just a warning...

Elle1036 · November 2011

I saw this thread last, but I purposely didn't respond because I didn't want to overreact.

That said, this thread kind of upsets me. Well, more than "kind of". It does upset me. Possibly a little too much.

Lennon, I understand your feelings. I was NEY when I came to this board just like everyone else. However, I was always happy to read news of an engagement from one of my internet friends (even though I teased Schiano that we weren't friends anymore after hers) or see updates on her wedding planning. Now that I am engaged myself and planning a wedding, I've posted details on here (1) because I thought you guys were interested and (2) because this is one of the few places I've felt like I could share wedding stuff and get input I need.

I've mentioned before that I'm pretty alone in my planning, with FI being busy with med school, Mom being a jerk, and most of my other friends and family just not caring, but until this thread came up, I was happy at least to have my internet family helping me through it. Now, reading Lennon's OP and the subsequent responses in agreement, I feel... well, I'm not sure exactly how I feel, but it feels like something has changed.

I just don't get it, I guess. Whenever a BSC newb complains about how this board is more populated with engaged and married girls than NEYs, we tell her about the friendships we've developed and how this board goes beyond just it's description, so why doesn't that apply when a somewhat-reg complains as well?

Eh... maybe I'm oversensitive since I've already been feeling a little excluded from the board. A lot of the girls who were part of my original circle of reg-friends don't hang out here anymore, but then a whole new wave of girls kinda popped up around the same time and I've never felt like I was really part of that group, even though I've tried.

Anyway, that's my rambly take on this.

ETA: In that wall of text, I forgot to mention this:

In almost all of my WR posts, I've said something to the effect of "please tell me if I'm being annoying". I meant that.

Swazzle · November 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_just-warning?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:5bb94436-a551-455c-860f-9640f8507b46Post:f4d9b62c-3b1c-409f-9ccf-63ea20c792e1">Re: just a warning...</a>:
[QUOTE]I saw this thread last, but I purposely didn't respond because I didn't want to overreact. That said, this thread kind of upsets me. Well, more than "kind of". It does upset me. Possibly a little too much. Lennon, I understand your feelings. I was NEY when I came to this board just like everyone else. However, I was always happy to read news of an engagement from one of my internet friends (even though I teased Schiano that we weren't friends anymore after hers) or see updates on her wedding planning. Now that I am engaged myself and planning a wedding, I've posted details on here (1) because I thought you guys were interested and (2) because this is one of the few places I've felt like I could share wedding stuff and get input I need. I've mentioned before that I'm pretty alone in my planning, with FI being busy with med school, Mom being a jerk, and most of my other friends and family just not caring, but until this thread came up, I was happy at least to have my internet family helping me through it. Now, reading Lennon's OP and the subsequent responses in agreement, I feel... well, I'm not sure exactly how I feel, but it feels like something has changed. I just don't get it, I guess. Whenever a BSC newb complains about how this board is more populated with engaged and married girls than NEYs, we tell her about the friendships we've developed and how this board goes beyond just it's description, so why doesn't that apply when a somewhat-reg complains as well? Eh... maybe I'm oversensitive since I've already been feeling a little excluded from the board. A lot of the girls who were part of my original circle of reg-friends don't hang out here anymore, but then a whole new wave of girls kinda popped up around the same time and I've never felt like I was really part of that group, even though I've tried. Anyway, that's my rambly take on this. ETA: In that wall of text, I forgot to mention this: In almost all of my WR posts, I've said something to the effect of "please tell me if I'm being annoying". I meant that.
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I really didn't want to respond to this thread because I thought I was in the minority but now that Elle has said it I'm going to agree with her. This post made me feel really bad & I don't think I really post too much WR stuff (I AW'ed when I got engaged, picked my venue, & booked the photographer). But I feel like after reading this post & some of the other ladies feelings on the matter, I'm going to think twice next time I want to AW or ask for input for something WR. I genuinely like everyone on this board, I love that everyone here brings something different to the table & I'm always interested in what you guys have to say, share, post, AW, etc</div><div>
</div><div>And Elle, you're one of my favorites on this board so please don't feel like that!!
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Elle1036 · November 2011

