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maid of honor... what if i want to change my mind..

riababi12riababi12
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still not engaged just yet.. Everything is all planned out though..... but i make a mistake and got really excited when i found out that hes planning on asking me.. so i accidently brought it up to two friends and they think that when i do get engaged they will be my maid of honor. Things have changed. How do I let them know that I've picked someone else.  And please if your just going to call me stupid. Dont waste your time I know I made a mistake thank you. I just want some real advice on how to let my girls know.

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    salt78salt78 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_maid-of-honor-want-change-mind?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:3d7f21bb-c463-467b-92b1-eb6af481df67Post:c19eea31-5ba3-4981-bbb6-c56df509c6ac">maid of honor... what if i want to change my mind.. HELP!?</a>:
    [QUOTE]well i'm still not engaged yet but i picked my ring out in december .. at first i was so excited and told a good friend of mine and i was about to tell her that i was thinking about the maid of honor and it was gonna be her or someone else..but before i could finish she thought it was her ..and got really excited.. then ... i told another friend that i was thinking about maybe makeing her my maid of honor... .... huge problem.. i still cant decide who is should be.. i barely keep in touch with either of the two and i still want them to be bridesmaids i just dont know who should be my maid of honor.. the second girl i mentioned it to ended up telling a big secret to a guy she likes and then it went all around.. she really disappointed me.. .. i dont have a best friend right now.. my boyfriend is my best friend..and so is my brother.. soo i'm having a hard time picking..  but i'm pretty sure its not going to end up being either of the two girls i mentioned it to already ..  i just got soo excited .. and i ment it at the moment but things changed.. i feel horrible what do i do???
    Posted by riababi12[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>Oh for the love of god.

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_maid-of-honor-want-change-mind?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:3d7f21bb-c463-467b-92b1-eb6af481df67Post:c19eea31-5ba3-4981-bbb6-c56df509c6ac">maid of honor... what if i want to change my mind.. HELP!?</a>:
    [QUOTE]well i'm still not engaged yet but i picked my ring out in december .. at first i was so excited and told a good friend of mine and i was about to tell her that i was thinking about the maid of honor and it was gonna be her or someone else..but before i could finish she thought it was her ..and got really excited.. then ... i told another friend that i was thinking about maybe makeing her my maid of honor... .... huge problem.. i still cant decide who is should be.. i barely keep in touch with either of the two and i still want them to be bridesmaids i just dont know who should be my maid of honor.. the second girl i mentioned it to ended up telling a big secret to a guy she likes and then it went all around.. she really disappointed me.. .. i dont have a best friend right now.. my boyfriend is my best friend..and so is my brother.. soo i'm having a hard time picking..  but i'm pretty sure its not going to end up being either of the two girls i mentioned it to already ..  i just got soo excited .. and i ment it at the moment but things changed.. i feel horrible what do i do???
    Posted by riababi12[/QUOTE]
    Really?
    Do you even have a date set? If you have no date set I wouldn't worry about it for now. Stop telling people you want them in your wedding though, geez.

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_maid-of-honor-want-change-mind?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:3d7f21bb-c463-467b-92b1-eb6af481df67Post:c19eea31-5ba3-4981-bbb6-c56df509c6ac">maid of honor... what if i want to change my mind.. HELP!?</a>:
    [QUOTE]well i'm still not engaged yet but i picked my ring out in december .. at first i was so excited and told a good friend of mine and i was about to tell her that i was thinking about the maid of honor and it was gonna be her or someone else..but before i could finish she thought it was her ..and got really excited.. then ... i told another friend that i was thinking about maybe makeing her my maid of honor... .... huge problem.. i still cant decide who is should be.. i barely keep in touch with either of the two and i still want them to be bridesmaids i just dont know who should be my maid of honor.. <strong>the second girl i mentioned it to ended up telling a big secret to a guy she likes and then it went all around.. she really disappointed me.. ..</strong>i dont have a best friend right now.. my boyfriend is my best friend..and so is my brother.. soo i'm having a hard time picking..  but i'm pretty sure its not going to end up being either of the two girls i mentioned it to already ..  i just got soo excited .. and i ment it at the moment but things changed.. i feel horrible what do i do???
    Posted by riababi12[/QUOTE]

    Geez.

