best friends also getting hitched!!

Re: best friends also getting hitched!!

• loveshine1 member

  

  October 2010 edited December 2011

  So? Move your honeymoon to the following week or don't go to their wedding.
  
  This is not rocket science.
  

  

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• PenelopeSnuz

  

  October 2010 edited December 2011

  Delay your honeymoon if it's so important to be in this wedding.  It's just a vacation that the two of you take together.....there are no rules that say you have to take off the morning after you get married!
  
  Otherwise, skip her wedding and enjoy your honeymoon.  You can't tell her she can't book a certain date, venue, whatever.  Would you have liked if someone did that to you?

  **Married 7/9/11**

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• marissa_claire member

  

  October 2010 edited December 2011

  If you accepted to be in the WP then don't complain about not getting to go somewhere, honeymoon included.  If you wanted your honeymoon, you easily could have said that you have travel arrangements and they would have been none the wiser.  

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• 6fsn member

  

  October 2010 edited December 2011

  Your options are to miss the honeymoon or skip the wedding.

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• *Barbie* member

  

  October 2010 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_friends-also-getting-hitched?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:ed567ef5-e894-4c86-bacc-76b73c161f4ePost:b137ffd2-785e-42ed-9bc0-1c78f5f6ef6a">best friends also getting hitched!!</a>:
  [QUOTE]OK, so I desperately need advice, and I need it fast because I am meeting with the other bride tomorrow to discuss this... here's some back story: I became engaged in February, set a date by probably March.  My fiance then asked his best friend to be his best man.  Lovely.  Well then his best man gets back together with his ex and proposes shortly after... good for them!  They also make a point to say, 'we don't to steal thunder, we are thinking 2012, etc etc etc.' In the meantime, they have been scouting numerous venues (i heard "this is the one" more than once)... fast forward to a few weeks ago, they have fallen in love with another venue and they are going to go with its only available date.  Just so happens that this date is the Saturday immediately following my wedding.  Oh, and my fiance is also his best man and I am a bridesmaid.  I expressed my conerns that if they do this, my future husband and i don't have the option of a honeymoon! furthermore, can't we just have a little time when it's just about us? (selfish, i know)... The other bride (and my good friend of course) wants to talk with me tomorrow because that's when she has to put down the deposit.   <strong>what are my options here? am I crazy for being upset? can i tell her she can't get married at this venue??</strong> please help.. i'm torn up over this... sorry it's so long winded...
  Posted by HoneyBear226[/QUOTE]<div>
  </div><div>1) you have the option to plan your honeymoon for another time or to respectfully decline her invitation to be in the wedding party. what does your FI want to do? you should discuss with him before the two of you take any actions. Have you <em>BOOKED</em> the honeymoon yet? If you have, then you may decline the request to be in the wedding party due to previous plans, and i'm sure they will understand. </div><div>
  </div><div>2) yes. you are supposedly friends with this girl ( at least enough of a "friend" that she is asking you to be a bridesmaid) - you should be happy for her and her FI - that they are getting married, found a venue they love, etc. </div><div>
  </div><div>3) can you? i'm sure you're physically capable. should you? <strong>HELL NO</strong>. what kind of stupid question is this? she can get married whenever and wherever she chooses. if it's inconvenient for you and your FI, then don't go/participate,and they'll have to live with it. She can't be expected to plan her wedding to suit you, just like you can't be expected to plan your wedding to suit her. </div><div>
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• VarunaTT member

  

  October 2010 edited December 2011

  1) It is alright to be a bit veklempt.
  
  2) You won't find the validation you want here.  Being a bit veklempt doesn't give you ANY RIGHTS to ask this couple to move their wedding date.  Zero, zilch, nada.
  
  3) Get over it.  Have honeymoon immediately, miss wedding or Delay honeymoon, be in wedding.  You get one day and you'll get it.

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• InksWell member

  

  October 2010 edited December 2011

  It sounds like you plan on your honeymoon being at least 7+ days. I'm not sure how much of that you've booked (is your wedding in 2012?). I would book myself a honeymoon in a more fabulous place for 4-5 days, with whatever your budget had been for 7 days. That's the only way you can do both.
  
  If you've already booked, ask if you can get an upgrade instead of staying the extra nights.

  Dear Rain, Not Today. Sincerely, My Parade

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• Cant_wait!

  

  October 2010 edited December 2011

  how about staying at a nice Bed and breakfast the night of your wedding, and then leaving for your real honeymoon the day after your friends wedding? Then you can do both and not feel cheated.

  

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• HoneyBear226

  

  October 2010 edited December 2011

  im really embarassed to have even asked guys... i realize you think it's terrible that i would even suggest it... i guess i needed a reality check... wasnt necessarily prepared for it to be so harsh, but perjaps that what i needed... thanks i am already over it

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• TheDuckis member

  

  October 2010 edited December 2011

  Don't listen to these bitches. Half of them are already married and have such miserable lives that they still post on wedding boards!
  
  Your friend should be ashamed of herself for trying to detract from your special day. I'm in the same situation with my MOH and I'm planning to kick her out completely. I just haven't decided how to do it yet. After you talk to your friend, please come back and tell us how it goes so I can get some ideas--LOL!

  
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• EllenMaria member

  

  October 2010 edited December 2011

  Its completely rude of your friends to be considering getting married the week after your wedding - to me, this is common sense.  Its horribly tacky and hard to believe. A month later would be fine, but the next week, really?!!?!  But to avoid drama, your only option is to leave for your honeymoon right after their wedding, which isn't a big deal.  Better that than only going away for 4 days!
  
  

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• tangela2nd member

  

  April 2011 edited December 2011

  Don't be embarrassed to have asked! Sometimes us girls just need a sympathetic ear rather than advice. So don't feel bad.

  

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• VarunaTT member

  

  April 2011 edited December 2011

  Holy god.  How far back in posts are you reading, tangela?

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