My fiance's brother just got married last Saturday and when it came time to take pictures after the service I was confused (and a little offended) that I wasn't asked to be in any of the photos. His birth mom and half sister were included in the pictures, and he, his bride, and a bunch of their church friends even took a formal picture. I'm just wondering what the proper etiquette is for these types of situations? I understand that if my fiancé and I had only been dating at the time why I wouldn't be included, but we've been engaged for a couple of months now and I'd assume that I would be included in events such as these.
Re: Include significant others/fiancées in photos?
However, I do think one or two pics with even a non-engaged SO is not that big of a deal. Why not, KWIM? (I can see if it was a girlfriend of like three weeks, but seriously dating or engaged? Just include them in a few pics). So I agree with being upset, but I would probably not say anything and move on.
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I agree with others that its reasonable that you be upset, but that the best you can do is chalk it up to poor past precedent. Talk to your FI now and agree to do things differently at your wedding if you have the opportunity.
At my wedding, my cousin who I'm very close with was thisclose to proposing to his girlfriend, but we left her out of our cousin picture that included spouses.
One month later they broke up and I was so grateful that I put up with the 5 second awkwardness of her not being inthe photo. I liked her, but she was never family.
My FMIL does family photos at every family get together. The first Easter I was "officially" dating my FH, I declined being in the family photo but since then I have been included in them. I think it upset my FMIL that I didn't want to be in the family photo at first. She realized that since we had just started "officially dating" I didn't want to be included in case we broke up.
I have to figure this out for my wedding, though. My cousin will be there with his fiance and I definitely want her in the picture (she and I have been friendly ever since we hung out during a family beach week four years ago). His brother's girlfriend will be there, too, and I like her a lot, but they'll be 22 and I don't know if she should be included. They've been together about two years and I hope that he marries her one day, but still. It's an awkward line.
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