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Involving Family--Cousins, God Parents, Aunts/Uncles

Stefany113Stefany113 member
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Hi all,

I'm having 150 people wedding in a small church and an out door ceremony. I'm looking to involved more family members, but I don't know what "jobs" there are. 

I've involved all our friends easily--bridal party, musician friends, readers. But, I'm realizing that I haven't included much of my mom's side of the family. I would like to. It's a Catholic wedding--the short kind (no commnunion). We already have music, readers, bridal party and ushers assigned.

How did you get other family members involved? I'd like to involve my Godparents and another aunt/uncle or two as well.

Any ideas are appreciated!
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Re: Involving Family--Cousins, God Parents, Aunts/Uncles

  • MobKazMobKaz member
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    I was going to suggest you have the Godparents bring up the offertory gifts, but if you are not having a full Mass, that won't be necessary.  Is it possible someone could be the crossbearer?

    No guest attends looking for "a job".  I don't think relatives expect to be involved beyond the role of guest. We did recognize Godparents with sprays of flowers/boutonnieres.
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  • misssunshine17misssunshine17 member
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    Being a guest is an honor. Being guestbook attendant or overseeing the gift table is not.
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  • Tami87Tami87 member
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    I agree with previous posters that if you already have readers and a wedding party picked there are not that many other roles that are an honor. I am sure they will be excited just to attend as an guest. You can always get flowers/boutonnieres for those you want recognized. You could also ask them to take a special picture with you.
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  • SlothGoalsSlothGoals member
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    We are giving our godparents corsages/boutonieres, but that's about it
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  • Stefany113Stefany113 member
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    Thanks!
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  • Stefany113Stefany113 member
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    I meant to say outdoor RECEPTION. Thanks!
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  • CLI242009CLI242009 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_involving-family-cousins-god-parents-auntsuncles?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:86ef66ff-1e38-42d2-a8a9-ede31829af1cPost:3d4f34b2-9e09-4f23-99a3-def22f46c6e3">Re: Involving Family--Cousins, God Parents, Aunts/Uncles</a>:
    [QUOTE]Being a guest is an honor. Being guestbook attendant or overseeing the gift table is not.
    Posted by misssunshine17[/QUOTE]


    OMG THANK YOU!!!!!! I'm sorry but it just seems like I don't see people say that, that often. Now a days I have been told that it's a burden to be a guest not an honor. Yes it can be a financial situation but when I've been invited, whether i can go or not, it's the fact that they want to celebrate with me is what was so special!! I just feel like this feeling has slowly gotten lost throughout the last few decades.....not everyone feels this way I know but feeling honored, you just don't hear that anymore.

    Back on topic, I agree with the majority here. Guests usually don't come thinking they're going to be involved in anything. The bridal party and immediate family usually (from what i've seen) but the extended family no.

    Sorry just upset because most of family are not happy with my FI and I, on both sides =( just venting.
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