Etiquette for having alcohol...

B&B1221 · April 2010

Fiance's father is a recovering alcoholic who relapsed a while back, but is reportedly sober now. What is the protocol on alcohol at the reception in this type of situation? Should we? Shouldn't we? If it matters at all, fiance and I are funding the entire event.

TIA

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · April 2010

I think if YOU or your FI were recently recovering alcoholics, that would be totally understandable. An honored guest... well, how does FFIL feel about it? Has he asked you? Does he think he'll be uncomfortable? I assume he's in recovery and has been to some kind of program, like AA? He's probably learned to deal with temptation. Even if there's no alcohol in his house, I assume he goes to restaurants where it would be easy to order a drink. But he doesn't. Keep in mind, he'll also be in a room with all of his family members, and the thought of drinking in front of them will probably be a big deterrent.

MairePoppy · April 2010

Your FFIL is responsible for his own sobriety. You should serve alcohol at your wedding if you wish. If you prefer a dry wedding, that is okay, too. But you don't have to make this decision based on your FFILs problem. It would probably be a good idea to let him know in advance, though, so he has a game plan in case he is tempted.

Ms Mery makes a good point that being at at a family event may provide an additional deterrent. But really, if the guy wants to drink, he will whether you serve alcohol, or not.

luckyme502 · April 2010

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[QUOTE]Your FFIL is responsible for his own sobriety. You should serve alcohol at your wedding if you wish. If you prefer a dry wedding, that is okay, too. But you don't have to make this decision based on your FFILs problem. It would probably be a good idea to let him know in advance, though, so he has a game plan in case he is tempted. Ms Mery makes a good point that being at at a family event may provide an additional deterrent. But really, if the guy wants to drink, he will whether you serve alcohol, or not.
Posted by MairePoppy[/QUOTE]

This. I'm sure most people know recovering alcoholics, even if they are unaware they do, and it doesn't stop most people from serving alcohol.

vgmartinez · April 2010

I would only make it a dry wedding if FI or myself were recovering.

Dollbaby357 · April 2010

I am not offering a bar at my wedding because the majority of the people at my wedding wouldn't use it anyway and it doesn't make since to pay for it for a select few. If they want a drink there is a bar available at the resort that is open where they can purchase drinks directly. Either way the bottom line is the preference is yours and you FI on whether to have a bar or not. We for went the bar but will have signature cocktails served during cocktail hour and the champagne toast, anything other than that is up to our guest.

beckster5551 · April 2010

I use to have a drinking problem and I'm having an open bar at my wedding. We are also paying for the wedding ourselves, over 300 guest. I would not expect my guest to not be able to drink just because I don't. I will have plenty of non-alcoholic drinks available also.

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