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Bridal Party Hair HELPPP!!!

lissburkelissburke
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So - I am thinking that I want to wear my hair half up and half down since I have long hair that curls really nicely. Plus I think that it will compliment my dress.

Here is my problem. I wanted to be the only person with my hair "down." I know that two of my six bridesmaids definitely would prefer to have their hair down. They also have longer hair. I really just don't want their hair to look like mine. Am I wrong to ask them to all have their hair all up? I don't want to be a bitch and I just feel like me thinking this is making me sound like one.
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Re: Bridal Party Hair HELPPP!!!

  • MrsMeganL2012MrsMeganL2012
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-beauty_bridal-party-hair-helppp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:358Discussion:d1ba347a-b5db-447e-80b0-d1b68fd64c99Post:42cdf9eb-e4fd-44ef-b409-4104f19b0c30">Bridal Party Hair HELPPP!!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]So - I am thinking that I want to wear my hair half up and half down since I have long hair that curls really nicely. Plus I think that it will compliment my dress. Here is my problem. I wanted to be the only person with my hair "down." I know that two of my six bridesmaids definitely would prefer to have their hair down. They also have longer hair. I really just don't want their hair to look like mine. Am I wrong to ask them to all have their hair all up? I don't want to be a bitch and I just feel like me thinking this is making me sound like one.
    Posted by lissburke[/QUOTE]

    Don't make your bridal party wear their hair a certain way.  Let them do what they feel comfortable doing.  Trust me, you WILL stand out as the bride and aside from guests looking at the girls when they're walking down the aisle, all eyes will be on you.
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  • cwaggoner07cwaggoner07 member
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    When my bff got married, it was a very formal wedding and she wanted all of us to wear our hair up and it wasn't a problem. However, she paid for all of us to get our hair done since she was requiring it up.

    On the flip side, I really don't care at all what my BM do, and a lot of that is based on the fact that I don't want to have to pay for them to get their hair done. I think one is going to use my hair stylist, but she is paying for it herself.
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  • fallbride1109fallbride1109 member
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    Yes, IMO, you are wrong.  The BMs should be able to wear their hair however they want.  Let them be who they are--all eyes will be on you anyway.

    That being said, if you ask them all to have updos, you are obligated to pay for the styling.
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  • klboasklboas member
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    When I was in my cousin's wedding I wanted to wear my hair down, but she was the same and wanted all of our hair up.  Since she was the bride I didn't mind at all because it was her day and I was just concerned about her getting what she wanted.  We all paid for our hair to be done too -- I know its the proper etiquette for you to pay if you want their hair done a certain way, but I've honestly never been in a wedding where the bride paid and we've always had our hair done at the same place.

    So maybe just ask your girls - I'm sure they would understand and will want to make sure you have everything you want.  You can always do a more casual updo, doesn't have to have a million bobby pins with a massive amount of hairspray.

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  • lissburkelissburke
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    I basically just told them that I didn't want anyones hair like mine. A lot of brides I talked to said they did the same. I didn't say how it had to be just that I was doing half up/half down, so I didn't want anyone else to do that. If they do it to the side with curls down or something I don't have a problem with it. Thanks for the help!
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  • misscrafty84misscrafty84
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    I was in a wedding where we had to have updo's because the bride wanted hers the only hair down, hated it. I agree with other posts that you'll stand out no matter what.
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  • ChelseaclayyChelseaclayy member
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    If they have very long hair, wearing an updo could be very uncomfortable for them.

    My hair is extremely long, and wearing it up gives me headaches- every, single time. I think you should think about how they would be most comfortable, and let them wear their hair how they choose. No one will mistake them for the bride, I promise!
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  • ChristinaJoey2012ChristinaJoey2012
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    I'm asking my BP to do the same thing and none of them have a problem with it.  I did say you can pick how you want it done up, as long as it's up. 
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  • sandersknsanderskn
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    I think its totally fine to ask them that! Especially if you pay for them to get their hair done.
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