We are getting married in a church OOT, but doing all of our marriage prep in our home town. The Deacon mentioned that while normally there is a cost, there is no cost for us since we aren't having our wedding there. What is appropriate to give? We plan on giving a generous donation to the church... do we do this now or when we complete our marriae prep? and do we do something for the deacon seperately? And if yes do we give him a gift/check, or the church one on his behalf? Soooo confused on whats appropriate here, please help!!!!!!! TIA!