It all started the very day after we got engaged. I got probably around 40 texts asking what I want to do about venues/dresses/dates etc etc. I was so overwhelmed, couldn't I just enjoy being engaged for awhile? She was even starting to hammer out all the details for the bachelorette/bridal shower...one week into the engagement. When I had asked her to be a bridesmaid, I never thought that she would ever be this way. She had had her wedding a few months prior, and was not interested in planning it at all!
I started to just take her suggestions with stride and even stopped talking to her about wedding stuff unless she asked. Things seemed to have calmed down, until my other bridesmaids started mentioning that she has been sending many messages to them about planning the bachelorette/bridal shower. Keeping in mind, the wedding is 8 months away....
I decided to ask her about it. She told me what had been discussed, and mentioned that a couple of the other girls don't say much, and even called them "slackers". I told her not to worry about it, that they are probably busy right now with their own lives, and that it is still way to early to think about it.
Five minutes after telling her this, another BM text me to say she had sent another message to all of them about games for the bridal shower. "We should decide now so its not last minute".
For now I've just told the other girls to not respond to such messages. I'm really worried that this is all going to start drama and tension with my girls! I don't know what to do anymore!