So my fiance and I sent out STD's a few months ago. Since then, we have not been in contact (none whatsoever) with a couple of people we sent them to. Is it ok to not invite them to the wedding even though we sent them a STD?
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_un-inviting-someone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:6dbf36ae-5fa4-497b-9721-5418411a1b71Post:e47eeaa1-c514-4444-a437-c87b46e77dd4">Un-inviting someone? :/</a>: [QUOTE]So my fiance and I sent out STD's a few months ago. Since then, we have not been in contact (none whatsoever) with a couple of people we sent them to. Is it ok to not invite them to the wedding even though we sent them a STD? Posted by carrieloomis[/QUOTE]
Nope. Everyone who was sent a STD must be invited.
However, if you DO NOT WANT to be friends with these people in the future WHATSOEVER, there is little point inviting them to the wedding. But it is likely a friendship ending move.
Sorry, Save the Date means invite, so to not send one is rude.
I can go months without talking to my close friends, but they're still invited to my wedding, for what its worth. If you really are no longer friends, they will likely decline the invitation.
That's pretty much like saying, "Hey there's this really cool party that we are throwing on such and such a date in such and such a place. Just want to let you know! But you can't come..."
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_un-inviting-someone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:6dbf36ae-5fa4-497b-9721-5418411a1b71Post:403e0f83-3ee1-465c-85d7-8de6112f8a6d">Re: Un-inviting someone? :/</a>: [QUOTE]It's incredibly rude to un-invite someone. Think about how that sounds. Un-invite. <strong>That's why we caution people about sending STD's, because they are an invitation. </strong> Posted by Habs2Hart[/QUOTE]
Yeeep. That's the one thing I would change so far is not sending STDs to every single person/family we wanted to originally invite. There are about 10 people on our list now that we probably wouldn't invite at this point. But we still will.
If the dont feel close to you they prob wont show, if they do you might have to re-evaluate maybe if they care for you so much as to make sure they attend your wedding, they are good people after all....
Re: Un-inviting someone? :/
[QUOTE]So my fiance and I sent out STD's a few months ago. Since then, we have not been in contact (none whatsoever) with a couple of people we sent them to. Is it ok to not invite them to the wedding even though we sent them a STD?
Posted by carrieloomis[/QUOTE]
Nope. Everyone who was sent a STD must be invited.
However, if you DO NOT WANT to be friends with these people in the future WHATSOEVER, there is little point inviting them to the wedding. But it is likely a friendship ending move.
I can go months without talking to my close friends, but they're still invited to my wedding, for what its worth. If you really are no longer friends, they will likely decline the invitation.
That's why we caution people about sending STD's, because they are an invitation.
Problem solved.
[QUOTE]It's incredibly rude to un-invite someone. Think about how that sounds. Un-invite. <strong>That's why we caution people about sending STD's, because they are an invitation. </strong>
Posted by Habs2Hart[/QUOTE]
Yeeep. That's the one thing I would change so far is not sending STDs to every single person/family we wanted to originally invite. There are about 10 people on our list now that we probably wouldn't invite at this point. But we still will.
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If the dont feel close to you they prob wont show, if they do you might have to re-evaluate maybe if they care for you so much as to make sure they attend your wedding, they are good people after all....