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  • lauralaurlauralaur member
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    <div>In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_demoting-a-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:a184857e-0814-4954-a7c6-4f1c12643380Post:d70eb75d-6c8c-4f56-a9c8-cab4a9596444">Re: Demoting a Bridesmaid...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Might I suggest kennel cages for the unruly little beasts? You can find them on Amazon in a variety of sizes--I'm sure you can get a couple for those inconvenient tots that will fit under your reception tables, plus the wire on the cages can easily be decorated with ribbon and flowers. That way their mother can give her undivided attention to making sure your pretty princess day is all about you.
    Posted by myrinae[/QUOTE]

    Or, or: hide one under the cake table so when a brat crawls under *BAM* the door snaps shut and they're stuck. Then the child can be removed from the room and stowed safely elsewhere until the reception ends to serve as an example to the others.

    OP two years ago H's cousin got married. She and her now H decided on a no-kids wedding because he has nieces and nephews that are exactly as you described in your OP. His sister threw a fit over it and they have not spoken since. Are you OK with this? If so, just end the friendship and the bridesmaid piece will follow. But I will say, this girl could clearly use some support and I think it's crappy of you to bail on her also right now.

    I will also say, that if you expect your "special day" to be perfection, you will be sorely disappointed. I cannot think of a single wedding that I've attended or heard about that went flawlessly as planned.</div>
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  • chinofiesta93chinofiesta93
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    To whoever asked my age... I'm 21.
    To whoever said I was I hypocrite.. not true.. I have just one kid ;-)

    Well, I demoted her this morning and that's that.
    She took it well when we were face-to-face and I know that on her drive home she probably cussed me out.

    It is what it is!
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  • chinofiesta93chinofiesta93
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    Yes, let's see the head banging!
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  • TheVirginiansTheVirginians member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_demoting-a-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:a184857e-0814-4954-a7c6-4f1c12643380Post:9f9c60e0-88a1-4dc5-b882-3f48fd99e9a4">Re: Demoting a Bridesmaid...</a>:
    [QUOTE]To whoever asked my age... I'm 21. To whoever said I was I hypocrite.. not true.. I have just one kid ;-) Well, I demoted her this morning and that's that. She took it well when we were face-to-face and I know that on her drive home she probably cussed me out. It is what it is!
    Posted by chinofiesta93[/QUOTE]

    The "friend" is probably jumping for joy now.
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  • rsannarsanna member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_demoting-a-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a184857e-0814-4954-a7c6-4f1c12643380Post:393e3169-b4fd-4d75-9724-f9d0ae7b1ce2">Re: Demoting a Bridesmaid...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Demoting a Bridesmaid... : The "friend" is probably jumping for joy now.
    Posted by va4ryans[/QUOTE]

    <div>Yep, at least she knows OP true colors.</div>
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  • awolkenhauerawolkenhauer
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    My co-worker says it perfectly... "She's an ankle; three feet below a c*nt."
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  • jennylee813jennylee813 member
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    So why did you bother to ask for opinions, OP? You went and did exactly what you wanted to do all along, even when everyone told you how awful it was.

    I predict a very sad, lonely life for you. People will catch on when you keep treating them like crap, and eventually they'll reciprocate.

    I can't imagine caring so little for my friends.
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  • s-aries8990s-aries8990 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_demoting-a-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a184857e-0814-4954-a7c6-4f1c12643380Post:74a8ee05-23bd-4f8b-87a1-3a1a736cde04">Re: Demoting a Bridesmaid...</a>:
    [QUOTE]My co-worker says it perfectly... "She's an ankle; three feet below a c*nt."
    Posted by awolkenhauer[/QUOTE]

    My new line
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  • chinofiesta93chinofiesta93
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    Any more?
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  • mcda04mcda04 member
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    [QUOTE]Any more?
    Posted by chinofiesta93[/QUOTE]

    Wow. I don't normally read all the responses but you're seriously so full of yourself.

    The "I'm not a hypocrite, i only have 1 kid" line made me laugh. I really hope your marriage lasts forever.....

    It would really suck if you divorced your FI and were left with more children to care by yourself. Oh and alone because you ended friendships / relationships with people over one "perfect" day.
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  • s-aries8990s-aries8990 member
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Demoting a Bridesmaid... : Wow. I don't normally read all the responses but you're seriously so full of yourself. The "I'm not a hypocrite, i only have 1 kid" line made me laugh. I really hope your marriage lasts forever..... <strong>It would really suck if you divorced your FI and were left with more children to care by yourself.</strong> Oh and alone because you ended friendships / relationships with people over one "perfect" day.
    Posted by mcda04[/QUOTE]

    It's true, I'm sure Ex-BM didn't say "I wanna have a baby with a guy who's gonna run away"
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  • s-aries8990s-aries8990 member
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    I'll make it 100 posts.
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  • mcda04mcda04 member
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    I really hope ALL the kids wreck havoc at her wedding and scream during her vows.

    Ok, that's really bad and Un-Christian like of me but I couldn't help it with this one.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_demoting-a-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a184857e-0814-4954-a7c6-4f1c12643380Post:74a8ee05-23bd-4f8b-87a1-3a1a736cde04">Re: Demoting a Bridesmaid...</a>:
    [QUOTE]My co-worker says it perfectly... "She's an ankle; three feet below a c*nt."
    Posted by awolkenhauer[/QUOTE]
    Oh. Snap.
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  • ohwhynot85ohwhynot85 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_demoting-a-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a184857e-0814-4954-a7c6-4f1c12643380Post:b9b68d4a-7f72-46bb-a9d2-d22f316b91ea">Re: Demoting a Bridesmaid...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Demoting a Bridesmaid... : I care for her, to an extent. She's a nice girl, funny, whatever. But at the end of the day, I'd almost view her and her kids as a "risk." Pathetic, I know. But it's true.
    Posted by chinofiesta93[/QUOTE]

    <div>You must still be a child yourself...please say yes. It will make this post only make sense if you are. No ADULT with a heart would ever pull this stunt.</div>
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