Saturday night confessions/random thoughts?

nda_roxybabe · February 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Saturday night confessions/random thoughts? : I think I tried to in the car---just tried to say that I don't have tasks for her---I don't need her to play coordinator--we're getting married in Vegas...they do it all for us. But it's so strange--I just cannot be around her without feeling like the room is closing in on me.
Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]
Do you guys live close to her? I've told T we at some point need to move far, far away from his sister because I can't handle it. When she is around I dont talk much (rare), get grumpy and just generally feel shitty.

ricksang · February 2010

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[QUOTE]Confession, today is the one year anniversary of my friend's two children being murdered, and I have no clue what to say to cheer him up at all :( Knottie vibes his way are much appreciated.
Posted by katiewhompus[/QUOTE]

Oh no! :( Vibes to you. Just be there for him. What happened if you don't mind me asking? If I am being rude, just tell me to STFU.

thesuninherhead · February 2010

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[QUOTE]Confession, today is the one year anniversary of my friend's two children being murdered, and I have no clue what to say to cheer him up at all :( Knottie vibes his way are much appreciated.
Posted by katiewhompus[/QUOTE]
 That's horrible, Katie- I think I remember you posting about this last year.

nda_roxybabe · February 2010

Oh Katie I'm sorry. Prayers from me..

mocha beans · February 2010

Katie, that's awful! She's got my vibes.

Rach, not that I'm a therapist or anything close, but have you looked into anxiety meds for dealing with her?

ricksang · February 2010

Roxy I love the new sig. You too are so cute together.

Night_Sprite · February 2010

Miss Rach, check your FB messages for a story.

katiewhompus · February 2010

Ang, their stepdad shot the 14 year old daughter, 12 year old son and their mother point blank in their sleep. The second it happened everyone was in shock. Shiit like this happens on tv, not in real life. I think he's still awaiting trial but the death penalty is on the cards for him.

nda_roxybabe · February 2010

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[QUOTE]Roxy I love the new sig. You too are so cute together.
Posted by ricksang[/QUOTE]
Thanks! I've been trying out a new hand on the hips pose. I like it but It feels a little AW to me :P

RachNRich · February 2010

Oh goodness Katie--that really puts things into perspective for me. Lots of vibes your way.

Roxy---that's exactly how I feel. We don't live close, and we're moving further away---but, it makes any visiting whatsoever almost impossible. Which ends of making me an awful person.

Mocho--I've never thought about it--but, I can't imagine I would want to go that route....that's such a big thing to do to be able to handle being around someone. Being around a person should not be this hard...there's definitely something wrong with me.

ricksang · February 2010

I love the hand on the hip pose.

[Deleted User] · February 2010

charlie got loose today. i was scared to death that i'd find him smushed by a car - there's a busy road right over there. utter panic. i'm a bad dog mommy.

nda_roxybabe · February 2010

Rach- Theres nothing wrong with you. Its just personalities not meshing. Don't blame yourself for something you're not in control of

thesuninherhead · February 2010

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[QUOTE]I've never thought about it--but, I can't imagine I would want to go that route....that's such a big thing to do to be able to handle being around someone. Being around a person should not be this hard...there's definitely something wrong with me.
Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE] There's not something wrong with you Rach- it's natural to feel stressed when you've had this conflict in the past, and I know that you clearly would like for things to be better between the two of you, thus the pressure that you put on yourself to make it work. I think you have to cut yourself some slack, though- you can't change her opinions, and thus taking them on board is never going to make you feel good about yourself. What are Rich's thoughts in relation to tonight? Was he there?

nda_roxybabe · February 2010

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[QUOTE]charlie got loose today. i was scared to death that i'd find him smushed by a car - there's a busy road right over there. utter panic. i'm a bad dog mommy. :(
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]
Oh that is such an awful feeling. My childhood dog used to always sneak out- I hated it. I take it he is home safe and sound now?

jessjo04 · February 2010

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[QUOTE]charlie got loose today. i was scared to death that i'd find him smushed by a car - there's a busy road right over there. utter panic. i'm a bad dog mommy. :(
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]

Ugh, I know that feeling. A few times Lily got loose, and I know she will come back home and sit at the door, but I cant help imagining her getting hurt. It happens to all doggie mommies.

thesuninherhead · February 2010

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[QUOTE]charlie got loose today. i was scared to death that i'd find him smushed by a car - there's a busy road right over there. utter panic. i'm a bad dog mommy. :(
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE] I gather you got him back safe and sound?

