New here and excited!!

weareteamus · January 2013

Hi everyone!! Last Saturday night my boyfriend and I stayed up until 5 am talking about everything under the sun, including our relationship. We have decided that we are going to give it about 2 more months to see how things are going financially and relationship-wise and if it's all good, we are going to get engaged!! We have been together almost 6 years and have lived together 6 months, so I think we are past ready! I know I am! LOL We would probably be getting married this June, because we are having a small wedding/reception and then would take our honeymoon in December in Gatlinburg, TN. I am so excited and happy to be here!

thejucheidea · January 2013

Mercy, you're not going to be engaged until March and then get married in June? That doesn't seem like much time for planning, and you shouldn't preplan even if you think that you're getting engaged soon.

Stina51286 · January 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_new-here-and-excited?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:87e297a3-b660-4e37-8d04-8afbc683559fPost:1cb229d2-b463-4b06-932c-813acb4da41b">New here and excited!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Hi everyone!! Last Saturday night my boyfriend and I stayed up until 5 am talking about everything under the sun, including our relationship. We have decided that we are going to give it about 2 more months to see how things are going financially and relationship-wise and if it's all good, we are going to get engaged!! We have been together almost 6 years and have lived together 6 months, so I think we are past ready! I know I am! LOL We would probably be getting married this June, because we are having a small wedding/reception and then would take our honeymoon in December in Gatlinburg, TN. I am so excited and happy to be here! :)
Posted by weareteamus[/QUOTE]

Slow your roll. Three month engagement? Are you in that big of a hurry to be married?

peekaboo2011 · January 2013

I just don't understand.

buddysmom80 · January 2013

Just a word of advice, I know you've been together for six years, but try living together longer than six months before making a big step. BF and I have been living together for four months and I'm still finding stuff he does that makes me want to stab my eyeballs out with a rusty spoon. I love him to death, but it's a very Odd Couple situation. I have really bad OCD.

Also, don't take three months to plan a wedding. My dad proposed to my mother in October of 1974, they got married in December 1974. My mother told me she wanted to rip out her hair up to the moment that she walked down the aisle. This was almost 40 years ago. Imagine the stress now since the wedding industry has blown out of proportion since then.

thejucheidea · January 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_new-here-and-excited?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:87e297a3-b660-4e37-8d04-8afbc683559fPost:d1f2748f-d22f-4ba3-93dc-fd757170d6d2">Re: New here and excited!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Just a word of advice, I know you've been together for six years, but try living together longer than six months before making a big step. BF and I have been living together for four months and I'm still finding stuff he does that makes me want to stab my eyeballs out with a rusty spoon.
Posted by buddysmom80[/QUOTE]

Agree. My fiance and I have been living together for three years now, but the first like... year was full of 'you do what now' moments. Fortunately, we had a friend who was living with us for a year and a half that helped mitigate some issues, but we lived with just the two of us for a year and three months before getting engaged.

beanbot2002 · January 2013

loves2shop4shoes · January 2013

You've been together 6 years, but the next 2 months will determine whether your relationship is ready for the next step?

Did I read that right?

thejucheidea · January 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_new-here-and-excited?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:87e297a3-b660-4e37-8d04-8afbc683559fPost:203636d3-16a2-476b-a2b1-840e29662747">Re: New here and excited!!</a>:
[QUOTE]You've been together 6 years, but the next 2 months will determine whether your relationship is ready for the next step? Did I read that right?
Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]

For real. OP, how old are you?

peekaboo2011 · January 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New here and excited!! : For real. OP, how old are you?
Posted by ahstillwell[/QUOTE]

<div>Seriously. Also, the last time BF and I stayed up until 5AM, we had people over for a party. 2AM is my limit. You must be a baby to be able to stay up like that.</div>

beanbot2002 · January 2013

Is my gif not working? Cause it was brilliant!

peekaboo2011 · January 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_new-here-and-excited?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:87e297a3-b660-4e37-8d04-8afbc683559fPost:75e09bf8-b445-4633-96ba-c378bba3e00c">Re: New here and excited!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Is my gif not working? Cause it was brilliant!
Posted by beanbot2002[/QUOTE]

<div>No it's not and I'm heartbroken about it.</div>

LaSak87 · January 2013

I just....what?

steign · January 2013

Yeah, I want to know your age.

