Much needed bridal shower/b party wkd and need your advice
Hey Ladies
I need your advice ladies, I know I can rely on you girls you can understand what I am going through...
so the good first, I am back from my shower and bach party from NYC this wkd, what a great wkd, I was happy to be surrounded by gf's we joked a lot and were in great mood all wkd , the best thing was the agenda was planned so perfectly for entire wkd by sis which put my mind at ease and its nice to take a breather from the word planning. She went all out and gotten a limo (to my surprise) from her house in Philly to NYC (4hr drive) we were relaxed the entire trip there.
Bad Drama that happened-There was some drama created at dinner by 2 girls that showed up (they are FI's best friends gf's) they werent speaking much with me at dinner I dont know why,regardless I thanked them twice politely (at end of dinner) with a hug for showing up to dinner but they didnt say thank you once for the invitation, I told FI a little bit of it but didnt have much time I was upset that they just walked away not acknowledging the invite at all.. During dinner, I tried to not leave them out and I tried hard to get them in convo with our group. Little did I know that would come to bite me in the ass. I was talking to one of the girls, (attempting to have a convo) so I thought I would think of a funny subject to losen them up. I mentioned to her about of this video that was taken at FI's bach party of her bf smashing beer cans with his head, and if she had seen it was funny. She commented by responding her bf doesnt share anything with her like that. I didnt have much to say after that, seems like she didnt want to talk. I tried other times but it was FAIL after that..
So same night these girls met up with one of FI's friends and mentioned about the video (they hadnt seen) and the girl acted so upset about it. So FI's friend had a fight with him saying it shouldnt have been mentioned to her, FI said to him that he never thought it would be taken wrongly because they(his friends) have shared embarassing or funny things like that before about FI with me and it never hurt anyone.I felt so bad and wanted to apologize to FI's friend which I did but my gf's disagreed saying I shouldnt have and that the girl is too uptight to let her man be, and do what he wants to do and have fun..what do you girls think?? I havent stopped thinking about the situation at all till then!
Re: Much needed bridal shower/b party wkd and need your advice
You do not owe anyone an apology, but the fact that you want to give one helps. It is her problem, her irrationality, and her poor behavior.
I'm sorry you had to go through it but to be honest, you are a classy girl - none of this behavior is a reflection on you. Only on her, for her lack of decency at someones happy occasion.
Also, your FI's friend should have just told his gf what was going on? If she knew about it, she wouldn't be so upset, and maybe its the fact that he didn't say anything to her, and she is finding out from you instead of her bf. or she is really that uptight about it in which case, both of them should have talked it out before the bach party.
But in all of this, you and FI are not at fault for anything, and you really shouldn't have to apologize for anything. I don't even understand why both of them are taking an attitude toward you and your FI.
me: i apologize for mentioning what happened
no one saw the video
it was just a mention
i promise you that
it was my hard attempt to have a conversation
my bad
didnt mean to hurt anyone
it wasnt amits fault
he only shared it with me
12:23 AM and he didnt share it with anyone
i havent even seen it yet
my phone didnt download it
and i havent been on the computer all wkd
12:25 AM i know u are probably pissed off but my intention wasnt to hurt anyone
gnite
You FI just wants to marry you, if people show up to celebrate with you its great, if they don't, its their lost because at the end of the day, you guys will be married and that is the most important thing.
This man loves you and you CLEARLY love him. You are doing everything you can and if his family is missing it, that's their fault. If his friends and their respective others kick up a fuss, I can see how hurtful it would be. But he is very lucky to have you and I know you are doing your best to make this a beautiful and wonderful day, and moreso, you are doing everything to be a great partner. You should give yourself some props, girl. With what you have to deal with, you are making it happen!
I read your messages with teary eyes seriously! Its amazing how far we have come. Just never imagined it would be this rough and god has really tested my love all throughout the time we been together..and in a way makes me really believe in love and the strong power it holds between two ppl that no matter waht you pull through it all.