<div>In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_just-warning?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:5bb94436-a551-455c-860f-9640f8507b46Post:8b186d98-2d4a-4d0a-ba62-d9863c73dfdd">Re: just a warning...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: just a warning... : You can be my friend Elle. :)
Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]</div><div>
</div><div>Please. You don't even count me as a reg, remember? <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" /></div><div>
</div><div>Yeah, I'm going to keep giving you crap about that whenever I feel like it.</div><div>
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</div>In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_just-warning?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:5bb94436-a551-455c-860f-9640f8507b46Post:a99c31d4-ee2f-4777-b022-64c2baaa21e1">Re: just a warning...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: just a warning... : I really didn't want to respond to this thread because I thought I was in the minority but now that Elle has said it I'm going to agree with her. This post made me feel really bad & I don't think I really post too much WR stuff (I AW'ed when I got engaged, picked my venue, & booked the photographer). But I feel like after reading this post & some of the other ladies feelings on the matter, I'm going to think twice next time I want to AW or ask for input for something WR. I genuinely like everyone on this board, I love that everyone here brings something different to the table & I'm always interested in what you guys have to say, share, post, AW, etc And Elle, you're one of my favorites on this board so please don't feel like that!!
Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Thanks for chiming in, RDR. I'm glad I wasn't the only one who reacted this way.

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csousa1 · November 2011

Elle - I think that we un-engaged ladies can express how we feel without it meaning that we don't value EVERYONE here and everything that they have to share/say/get advice on. For me, I truly have no negative feelings at all when anyone here gets engaged - not even a moment of jealousy or anything like that. Mostly, because I know that my engagement and someone else's engagment have absolutely nothing to do with one another. Also, I don't want YOUR engagement/relationship/wedding/marriage...I want mine. If some of the NEY (literally) ladies struggle with making that distinction, well - that is their problem, and it would behoove them to figure that out. Regardless, we can all still express what we are feeling at any given time, even if what we are feeling is left out.

As to you not feeling part of this group - I have to say I firmly disagree. I can only speak for myself - and I'm sorry if I have ever made you feel in any way left out of anything - but I personally value your opinions/insight/humor very highly, and think of you as a friend. I think that, in any group of people - be they male, female, engaged, not engaged, married, what have you - it is perfectly natural to feel left out of some things some of the time. There are a LOT of personalities and perspectives floating around here, all the time. I think we all have moments of feeling like we aren't part of a closer knit group within the NEY community - I know I certainly have.

At the end of the day, you and Lennon have the same complaint - you feel left out of something. Neither of you are wrong for feeling that way, or for expressing it.

you Elle. Please, please, please keep involving us in your planning. You are in no way annoying, at all. I for one feel honored to be considered a friend whose opinion you ask.

ETA: To be fair, neither side asking someone to stop talking about a particular topic (unless it is prejudiced or morally offensive), is okay. If you are referring to people asking you not to post anything WR (which I did not see anyone ask, but TBH there were a few posts I only skimmed), then you have every right to take exception to that, IMO.

DanieKA · November 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_just-warning?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:5bb94436-a551-455c-860f-9640f8507b46Post:7af6d4fd-199f-45f2-8c20-314eaf22bf7a">Re: just a warning...</a>:
[QUOTE]Elle - I think that we un-engaged ladies can express how we feel without it meaning that we don't value EVERYONE here and everything that they have to share/say/get advice on. For me, I truly have no negative feelings at all when anyone here gets engaged - not even a moment of jealousy or anything like that. Mostly, because I know that my engagement and someone else's engagment have absolutely nothing to do with one another. Also, I don't want YOUR engagement/relationship/wedding/marriage...I want mine. If some of the NEY (literally) ladies struggle with making that distinction, well - that is their problem, and it would behoove them to figure that out. Regardless, we can all still express what we are feeling at any given time, even if what we are feeling is left out. As to you not feeling part of this group - I have to say I firmly disagree. I can only speak for myself - and I'm sorry if I have ever made you feel in any way left out of anything - but I personally value your opinions/insight/humor very highly, and think of you as a friend. I think that, in any group of people - be they male, female, engaged, not engaged, married, what have you - it is perfectly natural to feel left out of some things some of the time. There are a LOT of personalities and perspectives floating around here, all the time. I think we all have moments of feeling like we aren't part of a closer knit group within the NEY community - I know I certainly have. <strong>At the end of the day, you and Lennon have the same complaint - you feel left out of something. Neither of you are wrong for feeling that way, or for expressing it. </strong><3 you Elle. Please, please, please keep involving us in your planning. You are in no way annoying, at all. I for one feel honored to be considered a friend whose opinion you ask.
Posted by csousa1[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>All of this, especially the bolded part. </div><div>
</div><div>csousa said it better than I could. I don't think Lennon or anyone ISN'T happy for the engaged or married ladies. Just expressing a feeling. I hope I or anyone else don't come off as jealous or like we don't want to hear, because that is categorically not the case for me.