There's a huge difference between being together for 6 years and being 22, verses being together for 6 years and being older than 25.

beanbot2002 · January 2013

Let's try this again...

CASK85 · January 2013

No gif, Bean

TeamUs: I just want to say, it is great you've been together for so long. Under normal circumstances, I'd say that means you've been through a lot and shown a commitment that would generally be promising for a good marriage, but I have some questions about your relationship. Why would these two months determine your future? Did the first 72 not count? How on earth are you still staying up together until 5am after 6 years? How old are you? Where did you live before you moved in together? Tell me more things.

beanbot2002 · January 2013

DAMMIT! It was just there a minute ago. I fail at gif posting today.

peekaboo2011 · January 2013

Drag and drop, Bean. Drag and drop

FallLikeTimber · January 2013

Ladies, shouldn't this be a more supportive group? I mean, you DON'T know how old she is, and you don't know anything about her six-year relationship. It might be hands-down perfect. And seriously, have none of you ever had one of those really great conversations where you don't want it to end so you just stay up talking all night? Guess not...

On another note, I've been living with my man for almost nine months now and we get along perfectly well. Some couples don't go through that stage where you want to rip your hair out.

Just because many of you are already married or engaged doesn't make you the Queen Bee. Why don't we all take some time to get to know each other instead of being so judgemental.

peekaboo2011 · January 2013

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[QUOTE]Ladies, shouldn't this be a more supportive group? I mean, you DON'T know how old she is, and you don't know anything about her six-year relationship. It might be hands-down perfect. And seriously, have none of you ever had one of those really great conversations where you don't want it to end so you just stay up talking all night? Guess not... On another note, I've been living with my man for almost nine months now and we get along perfectly well. Some couples don't go through that stage where you want to rip your hair out. Just because many of you are already married or engaged doesn't make you the Queen Bee. Why don't we all take some time to get to know each other instead of being so judgemental.
Posted by FallLikeTimber[/QUOTE]

<div>Good for you. The "my man" thing is annoying. You aren't twelve.</div><div>
</div><div>If you want to get to know people, try posting about yourself and who you are as an individual instead of "OMG WE'VE BEEN TOGETHER SIX YEARS AND THE NEXT TWO MONTHS WILL DEFINE OUR RELATIONSHIP WHEEEEEEEEEEE"</div>

steign · January 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_new-here-and-excited?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:87e297a3-b660-4e37-8d04-8afbc683559fPost:ecdc6fc6-21b2-41f0-98b6-55f23e96f65d">Re: New here and excited!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Ladies, shouldn't this be a more supportive group? I mean, you DON'T know how old she is, and you don't know anything about her six-year relationship. It might be hands-down perfect. And seriously, have none of you ever had one of those really great conversations where you don't want it to end so you just stay up talking all night? Guess not... On another note, I've been living with my man for almost nine months now and we get along perfectly well. Some couples don't go through that stage where you want to rip your hair out. Just because many of you are already married or engaged doesn't make you the Queen Bee. Why don't we all take some time to get to know each other instead of being so judgemental.
Posted by FallLikeTimber[/QUOTE]

This is an internet forum so with that comes honestly. We don't know her, and we don't know all the facts so therefore yes, we are going to give our opinions. If her relationship was "hands down perfect" then I don't think she would be coming online and asking strangers for advice.

buddysmom80 · January 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_new-here-and-excited?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:87e297a3-b660-4e37-8d04-8afbc683559fPost:ecdc6fc6-21b2-41f0-98b6-55f23e96f65d">Re: New here and excited!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Ladies, shouldn't this be a more supportive group? I mean, you DON'T know how old she is, and you don't know anything about her six-year relationship. It might be hands-down perfect. And seriously, have none of you ever had one of those really great conversations where you don't want it to end so you just stay up talking all night? Guess not... On another note, I've been living with my man for almost nine months now and we get along perfectly well. Some couples don't go through that stage where you want to rip your hair out. Just because many of you are already married or engaged doesn't make you the Queen Bee. Why don't we all take some time to get to know each other instead of being so judgemental.
Posted by FallLikeTimber[/QUOTE]

She wants to basically talk to a bunch of strangers without really introducing herself as well as making it seem very immature. Call me crazy, but if I was dating someone for six years and NOW talking about the future I would be concerned.

