My cousin from out-of-state is adament about bring her (then) 10-month old baby to my wedding ceremony and reception despite the fact that he wasn't listed on the invite and our website has a message about it being an "adults only" formal affair. She is claiming she's an exception and a snarky comment I made to her on Facebook was my seal of approval. I had seen a picture of the baby and commented that he looked cute, nothing about the wedding at all, when she wrote "he's so excited to come to your wedding, we got him a suit." I replied "That's cute, but we have a ring bearer and it's my dog!" She hasn't actually talked to me in person in a few years, and all this is going through her mother. Her mother called up my parents complaining why the baby isn't invited when I apparently told my cousin he was.
To make matters worse, my parents have been pressuring me to invite the baby since before he was even born. My father unfortunately cares more about this cousin and her family than his family, so I suspect he has been hinting to my cousin and her mother that it's Ok to bring the baby. The last I heard was that my cousin was going to call me since my finance and I are paying for the wedding ourselves. I'm afraid she will just show up with baby in hand, phone call or not. Should I just let it go and let the baby come to avoid a family feud? At this point, I am exhausted and depressed over this issue; I don't even care about the baby being there anymore, it's the rudeness of this family that continues to hurt.
Sorry, this is so long. Thanks for listening and any advice.