Based upon facility occupancy and financial constraints regarding my reception, I have had no choice but to drastically reduce the number of guests being invited to my wedding. The majority if these people are parishioners at my church with whom I, and or my fiancé, share a special bond. It was suggested to me (by a fellow parishioner who found herself in the same predicament a few years ago) that I go forth with inviting those I’ve had to eliminate, explaining to them that I would love for them to be a part of the ceremony, but that I simply am not able to invite them to the reception, and also request to not receive gifts from them. She stated that, in her experience, she found people to be very understanding, and grateful just to be invited to the ceremony, which resulted in a “packed house.” Her method of relaying this information was by “word of mouth;” however, I simply do not have time (the wedding is May 15) to establish personal contact with each person.
In an effort to prevent confusion and potential hurt feelings, rather than simply sending invitations omitting reception information, I believe it is important to include a note explaining the situation; however, I’m not exactly sure what to say in the note. Any suggestions?