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Elle1036 · November 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_just-warning?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:5bb94436-a551-455c-860f-9640f8507b46Post:7af6d4fd-199f-45f2-8c20-314eaf22bf7a">Re: just a warning...</a>:
[QUOTE]Elle - I think that we un-engaged ladies can express how we feel without it meaning that we don't value EVERYONE here and everything that they have to share/say/get advice on. For me, I truly have no negative feelings at all when anyone here gets engaged - not even a moment of jealousy or anything like that. Mostly, because I know that my engagement and someone else's engagment have absolutely nothing to do with one another. Also, I don't want YOUR engagement/relationship/wedding/marriage...I want mine. If some of the NEY (literally) ladies struggle with making that distinction, well - that is their problem, and it would behoove them to figure that out. Regardless, we can all still express what we are feeling at any given time, even if what we are feeling is left out.<strong> As to you not feeling part of this group - I have to say I firmly disagree. I can only speak for myself - and I'm sorry if I have ever made you feel in any way left out of anything - but I personally value your opinions/insight/humor very highly, and think of you as a friend.</strong> I think that, in any group of people - be they male, female, engaged, not engaged, married, what have you - it is perfectly natural to feel left out of some things some of the time. There are a LOT of personalities and perspectives floating around here, all the time. I think we all have moments of feeling like we aren't part of a closer knit group within the NEY community - I know I certainly have.<strong> At the end of the day, you and Lennon have the same complaint - you feel left out of something. Neither of you are wrong for feeling that way, or for expressing it.</strong> <3 you Elle. Please, please, please keep involving us in your planning. You are in no way annoying, at all. I for one feel honored to be considered a friend whose opinion you ask.
Posted by csousa1[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>1. I didn't mean to imply that anyone has really <em>done</em> anything to make me feel excluded. It's largely just my issue (blame a constant battle with self-esteem) and I've pretty much always realized that, which is why I've never mentioned it before now, when I only mentioned it to put my feelings in context.</div><div>
</div><div>2. That's a really good point.

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csousa1 · November 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_just-warning?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:5bb94436-a551-455c-860f-9640f8507b46Post:aae095f5-a1f3-4122-b8c8-959b7169b4e7">Re: just a warning...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: just a warning... : 1. <strong>I didn't mean to imply that anyone has really done anything to make me feel excluded. It's largely just my issue (blame a constant battle with self-esteem) and I've pretty much always realized that, which is why I've never mentioned it before now, when I only mentioned it to put my feelings in context.</strong> 2. That's a really good point.
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

Yea, I knew that. Trust me, I can relate to self-esteem battles, and that part of your post resonated with me the most. I can completely relate. I just wanted you to have a little reassurance that you are an integral part of this community :)

Elle1036 · November 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_just-warning?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:5bb94436-a551-455c-860f-9640f8507b46Post:a17605de-b56d-414b-9619-c49696ac0143">Re: just a warning...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: just a warning... : All of this, especially the bolded part. csousa said it better than I could. I don't think Lennon or anyone ISN'T happy for the engaged or married ladies. Just expressing a feeling. I hope I or anyone else don't come off as jealous or like we don't want to hear, because that is categorically not the case for me.
Posted by DanieKA[/QUOTE]

<div>I never got the impression from this thread that my WR-posts inspire jealousy or bitterness... rather that they are simply unwanted. And that's a sucky feeling to have, since I've felt like this is the one place where they <em>are</em> wanted.</div>

motoLyn · November 2011

Can't we all just hug over a bowl of mashed potatoes? Elle you express what I feel, its like you KNOW me. LoL! Siriously, at some point we were all NEY but we made good friendships and stayed after those who got the bling. Do you blame me for staying when you all are so AWESOME!

Elle I would still be your friend even if we were from different Hogwarts houses.

csousa1 · November 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_just-warning?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:5bb94436-a551-455c-860f-9640f8507b46Post:1cbd6bd5-b10a-430b-9386-00711ab27033">Re: just a warning...</a>:
[QUOTE]Can't we all just hug over a bowl of mashed potatoes? Elle you express what I feel, its like you KNOW me. LoL! Siriously, at some point we were all NEY but we made good friendships and stayed after those who got the bling. Do you blame me for staying when you all are so AWESOME! <strong>Elle I would still be your friend even if we were from different Hogwarts houses</strong>.
Posted by motoLyn[/QUOTE]

*Gasp* Surely not Slytherin, though....Silly me, no one here would be from Slytherin!!

Is it weird that when I looked at the HP-themed wedding link that someone sent Elle, I was struggling with the idea of who could seat some of their family/friends at a Slytherin table?