And good for you for living with "your man" for nine months and being perfect. Wait until "your man" really effs something up and it won't be all flowers and rainbows.

Where do these people come from?????

Sorry to the regs I'm PMSing and extra snarky today.

bethsmiles · January 2013

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[QUOTE]Ladies, shouldn't this be a more supportive group? I mean, you DON'T know how old she is, and you don't know anything about her six-year relationship. It might be hands-down perfect. <strong>And seriously, have none of you ever had one of those really great conversations where you don't want it to end so you just stay up talking all night? Guess not...</strong> On another note, I've been living with my man for almost nine months now and we get along perfectly well. Some couples don't go through that stage where you want to rip your hair out. Just because many of you are already married or engaged doesn't make you the Queen Bee. Why don't we all take some time to get to know each other instead of being so judgemental.
Posted by FallLikeTimber[/QUOTE]

For someone who is telling others they are being judgmental your post is pretty damn full of judgement, especially the bolded part.

This is how the internet works: You post stuff on the internet and people get to respond however they want.

Perhaps if she would come back and answer the questions other posters have asked not as many assumptions would be made.

weareteamus · January 2013

Wow...just...wow. I posted because I was really excited and wanted to share that excitement. I wasn't asking for any advice, just sharing. We are not young kids...he is 55 and I will be 40 next month. Before I moved in with him, I lived with my mother with my 19-year-old son, who does his own thing now as well. Yes, we stayed up very late talking...wasn't the first time, won't be the last. We actually get along that well. I don't appeciate being called immature...like I said, I was just sharing my excitement. Not sure now if I will ever post anything after this again.

buddysmom80 · January 2013

Dear team us,

You basically walked into a room full of strangers and said "Hey we've been together for years and JUST NOW talked about a future". You're going to get side-eyed because this is something that teenagers do and we know NOTHING about you.

You have to provide details, details, details.

But even now, with no disrespect, why after SIX YEARS are you talking about this now???? Maybe I'm just impatient, I don't know.

peekaboo2011 · January 2013

I still think you should answer Schiano's questions. Why do these two months mean everything? What about the last 72?

beanbot2002 · January 2013

Psh. She told us.

peekaboo2011 · January 2013

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[QUOTE]Ladies, shouldn't this be a more supportive group? I mean, you DON'T know how old she is, and you don't know anything about her six-year relationship. It might be hands-down perfect. And seriously, have none of you ever had one of those really great conversations where you don't want it to end so you just stay up talking all night? Guess not... On another note, I've been living with my man for almost nine months now and we get along perfectly well. Some couples don't go through that stage where you want to rip your hair out. Just because many of you are already married or engaged doesn't make you the Queen Bee. Why don't we all take some time to get to know each other instead of being so judgemental.
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CASK85 · January 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_new-here-and-excited?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:87e297a3-b660-4e37-8d04-8afbc683559fPost:a22e8ccc-8a47-44f1-b1a4-d1c1eb01946b">Re: New here and excited!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Wow...just...wow. I posted because I was really excited and wanted to share that excitement. I wasn't asking for any advice, just sharing. We are not young kids...he is 55 and I will be 40 next month. Before I moved in with him, I lived with my mother with my 19-year-old son, who does his own thing now as well. Yes, we stayed up very late talking...wasn't the first time, won't be the last. We actually get along that well. I don't appeciate being called immature...like I said, I was just sharing my excitement. Not sure now if I will ever post anything after this again.
Posted by weareteamus[/QUOTE]
I was polite to you. I'm still confused about your relationship. Maybe even moreso now, knowing your age. Why is so much riding on these two months? Furthermore, we don't know you, so why would we be jumping up and down with excitement for a stranger? We'd be more happy to chat if you provided more details or introduced yourself first. Good luck to you. And also, if you don't come back, none of us are going to lose sleep over it, so it isn't much of a threat.

buddysmom80 · January 2013

Did she break a record for gbck?

thejucheidea · January 2013

I have a really hard time believing OP is 40.

Also, if one more person comes raging in here saying that we're 'judgemental' instead of 'judgmental', I'mma have to smack a b*tch.

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