Is there a proper way to ask for honeymoon donations rather than gifts?

martyanderson · May 2010

Maybe there is no proper way, but I just thought I'd ask. This is a second marriage for both of us so between us we have most things we need, but we want to take a honeymoon trip to Europe. Again, we can afford this on our own. Any ideas out there? Thanks so much

bbyckes · May 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_there-proper-way-ask-honeymoon-donations-rather-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:34Discussion:8aba931e-ffa5-4cac-a320-451bf76367ddPost:dbc5aab7-25c4-464d-ac17-9a8d332264de">Is there a proper way to ask for honeymoon donations rather than gifts?</a>:
[QUOTE]Maybe there is no proper way, but I just thought I'd ask. This is a second marriage for both of us so between us we have most things we need, but we want to take a honeymoon trip to Europe. <strong>Again, we can afford this on our own</strong>. Any ideas out there? Thanks so much :)
Posted by martyanderson[/QUOTE]

You can or can't afford this fabulous honeymoon to Europe on your own?

As suspected there really is no proper way to solicit donations from your guests to pay for your honeymoon. As with any occassion it is incredibly impolite to "ask" anyone for gifts. If you have everything you want and don't have a desire to register - don't. Guests will do as they see fit when it comes to gift giving.

You may consider registering for a few upgrades items for those who do not wish to gift you cash or other monetary gifts like gift cards.

SaraAndrew2010 · May 2010

There's no polite way to flat out ask guests to pay for your honeymoon (ie honeymoon registry or "cute" poem on your invites). The best thing to do is have a small registry of upgrades. If people ask you or your WP where you are registered, you/they can reply "We have a small registry at X store and our also trying to save up for our honeymoon." Most people will get the hint and give you cash. Those who want to buy you physical gifts can still do so.

quotequeen · May 2010

You may want to read the answers on this recent thread:

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_ask-honeymoon-donations-instead-of-registry-giftswe-dont-want-offendany-ideas

Oh wait. That's also your thread. Why did you ask the same question again?

hlfarrar3 · May 2010

There are lots of honeymoon registries out there. We are doing that.. the one we are using is thehoneymoon.com.... people have really enjoyed the ease of giving to us that way...

Galaxy8227 · May 2010

There is no proper way to ask people for money. You can do a honeymoon registry, some find them tacky and would rather buy an actual gift, so you might want to go register somewhere else as well.

1shaz · May 2010

My friend wanted this and she simply didn't register anywhere. As a result, most people gave them cash which she in turn used for her honeymoon.

I have found that $$ is what most people give these days anyways.

While I have no intention of asking for $$ or Honeymoon help myself, I don't see why some posters are so offended by the thought. It is a gift, just as any other.

MyNameIsNot · May 2010

Donations go to charity. You are looking for gifts.

hmitcham · May 2010

I have one question for all of you against having donations toward a honeymoon, do you have a wedding gift registry? and if so how come you don't believe it is proper to ask for honeymoon donations but you can ask your dear aunt sally for an expensive toaster and cushy towels? Its the same thing! Its time to get out of that old fashioned belief that its wrong to ask for help with a honeymoon. These days brides and grooms are paying for their own weddings instead of the poor brides parents so why are we stuck in the rest of the sillly wedding NO NOs? I am using honeyfund.com its free for my fiance and I and for our guests. It uses paypal, doesn't handle any gifts which are sent only to us and its completely personalized! check it out. You can put the link on your registry page if you have a wedding website oh and for those more comfortable with material things have a registry for them too and everyone will be happy!

melanie24w · May 2010

honeyfund.com. you can personalize what you would like for your honeymoon like 2 dinners at X restaurant type or money for cute B&B for x nights.. I have friends who used this site and it was fun for me to give money towards something they would use.

MyNameIsNot · May 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_there-proper-way-ask-honeymoon-donations-rather-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:8aba931e-ffa5-4cac-a320-451bf76367ddPost:ad790052-da37-448f-b0b3-946459326bf1">Re: Is there a proper way to ask for honeymoon donations rather than gifts?</a>:
[QUOTE]I have one question for all of you against having donations toward a honeymoon, do you have a wedding gift registry? and if so how come you don't believe it is proper to ask for honeymoon donations but you can ask your dear aunt sally for an expensive toaster and cushy towels? Its the same thing! Its time to get out of that old fashioned belief that its wrong to ask for help with a honeymoon. These days brides and grooms are paying for their own weddings instead of the poor brides parents so why are we stuck in the rest of the sillly wedding NO NOs? I am using honeyfund.com its free for my fiance and I and for our guests. It uses paypal, doesn't handle any gifts which are sent only to us and its completely personalized! check it out. You can put the link on your registry page if you have a wedding website oh and for those more comfortable with material things have a registry for them too and everyone will be happy!
Posted by hmitcham[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>It is most certainly not the same thing. It has always been and always will be incredibly rude to ask for cash. </div><div>
</div><div>It's rude to ask for gifts at all, or to even mention gifts. When you create a registry, you are making a list of things you need for your home, and what will match. You are not advertising this list, and you are only making it known to people who actually ask you where you are registered. By asking where you are registered, they are saying "I'd like to get you a wedding gift. Can you give me some ideas of what you need for your home?" </div><div>
</div><div>People know that cash is an option. You don't have to ask for it. If they wanted to give cash, they would. By asking for a registry, they are asking for something physical to give you. If you only want cash, the correct way to do it is to just not do a registry. But asking for cash is still shockingly rude.

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