TheMutleys · November 2011

There has always been a mix. In fact, I would say that the regs usually lean more towards the engaged/married side. It would make sense that if a bunch of NEY people were here for a long time, a bunch would get engaged along the way.

If you feel crappy about your life, that isn't anyone else's fault. I get that it can be hard to read WR stuff. However, you ARE on a wedding website at the end of the day. Engaged people on NEY have always shared their wedding ideas and shouldn't be made to feel unwanted... just as you wouldn't want to be made to feel unwelcome because you aren't engaged.

I also think it is an asshat move to blame this on being KUI. This is how you feel. That's valid. However, I think that your feelings have more to do with yourself and your own relationship, not those who are already engaged or married.

Elle1036 · November 2011

[QUOTE]Can't we all just hug over a bowl of mashed potatoes? Elle you express what I feel, its like you KNOW me. LoL! Siriously, at some point we were all NEY but we made good friendships and stayed after those who got the bling. Do you blame me for staying when you all are so AWESOME!<strong> Elle I would still be your friend even if we were from different Hogwarts houses.</strong>
Posted by motoLyn[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Yep. As long as you aren't a Slytherin. You aren't, are you?</div><div>
</div><div>Oh, how I love you, Lyn.</div><div>
</div><div><div style="font-family:Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:10px;background-color:initial;background-image:none;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;font:normal normal normal 11px/14px Arial, sans-serif;">[QUOTE]In Response to Re: just a warning... : *Gasp* Surely not Slytherin, though....Silly me, no one here would be from Slytherin!! <strong>Is it weird that when I looked at the HP-themed wedding link that someone sent Elle, I was struggling with the idea of who could seat some of their family/friends at a Slytherin table?</strong>
Posted by csousa1[/QUOTE]
</div></div><div style="font-family:Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:10px;background-color:initial;background-image:none;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;font:normal normal normal 11px/14px Arial, sans-serif;">
</div><div style="font-family:Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:10px;background-color:initial;background-image:none;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;font:normal normal normal 11px/14px Arial, sans-serif;">Same here. I wouldn't be able to have a Slytherin table if I did that theme.</div><div style="font-family:Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:10px;background-color:initial;background-image:none;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;font:normal normal normal 11px/14px Arial, sans-serif;">
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</div><div style="font-family:Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:10px;background-color:initial;background-image:none;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;font:normal normal normal 11px/14px Arial, sans-serif;">[QUOTE]Elle, I'm sorry to hear you feel that maybe you don't fit in as well. I consider you not only a reg, but a wonderful addition to the board. I hope you stay around, and I enjoy reading/hearing about your wedding planning. The same goes to all of our engaged ladies!
Posted by polo1425[/QUOTE]</div><div style="font-family:Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:10px;background-color:initial;background-image:none;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;font:normal normal normal 11px/14px Arial, sans-serif;">
</div><div style="font-family:Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:10px;background-color:initial;background-image:none;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;font:normal normal normal 11px/14px Arial, sans-serif;">Ok, now I'm starting to feel lame. I really didn't post that part about feeling excluded to get apologies or pity from anyone; I don't feel like apologies and pity are warranted. Like I mentioned before, I only said that part to put the rest of my post (with the major point that the thread was making me feel crappy about my WR posts) into context. Thanks for the support, though, everyone!</div>

Swazzle · November 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_just-warning?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:5bb94436-a551-455c-860f-9640f8507b46Post:05b9b9cf-497f-4011-ba0a-c99284db32ba">Re: just a warning...</a>:
[QUOTE]Elle, I'm sorry to hear you feel that maybe you don't fit in as well. I consider you not only a reg, but a wonderful addition to the board. I hope you stay around, and I enjoy reading/hearing about your wedding planning. The same goes to all of our engaged ladies! I feel the same about those of you who are already married and having kids - I like hearing about your lives, whatever stage that may be. I even like Peek, and she's single (kidding Peek : ) ). <strong> If you want to talk about other things around here, let's do it! I like some of the things the girls on other boards do more regularly, Unpop Ops, Outfit of the Day, and general chit chat threads. I also like reading interesting news articles that can spark conversation.</strong>
Posted by polo1425[/QUOTE]

<div>Don't we already do all of this all the time?? </div><div>
</div><div>If you look at all the most recent threads there are 5 WR posts out of over 40. </div>

polkadot111 · November 2011

Here's some yummy bean dip:

Ollie08 · November 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_just-warning?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:5bb94436-a551-455c-860f-9640f8507b46Post:b7fd6ab1-9b15-453e-b636-9dc32827e3cc">Re: just a warning...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: just a warning... : Don't we already do all of this all the time?? <strong>If you look at all the most recent threads there are 5 WR posts out of over 40.
</strong>Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]

That was kind of my point from earlier...

