RSVPs :-(

udream05 · September 2012

We've gotten the majority of our RSVPs back. Just missing a few of which one or two I know are definitely coming and the other few I'm assuming they're not. I'll still follow up with them but at this point i know about how many peoplea are coming and sadly it's almost 1/2 of the people we invited have declined. I'm quite dissapointed. We weren't having a huge wedding anyways and invited as many as we wanted to come but now I'm wishing maybe there were other people we might've invited like letting my parents invite more people or his. But then I suppose if we invited way too many people the would've all said yes!! I guess the upside is we'll be saving money. Just a little sad that some people who I really wanted to be there won't be.

fjw2012 · September 2012

I'm having the same dilemma. We invited about 130 and 75 are coming so far. It sucks, but I kinda knew it was going to be that way since it's on a Friday night. Unfortunatley we do not get so save any money because our venue requires us to pay for at least 130 no matter how many attend, and we've already paid off everything else so we can't get any refunds.

I'm sorry you're going through this too. It's no fun

LoriMc12 · September 2012

It is disappointing to see several people decline that you wish were there. I have gotten a few declines that I have taken a little personally even when I know it is not. Just think of how much fun you will have regardless of who is there. And you're right, saving a little money doesn't hurt

chasemamabear · September 2012

so sorry you have so many declines

At least you have your replies though! my deadline is in 8 days and im still missing the replies from 22 people (out of 74 - including myself and the groom)!!!

I'm sure that the people who do come will enjoy every minute of your special day!

aro1589 · September 2012

I know it's hard not to be disappointed but just remember you will have a wonderful day no matter how many people come or don't come

NRod70 · September 2012

I also am having a smaller wedding...80 invited plus the 2 of us. I'm waiting on roughly have of the responses. I haven't had any declines yet and I almost wish I did!! We've run into a few snafu's along the way and now have some unexpected expenses. For example, FI was in an accident a few weeks ago and the car is still in the shop. Thank God he's ok, but we weren't expecting it or the $1000.00 deductible. Little things keep popping up. Ahhhh, such is life!!

achiduck · September 2012

It's definitely hard to get declines. There's a handful of people that I was REALLY hoping would be able to come that can't. They all told me why (I didn't ask) and their reasons are totally legit but it's still sad.

huskerfan246 · September 2012

I know what you mean about disappointment, we are at less than half right now, of course we haven't gotten all of ours back yet, but don't plan on receiving a whole lot more in the mail. What is really sad is that every single one of my FI's family from his dad's side have declined due to a family reunion that is the weekend before. Most of that family is within the state and don't want to drive 2 hours to our wedding.

marisolgarcia1 · September 2012

I feel almost everyone is coming. So far 139 are coming, 20 have declined and 80+ have not responded. we invited 243

RockstarWifey0912 · September 2012

We've gotten several declines that were surprising. It sucks but really, what can we do? I can't force people to come to our wedding... It just sucks that they don't want to or can't be there.

pzavecz · September 2012

I know how you feel. I am really disappointed in our friends and family right now. We have 62 out of our 159 people invited coming..13 declines. Still waiting on 80+ people. I'm guessing most of those people are declines. Pretty sure we're going to end up with only half of our guest list, which is incredibly disappointing. I'm glad to save the money but it still kinda sucks. It almost makes me feel like FI and I aren't important enough for these people to make it to our wedding. I know that's not the case for everyone but sometimes it feels like that ya know?

Oh well...no matter how many guests any of us get, I'm sure our wedding day will be the best days of our lives and we'll have fun no matter what. Just try to focus on that.

trawas01 · September 2012

We got a couple of truely unexpected no's. We live 600 miles from both our families and decided to have our wedding where we live so we expected some no's but a handful really stung. I know the feeling.

Ali092011 · September 2012

We also had a couple of people RSVP "no" that we were surprised to get. I am feeling very sensitive and emotional right now for some reason, and FI had to talk me out of taking them so personally. I'd NEVER ask someone for a reason why they aren't coming, but it hurt me a little bit that some of the people we're close to didn't offer any explanation, just declined.

nitecheese · September 2012

I know the feeling. I am 600+ miles from my family and a lot of my friends from high school and college. I'm waiting on a lot of them, which makes me sad. I know one of my best friends from HS won't be there, but she just gave birth to an adorable baby boy, so I totally understand why. However, I will still miss her. My best friend from college is still up in the air, but she left me a really nice voicemail yesterday about her situation. She lives in L.A., but is back East taking care of her mom, who has cancer. If her stay back east is extend, she'll b there. If not, the airfare to too expensive.

what surprised me most was the responses from my FIs extended family in Michigan. A lot of them are RSVPing "no". It is a 4 hour drive, but it is on a Saturday evening and we blocked hotel rooms at a number of price points. I'm hoping he isn't too disappointed. If he is, he hasn't said anything yet.

reagane02 · September 2012

It does suck. We've actually gotten all of ours back and we are at 53 yeses out of 115. I'm still a bit stung from the fact that the ONLY person from my dad's side of the family coming is my dad. But I've come to the realization that the day is still going to be awesome and those who make the effort to come are the ones that I really want there anyways.

AEPerpete · September 2012

I have gotten mostly yes's so far, but our rsvp date is fast approaching, so for those people we have not heard from, I am wondering if they will mostly be no's.The reasons so far are pretty legit, so I haven't had any hurt feelings yet...

udream05 · September 2012

Thank you everyone for the pep talk. I'm just glad at this point we didn't book the place with the F&B minimum.. we'd be paying out the ***. And I know the day will still be fabulous!! and those people are just missing out on all the fabulousness!!

danielle102304 · September 2012

I know how you feel! We invited family and friends but decided to leave out our co-workers bc there just would have been to many of them. We invited about 75 people and with only a week to go till the rsvps have to be back only 38 have sent them back and all 38 are going. Its said though bc we are already having a small wedding then to have half not go is a little sad!

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