My BF and I have been dating for a few years and his brother and his new fiance got together around the same time. We are not engaged yet, but his brother recently proposed. My BF and I had our wedding date picked out about a year ago (and announced it) and I was so sad to find out that my future BIL and SIL chose a date that was 5 weeks before ours.
As our wedding is out of town, and many of the bridal party will be the same, naturally we are moving our date. Not only do I not want to compete, but I don't want my decor etc. to be compared to the wedding a month earlier. I don't want it to be hard on the family financially.
I joked about making our date a month before theirs, but I would never do that. Others suggested marrying on the special date and having the celebration etc. some other time.....still not sure how that would work.
What do the rest of you think? Do I not have privilege to the date because I'm not even engaged yet? How do I counteract this without being tacky? TIA