And I'm totally up to some other random more regular posts. Does Outfit of the Day consist of taking photos of what you're wearing for that day? If that's the case, I'm totally in. It might make me dress nicer knowing I'd be sharing with you ladies lol

[Deleted User] · November 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_just-warning?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:5bb94436-a551-455c-860f-9640f8507b46Post:789c5812-c322-4b47-a64b-d930dc40542e">Re: just a warning...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: just a warning... : Mmm that looks delicious!
Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]

we had beans every meal for 4 days at my ILs. if I didn't see beans for a month, I'd be happy!

what about...

artichoke and spinach dip?? :)
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BookButterfly · November 2011

So, I'm one of those "lurkers" mostly, since I often don't have access to the internet anywhere other than my phone, which doesn't let me reply. That said, I enjoy reading people's WR posts--and I'm NEY. For me, it's a nice reminder of what I have to look forward to.

Maybe we NEY people need to post more about our lives, issues, and triumphs? My life, for one, has been incredibly crazy lately, but.. I don't know, I guess I just have similar issues with self esteem. I feel like the stuff I have to post about is 1)too negative and I don't want to bother people with it or 2)uninteresting to anyone but me, so I just don't talk about it, online or off.

Maybe if we all resolved to post more of our life stuff, we would create more balance and give alternatives to threads when the BSC occasionally gets the best of us NEY-ers? Just a thought. Take it or leave it.

I adore everyone on these forums and think NEY Forum itself is a wealth of fantastic advice that I haven't seen anywhere else, to be completely honest. I'd be sad if the ladies on this board took their posts elsewhere!

polkadot111 · November 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_just-warning?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:5bb94436-a551-455c-860f-9640f8507b46Post:b5d467b1-d0b6-4366-8b7c-8a6c58d6d4f1">Re: just a warning...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: just a warning... : we had beans every meal for 4 days at my ILs. if I didn't see beans for a month, I'd be happy! what about... artichoke and spinach dip?? :)
Posted by CocoBellaF[/QUOTE]

MMmmmm! I LOVE spinach dip. Yummy.

ravenray · November 2011

I like what Book has to say. Sometimes I feel like my life is boring or too sad to post so I don't want to bore anyone. And I don't post news articles very much because I feel like no one responds when I post them. Except for my last one. But if people really are interested I would be glad to post more. I like that we all come from different walks of life and I enjoy reading about people’s different places.

I also love bean dip! I have an excellent bean dip recipe. It's sooooo yummy!!

Goldlie11 · November 2011

I'm going to agree with Mutley. I don't know what my original join date was (under a different screen name) but it was in 2009. I love the mix on this board and it's always been like this. This board really helped me keep down the BSC pre-engaged, during planning, and after the wedding.

A lot of the posters got engaged while posting on these boards. It's only natural that they would stay throughout the process. I'm primarily still around to see what's going on in lives of my friends on the board. Most of those ladies happen to be married already. What's the problem with that?

desertsun · November 2011

I'm going to start posting baby stuff non-stop to make everyone who isn't pregnant feel inadequate.

How d'y'all like THEM apples?????

Mwahahahahha.

Kidding, obvs.

Lennon,

. Your feelings are valid, and I agree with Mutley that there's no need for blaming it on KUI. You feel how you feel, and that's okay. I like that you were HONEST in your post. This is exactly what your NEY friends are for, regardless of relationship status. To help you through when you're having a tough time.

Regardless of where you are at in life, it can be hard sometimes NOT to compare. It can be hard to see lots of people around you being where you so desperately want to be. There is no explanation for why things happen for some people when they do.

That's just life.

And it's why you need good friends like your NEY gang here to remind you that life is not about the big milestones. It's about the journey. It's about learning to own your own emotions, to look for moments of happiness instead of expecting happines to be a lasting state tied to a milestone, experience, possession, or accomplishment.

That does NOT mean we're not all allowed to have moments of struggle, unhappiness, and insecurity. Again, this is why we have friends. To help us see sense when it's obscured by a cloud of negativity or doubt. Right?

Also, I like what Sousa had to say in this thread. We're all allowed to post whatever we want here. IMO, there should be no need to restrict yourselves. I want to hear about Lennon having a rough moment just as much as I want to hear about Elle's (and others') wedding planning. I want to talk about Just Dance and recipes and all kinds of things. Try not to let the posts or threads you don't like upset you, but feel free to engage in debate and disagreement. Be honest and be yourself. That's all part of the fun!

just a warning...

Re: just a warning...

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