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MissFoto · March 2010

Thanks ladies!
Have a nice day

gottahavashorti · March 2010

WP duties are to purchase the requested attire as long as it is within budget and there are no major concerns with fit, show up clean and sober in the attire, walk down the aisle, stand quietly for the ceremony and smile for pictures. Anything else is above and beyond.

If by doing her work, you mean you're planning her wedding, there's an issue. If you mean you're planning your bachelorette party or shower, there's an issue. If you mean you are planning your wedding yourself, that's what you should be doing anyway. Can you clarify?

And to answer your question, forget about WP duties in purchasing her gift and spend what you choose to spend, don't punish her for not fulfill ing her 'duties.'

MyNameIsNot · March 2010

You mean, by doing her work, you are going to her job and doing that? Or you are going to her house and doing the laundry and dishes? That's the only way this would make any sense. Your wedding is yours to plan. Expecting her to do it or have tasks to do it would be no less ridiculous than expecting her to come over to your house and do your housework. She is not your unpaid labor.

Trying to "punish" her by giving her a lesser gift is petty and childish.

emilykathleen511 · March 2010

I don't think that is her siggy. She was just signing her post that way for us...not sure what being a photographer has to do with the question though...?

MissFoto · March 2010

Thanks for you replies...

Just to make things a bit clear...
My english isn't all that good... so some of the things I said might not have been very clear, and I'm sorry about that.
Also, yes I am a photographer, but before saying anything about self promoting... I don't do wedding photography - I do medical and scientific stuff.

Thanks again, and sorry about all of the confusion...

CTGirl30 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_moh-not-collaborative?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:6f98a5d6-ec6f-41a0-88be-5a6bde1ccf83Post:aa70ce05-8b21-4e03-89fc-ec992722a838">Re: MOH not too collaborative...</a>:
[QUOTE]Thanks for you replies... Just to make things a bit clear... My english isn't all that good... so some of the things I said might not have been very clear, and I'm sorry about that. Also, yes I am a photographer, but before saying anything about self promoting... I don't do wedding photography - I do medical and scientific stuff. Thanks again, and sorry about all of the confusion...
Posted by MissFoto[/QUOTE]

Why did you erase your original post above? It has already been quoted so it's not like this takes it back and no one will ever know what you asked about...

I didn't read your question with any indication that your English isn't that good - you were telling us that you felt like your MOH didn't do her "job" to the extent you would have preferred and it apparently led you to wonder if you should spend less on her present as a result of that - instead of buying her a slightly more expensive gift you were wondering if you should just buy MOH and BM the same priced item...making it look like you didn't want to "reward" her for not doing the amount of "work" you expected a MOH to be doing.

Just buy both girls a thoughtful present as a thank you for being your FRIENDS and don't try to turn the gift giving into a statement about who did more or less.

Thanks!

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