Brie2010 · February 2010

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[QUOTE]charlie got loose today. i was scared to death that i'd find him smushed by a car - there's a busy road right over there. utter panic. i'm a bad dog mommy. :(
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]

Oh, I'd be terrified. We have so many idiots in our neighborhood that let their dogs run around off-leash and I just want to scream at them.

Julez--thanks! More pics in the blog.

mocha beans · February 2010

There's nothing wrong with you Rach. YGPM momentarily.

thesuninherhead · February 2010

oh, personal jinx roxy!

Brie2010 · February 2010

Also, jill, I don't mean you're an idiot, since obviously this was an accident. The idiots are the people who let their dogs out off-leash intentionally.

RachNRich · February 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Saturday night confessions/random thoughts? : What are Rich's thoughts in relation to tonight? Was he there? 
Posted by thesuninherhead[/QUOTE]

He was at dinner---but not in car on the way home. I haven't really talked to either one of them, I just went straight to my dressing room and laid down on the floor.

He left to go back to her hotel though---so, he's not even home now.

katiewhompus · February 2010

Rach - There is nothing wrong with you. Sometimes people just don't mesh well together and it stirs up negative feelings. Just do your best to get through and come back to the people who love you.

Daff - You are not a bad dog mommy. It happens to the best of us. Is he back safe and sound now?

I remember one time when Demon fell off the balcony. I was at work and Dh had fallen asleep with the door open (we had no ac and it was hot). Our neighbor caught me coming home and asked if I knew where my kitty was, because she just saw a little black kitty fall from the sky. We searched everywhere for an hour, then I found her inside my neighbors house.

nda_roxybabe · February 2010

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[QUOTE]oh, personal jinx roxy!
Posted by thesuninherhead[/QUOTE]
Now I can't talk, or you owe me a coke or some other silly nonsense.

RachNRich · February 2010

I just got an email from his mom telling me to use his sisters skills as a planner as best I can this weekend....This email comes after I have maintained there is no planning to do. NONE. It is three weeks before the wedding. The planning has been done for months!!!!!

I'm going to pull my eyelashes out one by one.

nda_roxybabe · February 2010

Hahah wtf, is she a professional planner? Is she some hot planning commodity?
No-one else realizes the wedding is planned?

katiewhompus · February 2010

Dear sil, my wedding has been planned for many months now. Thank you for your offer but its a little too late. Now leave me alone kthxbye

mocha beans · February 2010

Good grief, how much planning does she think can or needs to be accomplished at this point? Pretty much if it's not done already, it's not going to get done.

jessjo04 · February 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Saturday night confessions/random thoughts? : He was at dinner---but not in car on the way home. I haven't really talked to either one of them, I just went straight to my dressing room and laid down on the floor. He left to go back to her hotel though---so, he's not even home now.
Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]

:( I completely understand not having people do things though, my MOH and bridesmaids didn't do anything but my bach party and shower. I like to do things on my own, guess I'm a perfectionist. It sucks that Rich isnt there though. Maybe you should have her talk to him about things that she thinks you guys need help with. Maybe say that your MOH is taking care of your stuff and since she is Rich's best woman, she needs to talk to him. I dont know if you tried that yet.

thesuninherhead · February 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Saturday night confessions/random thoughts? : Now I can't talk, or you owe me a coke or some other silly nonsense.
Posted by nda_roxybabe[/QUOTE] I had never heard the softdrink/coke thing until I just googled to see if you guys do 'jinx' in the states. Here, it was just that you had to wait until someone said your name. and Rach: You have to stop beating yourself up over this. You can't control whether or not you two get along, and you're not solely responsible for anything in the relationship between the two of you. It seems like you're taking a lot of blame on yourself and all of the pressure you're putting on yourself to get along with her is stressing you to the max. There are always going to be people you can't please in life... It sucks that she's one of them, but I think you really need to reason with yourself to realise that the blame isn't on you and it's not up to you to 'fix' your relationship with her. Sure, you need to approach it with an open mind, but that's a very different thing than taking on the burden of constantly trying to please her.

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