wedding and we couldn't wait. until we did. lol To have almost 100 people gather in a courtroom would have been weird. lol.  We got married by the judge in our town and we're having a "party" in August.

    If any of that made sense, I commend you!!  LOL
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  • Laurms15Laurms15 member
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    edited December 2011
    Welcome to the board! :)
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  • JulepheniaJulephenia member
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    edited December 2011
    Welcome! Don't worry, we were all new once - and there is a lifecycle to the board.

    We've got a lot of very welcome MGs currently, but quite a few move on and new brides come in. :D
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  • ffbride_0813ffbride_0813
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    edited December 2011

    Welcome to the board.  Dont compare your wedding to everyone elses.  You will get way overwhelmed if you do that.  Trust me, I  did it and I wanted to spend money I didnt have on things I saw here.  Now 2 weeks before the wedding I dont even care anymore.  I didnt do half the stuff I saw and thought I really wanted and it will be okay. 

    I think your reception will be beautiful.  What matters is that the people you love are all in one room together celebrating.  Thats the part I look foward to the most in all this. 


    If you ned help with anything the girls on this board are fabulous and have great ideas. 

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  • MsTG0510MsTG0510
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    edited December 2011
    Welcome to the board!
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  • kasabbykasabby
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    edited December 2011
    Welcome!!

    One thing that I have learned is to not compare your weddings to others. You will drive yourself nuts! You have to do what is best for you. 
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  • justad0remejustad0reme member
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    edited December 2011
    Welcome and congrats on your recent marriage!! I'm also a newbie and as you can see the ladies are very welcoming and have plenty of good advice!

    ps- the wedding is what you make of it. 
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  • TuffysMommieTuffysMommie
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    edited December 2011
    Welcome to the boards!  

    It doesn't matter how you got married, the most important part is that you are married and are looking forward to your life together. If there is anything you would like to "do" to make your wedding better in your own eyes, I like the suggestion of a re-commitment "thing" before the reception in August.  Could you possibly re-say your vows at your reception location? I attended a wedding where the actual wedding part was in the ballroom at the location while the guests were sitting at their tables. This would be an inexpensive way for you to have family and friends around. You are already married and presumably not all of your reception guests were at the courthouse, so they might enjoy seeing some time of ceremony as well, even if it is super small.

    Congratulations on your wedding - there are many creative ideas and things you can do that are budget friendly and within the realm of possibility. Stick around the boards, note ideas and be open to suggestions.  Best of luck!!
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  • teacup0618teacup0618 member
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    edited December 2011
    Welcome! I'm fairly new here too. My name is Michelle. I got engaged in April so just started planning. Congrats on getting married, and don't feel out of place- I dont know anyone on the boards here either.  The girls here are very welcoming and helpful!
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  • njpabzynjpabzy
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    edited December 2011
    Ditto Previous posts - welcome and congrats! Don't feel uncomfortable here and DO NOT compare your wedding to everyone else's - I did that a bit in the beginning and all it does is cause stress - each wedding situation is unique and yours is wonderful because it's YOURS!!! dont forget that! Even if your parents are paying for the reception I'm sure they would understand if you want to add some personal touches - I think exchanging vows at the party is a wonderful idea!
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  • felicia220felicia220 member
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    edited December 2011
    At the end of the day we are all in the same boat, either just engaged, planning or just married.  Just continue to post and everyone will get to know you better.  And as Cheryl said, don't yell at the married girls....haha

    You could post about specific things your mom is doing that you don't like and we can all maybe help you out with how to get what you want.  

    Welcome and congrats!
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  • akmackayakmackay
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    edited December 2011
    Welcome- if you stick around and don't put down the MGs you'll feel like one of us in no time.
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