"B" list

Re: "B" list

• sessionswedding member

  

  June 2012

  Don't worry about sending any more save the dates.  I skipped them entirely.  Invite everyone you want to invite, and I would say do allow plus ones.

  
  
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• GunzNRoses213 member

  

  June 2012

  My issue with plus 1's is it's alot of plus ones ...And we kinda cut out plus one AND great aunts and uncles because it was over the top with both ... So we cut both on purpose and we are having family only children because that again would set it over the top ...
  
  When do invites go out if my wedding is in Oct ?

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• DramaGeek member

  

  June 2012

  For truly single people, you do not have to send a plus one.  Anyone in a relationship gets invited with their, whether they've been together a day or a week or a year, whether you know the SO or not.
  
  While you don't have to give a +1 to people who are not in a relationship, it's nice to do so.  I would definitely consider it if you have single friends who won't know many or any other people at the wedding.
  
  I would also skip the STDs.  Invitations go out 6-8 weeks before your wedding.

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• RebeccaJac

  

  June 2012

  Plus ones are a must for people who are married, engaged or in a serious relationship. I wouldn't go to a wedding that FI wasn't invited to. It'd be so weird! 

  
  

  How connected is you "B list" to your invitees? Would they know they were the B list? That's my fear with B list. I would much rather just not be invited than squeezed in. 

  
  

  Ours went out two months before the wedding. I think that's normal. You can try posting this on the ettiquite board and see what they think? 

  

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• GunzNRoses213 member

  

  June 2012

  Relationships/marrieds are getting plus ones... .its the singles i'm leary about ...
  

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• ochemjenn member

  

  June 2012

  Local singles got a +1.  OOT guests only got a +1 if we knew they were in a relationship.  The way I saw it, it wouldn't be a big deal to bring a new BF/GF to a local wedding, but someone who has been on one date with someone wouldn't want to spend the money on a plane ticket to go to the wedding of a couple they don't know.  I don't know if anyone who wasn't in a relationship actually brought a +1 - if so, it was a friend of our parents so I didn't realize it. 

  

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• naomikb member

  

  June 2012

  I wouldn't invite people you don't want there just to fill seats and have the room look less empty.  Only invite the people you want to be there.
  
  In terms of +1s I think it's polite to give everyone a +1 whether you know they're in a relationship or not.  Maybe you haven't met their partner or they haven't told you about it.  And why is it YOU that gets to decide the degree of "seriousness" of their relationship?  Some people are serious/committed after one date, I think it is hard to quantify in terms of months/years how serious a relationship is.  And if they're single it's nice to not have to come to a wedding alone if you don't want - bring someone to be a DD or have someone to dance/talk with.  If they don't want to bring someone they can RSVP alone.  But I think everyone should get the option of bringing a +1.
  
  Don't worry about "making the single people find a +1".  They are welcome to still RSVP as an individual.

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• ElisabethJoanne member

  

  June 2012

  I agree with the consensus re: +1s
  
  My take on B lists is that they're only a problem if the B-listers consider them a problem. Depending on your friends, some may not think receiving a wedding invitation later than the rest is any issue or offense. You may know this because of their personalities or maybe you ask them during wedding planning. Anyone I know well enough to know their attitude to B-lists is invited, but I have a few more people whom I don't know quite as well, but whom I do know well enough to ask, "We're still working on the guest list, and it's really tight. How would you feel about being on a B-list?" But it really depends on the people involved.
  
  Don't worry about sending out more save-the-dates. Just work on crafting a possibly extended invitation/guest list.

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• GunzNRoses213 member

  

  June 2012

  Ok  so the B list is people who were my maybes and now I will probably just invite them anyway ...
  
  As for plus ones ... I know everyone else's status and how long they've been together ... The one I just found out about was because he is one of the few people I have lost track of. No one that I know that's single will have a gf/boyfriend I dont know about ... Most of my single friends already did tell me if it's not a plus one they are not offended and they would rather be stag... I'm not deciding or rating anyone's status, they are well known facts about the people I'm inviting. I'm inviting husbands etc and some of them already told me they arent even bringing them because they've never met me .. [ Co-workers]
  
  I answered my own question ... Some will be plus ones and some will not ...

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• GunzNRoses213 member

  

  June 2012

  The filling seats would be people I wanted there it's just that i kept my number down originally because of cost ...With my cousins not coming , that is less people... leaving room for people who are local and can attend .

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