Just to see how crazy you ladies really are....hahahaha

ccallaway03 · April 2010

That was fun! hahahahahaha!!!

AmoroAgain · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:f46eed26-b33d-46d5-91d9-5cd260523f27">How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>:
[QUOTE]We are having a closed ceremony for 150 of our family members and very close friends. We want to have it early enough so that the elderly members have plenty of time to eat, celebrate with us, and still get home before dark. The problem is, there are 500ppl invited to the reception. That's 350 more than the wedding. We are struggling to find a way to get all the wedding guests to the hall, feed them, and have them not eating when the other guests arrive. We have an open bar and snack area, but are not doing the 5 course meal for the other 350 guests. I don't want to dance or cut the cake or anything until others start to arrive. Any suggestions on timing??
Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]

HAHAHAHAHAHAAH.... WHAT?!?! HAHAHAHAHA....

PoopyPants23 · April 2010

ohhhh nooooooooooooooo.

emilyinchile · April 2010

I suggest you start the reception at a quarter past never.

danieliza1127 · April 2010

It's generally considered VERY tacky and rude to have a tiered reception like that. The reception isn't two events, it is one event that includes dinner, cake and dancing. If you can't feed everyone, don't invite them. You need to trim your guest list down to a number you can afford to completely host and feed.

Remember, your wedding isn't as important to the whole world as it is to you and your families. You don't have to invite your entire church or sorority or fraternity, or high school teachers, or co-workers, or parent's co-workers.

aMrsin09 · April 2010

Surely your relatives have told you that a tiered reception like this is rude?

The fact that you can't figure out the logistics should tell you that it shouldn't be done. Otherwise you'd be able to find a lot of information on the scheduling.

PoopyPants23 · April 2010

So just a question, but...are the 350 extras going to be expecting food and drink? I don't really think you can do this without offending anyone, because they will be kind of surprised when they show up to your reception, and there is no ceremony, and no food, and then the party ends like 2 hours after they show up because you wanted to have dinner safely over before they showed up.

Dooooooooon't doooooo itttttttt!

kikibaby · April 2010

Good luck not offending anyone because well... this is very offensive.

Jodipi314 · April 2010

The best way to do it would be to have the DJ make an announcement along the lines of "Start shoveling down your food, cause the plates are going to be taken away in 10 min so the fake guests don't feel bad"

This is a terrible idea. Never invite guests late to a reception, just so you don't have to pay the extra money for their food. Cut your list to the 150 important people and be done with it. You're never going to pull it off, especially when the special guests start talking about how good the food was to the people that just showed up to what they thought was the start of a reception.

MyNameIsNot · April 2010

There is no correct way to do something so incredibly rude.

If you want to invite 500, you invite them to the whole thing. If you can only afford 150, you only invite 150.

EmmaBride2B · April 2010

So you're inviting some people to just... dance? And give you a gift? Why do you think people want to do that? You aren't THAT big of a deal.

mnp555 · April 2010

Your title suggests you do not want to offend anyone, but I am already offended by this idea, and I am not even invited. Who told you this was OK?

shellydiane820 · April 2010

You're a joke.

jayjoe · April 2010

CHOO!! CHOO!!!

and the trainwrecks keep on a'comin!

AmoroAgain · April 2010

Oh man... did you already send out STD's!? To all 500 people?? Because this is totally not right. In any way, shape, or form. No no no.

EmmaBride2B · April 2010

Oh, and "closed ceremony" does not equal 150 people.

Audrey&Austin · April 2010

This is a horrible idea. Its not going to happen smoothly.

First, 150 people are going to be there first. How do you plan on getting them all fed and out of there before the extra 350 show up??

Second, 350 people are going to notice that they're at an evening event, don't see the ceremony, and aren't fed. They'll be upset

Third, tiered receptions are just rude. People are going to talk both before and after the wedding. They are going to realize that some people were invited to part of it and not the other.

Fourth, and last, How do you plan on organize this around 500 people????????/ This is going to be a logistical nightmare! You wont be able to plan it and its just horrible.

In short: Don't do it.

[Deleted User] · April 2010

Could you set up a trough of some sort? That usually tends to get people eating quickly. Plus, it could double as a receiving line.

FutureMrsTR · April 2010

Oh Lord. This is just ridiculous. Everyone else has summed it up pretty well, but I thought you needed one more person telling you what a horrible idea this was. Because it is. Horrible.

ohwhynot · April 2010

OP, I see from your other posts that your STDs are done. Hopefully, you haven't sent them out to all 500 people. If you have, then I think you need to revamp your 5-course meal for 150 into a simple bbq buffet for 500, and/or change your open bar to hosted beer & wine. In other words, all of your guests should get the same party. If you've STD'd 500 people, you need to find a way to give the party for 500.

Koopa17 · April 2010

I hope one of the 150 super close friends/family doesn't accidentally spill the beans that they had a full on meal before the crappier, not as important 350 guests arrive. Awky.

danieliza1127 · April 2010

What I'm wondering is if those extra 350 people who aren't actually invited to anything but the "dance" got their STD and actually are saving the entire DAY or worse, making travel plans, thinking they are actually invited.

lopezk · April 2010

i love when they never come back to comment on the suggestions..takes the fun away from everything.

polichik · April 2010

I know I shouldn't be, but I'm still shocked that people think this is ok. And not just one person, either.... We get these on here more than I'd like to think about.

pumpkinpumpkin · April 2010

You need to get a fucking clue. For real. There's no need for 500 people at ANY wedding, ever. And tiered receptions...don't even get me started.

goheels05 · April 2010

I think you should make some sort of contest where your guests race to the reception to determine who gets to eat.

Audrey&Austin · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:4332e8f1-d609-4c7e-8cf4-332f936391dd">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>:
[QUOTE]You need to get a fucking clue. For real. There's no need for 500 people at ANY wedding, ever. And tiered receptions...don't even get me started.
Posted by pumpkinpumpkin[/QUOTE]
Agreed!! I don't even know if I know 500 people! If I was trying to get more stuff, maybe I could get there...

CTGirl30 · April 2010

How do you even know 500 people???

And the short answer to your original question is : You can't. (Buuuut it looks like you can't unring that bell since your STDs are already sent?? So find a way to feed 500 people or accept that 350 of them won't be speaking to you again, at least for awhile, after this event)

jamiefour · April 2010

I don't even know 500 people. OP you need to get a clue!

Pink7781 · April 2010

Hold on, from your PPs, it seems like you JUST ordered your STDs. If this is the case, you have 2 options. First option, throw away 350 of them and only send a STD to the 150 people you are inviting to the reception, the entire reception, not just part. Your second option is to send out all 500 but plan a wedding you can afford.

Do not, I repeat DO NOT, do a tiered reception. People will be hurt and nothing good will come of it, except you looking a greedy bridezilla.

atayk21 · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:c2c90874-2f77-4b6d-9383-b123c12459a2">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>:
[QUOTE]It's generally considered VERY tacky and rude to have a tiered reception like that. The reception isn't two events, it is one event that includes dinner, cake and dancing. If you can't feed everyone, don't invite them. You need to trim your guest list down to a number you can afford to completely host and feed. Remember, your wedding isn't as important to the whole world as it is to you and your families. You don't have to invite your entire church or sorority or fraternity, or high school teachers, or co-workers, or parent's co-workers.
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

Dani,

You are always so graceful with your responses, even if the question is obnoxious, for that, I envy you

Just to see how crazy you ladies really are....hahahaha

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