    Just act the scene out with your barbie dolls. That usually helps soften the blow.
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    TheSaltyPeanutTheSaltyPeanut member
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    Why are you picking your WP if you are not engaged yet?
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    janedoe1113ajanedoe1113a member
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    Yea, stop talking to people about your wedding, especially if you're not even engaged yet.
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    BlameCanadaBlameCanada
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    You're an idiot.  Learn to keep your mouth shut.
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    NebbNebb member
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    Uuugh.
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    tidetraveltidetravel member
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    It's dead here, and all, but this isn't even fun.
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    salt78salt78 member
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    I hate to be that girl, but how the hell old are you?
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    [QUOTE]i dont have a best friend right now.. my boyfriend is my best friend..and so is my brother.. soo i'm having a hard time picking..  but i'm pretty sure its not going to end up being either of the two girls i mentioned it to already ..  i just got soo excited .. and i ment it at the moment but things changed.. i feel horrible what do i do???
    Posted by riababi12[/QUOTE]

    your brother should totally be your MOH when/if you get engaged.  problem solved.
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    ohwhynotohwhynot member
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    [QUOTE]In Response to maid of honor... what if i want to change my mind.. HELP!? : Geez. Just act the scene out with your barbie dolls. That usually helps soften the blow.
    Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

    I can't stop laughing over this. 
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    britne28britne28
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    OMG!!!!  this is such a huge issue, how will you get through the day???

    You aren't even engaged so there isn't a wedding party.
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    btrflykate1230btrflykate1230 member
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    *blinks*

    Really?
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    [QUOTE] .. i dont have a best friend right now.. my boyfriend is my best friend..Posted by riababi12[/QUOTE]


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    How is it... that you can type... like a... normal person... in all your... other... posts... but you have... to use... excessive...  ellipses... now?...

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    beatlesgirl25beatlesgirl25
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    Nice catch, tide.



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    riababi12riababi12
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    anyone have any real help.? i do have a date picked.. and sorry i'm just a little excited...so i mentioned it to my best friends.. but i cant pick just one
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    Finger painting competition? See who can do the longest underwater headstand? Cage fight?
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    tidetraveltidetravel member
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    Real help = wait until you are ACTUALLY engaged to plan your wedding.

    And then wait to pick your wedding party until you are 6-8 months out.  Please see "wedding party" board for examples of why it's best to wait.
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    FutureMrsTRFutureMrsTR
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    Have two Maids of Honor.  Have your brother be your Man of Honor.  Or just shut up about it until you're actually engaged.  It's up to you.
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    OFFOFF
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    Personally I love "dont have a ring yet but desperately want one MUD."  It makes me want to pet them on the head pat pat oh my little moppet...


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    MeaghanandMichaelMeaghanandMichael
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    Have your mommy call their mommies.
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    RAWR!

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    BecW2beBecW2be
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    Girls, she has a real problem. Stop being so damn mean!

    You should just tie them together with a sacred MOH rope (Lowes carries it in the common rope section. Just have your pastor bless it and you're good to go) 3-legged race style and let them be completely equal in every move. From walking down the aisle to standing next to you. YWIA!

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_maid-of-honor-want-change-mind?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:3d7f21bb-c463-467b-92b1-eb6af481df67Post:e201a757-eb19-4187-83da-b4f9e2eeebc1">Re: maid of honor... what if i want to change my mind.. HELP!?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Have your mommy call their mommies.
    Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

    Best advice. Ever.
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    You have a date. Are you planning a wedding? Does your FI know? If so, you're engaged.


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    [QUOTE]Girls, she has a real problem. Stop being so damn mean! You should just tie them together with a sacred MOH rope (Lowes carries it in the common rope section. Just have your pastor bless it and you're good to go) 3-legged race style and let them be completely equal in every move. From walking down the aisle to standing next to you. YWIA!
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    ::can't breath...laughing too hard::
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    FutureMrsTRFutureMrsTR
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    Maybe you could make one of those fortune tellers/cootie catchers and that will tell you who your MOH should be.
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    [QUOTE]Girls, she has a real problem. Stop being so damn mean! You should just tie them together with a sacred MOH rope (Lowes carries it in the common rope section. Just have your pastor bless it and you're good to go) 3-legged race style and let them be completely equal in every move. From walking down the aisle to standing next to you. YWIA!
    Posted by BecW2be[/QUOTE]

    OR, throw them in the water and see which ones weigh more than a duck or a piece of wood. That one's your MOH (or a witch, whatever).



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    I love how you edited out all of the information that makes you sound like a moron.  It's too bad there are at least 2 people who quoted you and saved your initial rant.
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